i dont know about anyone else...but i did a "stint" in the lesbian community an i still have several lesbian friends and im an entertainer to boot...but i was wondering...do any of you find yourselves getting "mam, she, her etc" when you are out and about with your lesbian friends? 

i do, and i never know how to quite deal with this...it's annoying...but at the same time, i feel like i have it coming....

Lack of lesbian friends but about 1/3 the time I get ma'am and 2/3 sir. That is from just going about my normal day.

I think you're more likely to be read as a butchy female if that's what the faces around you look like. The differences become less obvious when there's people near you who already blurr the lines.

During the Michigan Womyn's Music Festival, there are thousands of (presumed) lesbians wandering the streets and frequenting the restaurants of the town of Hart, Michigan. There is also a sprinkling of campers from Camp Trans. Anybody who doesn't actually look like Hulk Hogan gets addressed as "ma'am".

Yeah my lesbian friends (the community I also came from) do have a hard time with pronouns, and call me girlfriend all the time. At this point it's only a few friends and they then correct themselves once they realize what they have done. I think they are just so in touch with the female community which I was a part of.
Andrew

Hmm can't say as I don't have any lesbian friends.  I get the she/her/ma'am thing everyday no matter what still >.<

  I hate being ma'md.. I found even out with the girls, having facial hair has helped. I still get the pause, but not a ma'm since.

i used to get read as female more when i was with queer appearing people.  im not unambiguous enough any more to cause much confusion.  (a nice "excuse me?" in my tay zonday voice solves the problem) i just get funny looks when i tell people im not a man. >_<  hahahaha

I've had that a few times when I was in lesbian spaces and there were alot of butch women around >_< didn't care so much, it was just something I didn't expect cause I'd gotten used to being read as male.