I'm moving out, I found two places I'm going to go check out today after work. And I'm still looking at more. When I do all the strings and ties to my family, will be cut. The only one I will have any contact with will be my 18 year old sister, who will be moving out in about half a year to live with her boyfriend.

After the event last Tuesday, I have lost all forms of respect and care for my family EXPECT for my sister, the only other to suffer that night. To make a long story short, my father hit both my sister and I. She got thrown on the couch and hit twice, I got thrown on the chair and punched four times in the mouth for trying to defend her. So ya I am done, finished, I don't care, I truly wish death upon him. I have always been the one on the end of hit physical abuse, so when he hit my sister like that. Game Over

I'm sorry to hear of your troubles Carolyn..

I cannot understand how any parent could resort to such violence with their family..

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If I can't break the cycle, I'll be just another victim of fate, another lost face.
I'm just at my wits end, with no where to run and no where left to hide, but I don't have the energy to fight...

It seems to me that you have found the strength you were looking for....Way to go Girl !

I really hope that this move will be good for you, and that you can continue to break "the circle"..




Chrissty

I am so sorry you are experiencing abuse. I hope you can get away from it soon. I would call the cops myself but that is me.

btw, I love your signature line. Amazing!

I'm sorry to hear about your situation but you are probably doing the right thing.  Abusers need people to abuse.  Take that away and end the abuse.  Your father is the one who will suffer the real losses.  How sad he can't understand that.

Hope you and your sister are okay and that you find the right place to live.

Julie

Unfortunately I can identify all too well with what you're going through right now, the same thing happened to me constantly until I was able to fight back. You are doing the right thing getting yourself out of that situation. I'm glad you have some options and I hope everything works out for you.

I'm happy that you're able to get out of the situation. Not to make this thread seem like a broken record, but calling the cops may have been the right thing to do.  But I can understand the reluctance to do so in your situation. In any case, I wish you great luck! I hope to hear from ya soon! 

Why did he hit her? (I'll have a look at your other topics if you posted it already)

I grew up in a violent household. My dad is bipolar and would sometimes snap and become irrational and violent. These days I don't blame him, I blame it on the mental illness. We have a good relationship now (plus he has better drugs and perhaps age has learnt to manage his illness better). I got hit once for giggling with my sister, there was no rational to it.

But you should not have to live in such and enviroment blame or not. Nobody deserves to be hit. I am glad you and your sister are getting out soon.

I'm happy for you Carolyn, it's been a long time coming. Now you will really be able to grow.

Quote from: Nicky on October 12, 2009, 08:26:25 PM
Why did he hit her?

Because she was getting loud, we were having a disagreement that was getting a bit loud, so she was getting loud and ask my father and I to cease and got hit for it.

Thank you all for your words, and yes I did want to file a police report on him, but I was unable to do so (mom). He is a former Drunk and Drug Abuser, so yea I blame him, not to mention the fact that he wasn't around when I was growing up. But again thanks everyone for your support

You need to go to the cops or your local domestic abuse unit of your police, court, whatever.

Keep in mind with you gone your sister will be taking ALL the punches in the mouth.

Child Protective Services may also be good, although she's 18, some things extend to kids up to 24, especially if still living at home.

Remember also that your creep dad could pursue you, and come after your sister if she leaves - you need to get the law in on this, he is a terrorist and a bully, and not afraid to beat girls up, let him try it with the men in blue. 

So sorry to hear about the abuse Carolyn

I will sound like a broken record, cowards like this need to be prosecuted. I presume your Mum gets beaten as well. Drink and drugs are no excuse. This may be sexist, so be it, but my concept of a real man, (no matter what sex they may be) is one who protects and cares for his partner and children.

I hope you, your sister and your Mum find saftey and care

Hugs

Cindy

actually I was the only one ever beaten one physically, however both my mother and sister as well as my brother  get the mental abuse as well. But I'm moved out now and my sister will be moved out soon to so yea. Bye bye to my father