Today I am 7 months RLE.  I went into a store and they said: "Welcome, ma'am." 

It certainly pleases me to be called ma'am, but it still surprises me a little.  I live in a place that doesn't use a lot of ma'ams and sirs, so I only hear it about once a week.

How long before you weren't a little surprised when someone called you "ma'am"?  (Or, for FTM, "sir"?)

- Kate

I still get chuckles when I am called "Ma am".  I have not been called "Sir" in a long time.



Janet

I've been out over a year, and quickly approaching my year date on T. It still gets me every time. Somehow, I feel like it will always be a pleasant surprise.   

I'm interested in the replies to this question. I don't think it's ever going to get old, at least I hope not. I really enjoy the validation and the reminder that this isn't all some wonderfully screwed up masochistic dream. It's a relatively new and hit or miss experience at the moment though so who knows.

Well Happy Anniversary Sir.  And I love the pink tie.  Very Sopranos looking.



Janet

I'll have been full time for over two and a half years, and I still get a smile when I am maam'd.

I hope I never lose that satisfaction.

-Sandy

Well, it's 2 weeks tomorrow and I get the warm fuzzies whenever I hear it but I'm no longer exactly "surprised" when I do. I've kind of concluded that people will do it reflexively. If they use such a term at all.

I had one lady at a yard sale say ma'am and then try to correct herself to "sir" and I assured her with a smile that she had it right the first time and ma'am was preferred.

But yeah, surprise or no - it feels REALLY nice.

free silk ties? i'll take em!

I started being read consistently only a few months ago, in early July. So it's still new and sometimes strange to hear "sir" and "he."

On the odd occasion that an old acquaintance slips up and calls me "she," though, it is MUCH more startling.

I'm not surprised when family and friends call me "he". However the 1 time I passed to a stranger, (a woman working at Starbucks) I was so surprised I forgot what I was ordering for a second. 

Quote from: Matilda on November 22, 2009, 10:50:13 AM
Hmmm....I'm still called Miss 

lol, show off   

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I have to admit that at the beginning of my transition (especially during the first year), it was a huge ego boost, of course.

Thank you so much for that, I know it prolly sounds sadistic but it's comforting to hear things like that.

It took me quite awhile to get use to it actually and I still get kinda surprised by it from time to time

It always makes me feel good to hear it though

It's amazing how cisgendered people take the little normalities of life for granted...the people who give us our "he"s and "she"s don't know just how happy/sad they make us by those little words.

I still love being called "he", but then it's a rarity still. It feels awkward sometimes being called "she" all the time and then my friends/girlfriend using correct male pronouns, like I'm still breaking out of a bad habit of instinctively answering to "she".

The validation keeps me going, and shows that this can and will be a reality for me...that no matter how many times I look in the mirror with dismay as I see a feminine person I'm reminded with luck, perseverance and the god-given hormone of T, one day I'll be a real boy inside and out, just like Pinocchio. 

Well, I spent the better part of a year sliding toward full-time, and I've been there for a few months, though I was nearly there for several months before. The week before I started presenting female at church, I went out with a chuch friend for lunch, and was startled when the waiter called me "sir." I was dressed as a guy, but it was really jarring.

I still notice when people call me "ma'am" or (less often) "miss," but not as much.

I hate to start a new thread for this but I have to tell it SOME where!

I was just at the dentist getting a busted tooth pulled and the assistant there was a DOLL!

she teased me about the name and said i should have ask her for advice, she asked about the transition and what my plans were...even at one point asking what i was going to do when a guy hit on me...we talked make-up and epilators and....it was GIRL TALK!!!

I was in such heaven!

How I wish that would happen more often. both being comfortable enough to ask about the reality of my transition and, at the same time, to talk to me like any other GG about the stuff girls talk about.

How often does someone come out of the dentist's office with a big grin?

When she is just coming into full time and has girl talk with the receptionist. 

Good day, I would say Laura.



Janet

Even with discernable facial hair now, I still get called "ma'am" more often than not around here.  Only time that hasn't happened so far was in Philadelphia a few weeks ago.  So needless to say, getting called "sir" in Ann Arbor would still surprise me.

But getting called "ma'am" now enrages me.  Not only is there an obvious mark that I'm not, but in all honesty, I've never been old enough to be "ma'am", and so that alone just baffles me, cos not only am i under thirty, nobody believes I'm older than twenty-five.  There are several reasons I've never been "ma'am".

I have been transitioning for just over 18 months (from T date) and I still get surprised and I have been passing properly for the last 5/6 months..

Its not that I am surprised I just notice it, I don't really know how to discribe it...

But its awesome

Jay

I was at a Thanksgiving gathering yesterday. All gay men. After dinner, the host said, "Gentlemen, shall we clear the table?"

Gentlemen. It felt kinda weird to hear it, but it did make me smile.

I look forward to the day that "sir" and "he" and even "gentleman/men" seem completely natural and right to my ears. Give me another year, maybe.

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Quote from: YoungSoulRebel on November 24, 2009, 03:50:13 AM
Even with discernable facial hair now, I still get called "ma'am" more often than not around here. 

That happens to a friend of mine. I don't get it; people must think he's a very hairy lesbian. It must be maddening, but some people just take longer to masculinize than others.

But the ma'am thing, instead of miss, is a bit of a mystery to me.