Ok the whole story and aftermath. I'm in Australia as many of you know, so experiences may differ on which pond you live by.
I went to a regular Beauty shop, does tanning, nails, piercings, etc. I was in male clothes. Went to the counter and said do you do ear piercings? Yes how many? Studs or rings. I chose studs. sit down I'll just make a mark on your ear, that OK, Yes, Rinsed with a sterile swab click, click of a piercing gun. Done. $20 for the studs and a bottle of wash. Rotate them regularly and wash with the wash; leave in for 6 weeks, Bye.
No pain felt good, no one looked twice
All of the information WAS WRONG.
Rotating the studs I released them from the keepers. I managed to get the right back on, I had to push the left back through the ear and put a new sleeper on, it was a bit ouchie. Of course this in a car park at another place, after a gym workout: dirty hands, sweaty etc etc. GULP.
The left ear lobe became infected, red and swollen, but no pain. I went to my medic (who knows me very well). They look good, he said. BUT DON'T TOUCH THEM, I REALLY MEAN DON'T TOUCH THEM. I think he didn't want me to touch them.
As an aside, I'm an immunologist, I understand allergic reactions. I know what I'm allergic too. If you are allergic to nickel, or to any metal think carefully about what you are doing and get a professional medical opinion.
I'm on a course of antibiotics. The stud in the left ear has gone into the inflammed skin, I hope it comes out when the inflammation goes down. I'm washing them with piercing wash and hydrogen peroxide every few hours. I can push the right stud out but it gets 'swallowed', I'll just have to be a good girl and see what happens.
But I think the advice I got from the beauticians was totally wrong and I was naive in listening to something I would normally have ignored if I had followed my own opinion.
So may I suggest. DON'T TOUCH, use sterile swabs etc to touch piercings and don't bother rotating it will not do any good. This is of course just my opinion.
I'm glad I didn't have a PA Nicky, I'd be walking around with bow legs saying, it's nothing just a local swelling

But anyway. I totally love them. I cannot wait to wear other rings. It has increased my confidence heaps. Even walking around in guygear I feel happier. And I'm not sure but the salesgirls seem to be more chatty, or maybe it's just me.
Hugs to all, and just be careful and remember hygiene.
Cindy: the infected one