Hello, my name is Amabelle and have been full time just short of 3 years. Currently, my quandry is to find out why I ended up exchaging one closet riddled with denial for yet another preferring to move through the world in stealth. This is where my current crossroad lie, and while living stealth has afforded me the opportunity to restrart my former career with little problem, it still leaves me feeling guilty as if i turned my back on both the community and full acceptance of being transsexual.

at the point your at hun do what makes you feel comfortable if its living in stealth then so be it. its not my path but it is for many. Go forth guilt free. As for me i intend to take to the streets to further our cause too many die trying to be accepted too many die without ever transitioning do to ridiculous costs and hurdles that need to be jumped. my path is not your path your path is not mine. Stealth is a topic that causes a lot of hurt feelings and anger when it should be a serious topic. it is what it is.
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jessica

hi Amabelle and welcome to the forum! I don't know anything about going stealth but I do know about guilt - it's a fruitless emotion. Let go of the guilt and allow yourself to live your life - if you would like to change things, do so, if not it's your decision no one elses.

Hi Amabelle,

Welcome to our little family. Over 3700 strong. That would be one heck of a family reunion.

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Each of us makes the decision to go stealth or not.  And like Jesse said that is much debate here and hurt feelings on both sides.  If stealth is your path, then fair winds and calm seas.

I am like Jesse and not stealth.  If I get SRS, I may change my mind.  But for now it works for me.

Blessed Be.
Janet

Welcome to Susan's, Amabelle.

Gennee

Hi Anabelle
Very pretty name. Being a transwoman to me, is not the dressing up (I like that) but it's being comfortable in your own skin. Feeling like a complete person.
Sarah

Hi Annabelle,
Like SarahF, I find that I am finally able to just be myself.  Many people in the town where I live know that I used to present as a male, but when I go to other towns I am always treated as a woman.  I love that.  I am beginning to see how seductive being stealth would be, but I think that I will continue to just be myself - a woman with an unusual past.  I don't try to hide that am transsexual, but I see no reason to tell everyone either.

For me, life is about attaining some kind of balance - being happy with yourself, understanding your faults and strengths, doing what you think is right, and all the rest.  It sounds like you are working on that.  Good for you, dear.

- Kate