Why do we act like a dysfunctional family?  Especially among us women?  The guys never seem to go at each other, like we do.  Is it because we are headstrong opinionated women, or it it something more?

Pre-ops vs. Post-ops.   Old vs. Young.  I am very hurt by the attitudes we seem to have towards our fellows.  Are we being catty because we can, finally?  Or it is because we feel we must?

Interalia mentioned about drawing a line in the sand.  I am sorry, Hon, but I don't remember where you said it.  But we need, each of us to draw a in the sand and say 'I will not stand for any more division'.

I have nothing against any younger transitioner, but envy.  I wish I had done it so long ago.  You don't have to face the BS I and many of my older sisters did.  Please remember that I am just now coming into my own womanhood.  I am doing things that I wish I had done a long time ago.  May you live long as the women you are.

To the post-ops.  I don't hate you ether.  I envy you also.  You are finally were you should have been in the beginning.  I am trying my best to fix the birth defects that I was cursed with.  Many of us are.  Please remember that we are all in a position that allows us to deal with our situation as best we can.  Don't hate us because we have chosen to go at our own best pace.  If we decide that we just can't see a way to go forward with SRS, don't put us 'in our place' because of it.  We are trying.   And who knows the one that you put down may have been looking up to you, and you just crushed her dreams.

To my sisters that I look up to.  You never wanted to be in that position, but you are.  Live with it, you are my big sister regardless of age.    Any like any little sister, you are the one I look to for guidance.

To my younger sisters.   You may look up to me.  Many have told me so.  I am not worthy of your admiration.  But like my older sisters, I have to set a standard for you to follow.

To my brothers.  Where the heck were you when your sister needed you.  I love all of you.

To my friends, I am sorry that my recent actions have let you down.   I apologize.  Please forgive this old broad.

Lastly but not least.  Naturally Blond. Please forgive my actions of late.  I have no excuse.  Let us be sisters as we need to be.

My line is drawn in the sand.


My love to all,
Janet

I believe in the summer of 08 there was some bickering going around amongst the FTMs on this board, but I agree. Sometimes I see too many fights here, too many frustrated people. And maybe that's just it, maybe we're all just a little too frustrated that we let it loose in one of the only places we can talk about it.

QuoteWhy do we act like a dysfunctional family?

The whole human race is a dysfunctional family.

Division is  human nature. People usually tend to highlight the differences, and miss what they may share in common. It happens everywhere, even when it seems like splitting hairs - the flyfisher  meeting someone on the river fishing with bait "oh my, your using a worm. Well, your not a real fisherman now are you?"

Just kinda the way things are....

hugs

Well said, Janet. One thing is for sure. We are all we have got. Who else will accept us?

Maggie

There are more women than men here. So there will be more threads of interest to the women that devolve into bickering, and they will be more heavily subscribed. And when the men get into arguments, you probably won't pay as much attention, since it doesn't involve you.

You might send NB a PM if you feel you need to apologize.

Janet,
There are many on this forum I look up to.  Some are much younger than me, but they have learned what I still don't know and are willing to share that knowledge.  Others are willing to point out when I'm off track.  And I especially love the guys who are going through the exact same thing I am, but in the opposite direction.  That to me means that we are indeed all the same despite our differences.

You are one of the people who is special to me.  You helped me get where I am now – your sister.  I hope that I can give you support when you need it just as you so freely gave it to me when I needed it.  You have helped make me strong enough for that.  Thank you.

Yes, I hate the divisiveness, but I've seen it in other communities.  Sometimes we fall into the trap of trying to make ourselves feel better, and sometimes it is lack of understanding.  And sometimes it's just poor communication, trying to make ourselves understood through written words and smiley-faces.

Hang in there, dear.  We come from diverse backgrounds and have different situations.  Sometimes it's hard for each of us to remember that.  But we can help each other and learn from each other.  There have been plenty of times I've said to myself: That's enough!  But I come back because I still need help and I hope to be able to help others.  And I would miss my friends here – like you.

*hugs, sis*
Kate

I was going to reply but then decided what the hell, hugs are better than words

{{{hugs}}

Life's too short Janet!

Hang in there

(Gives cyber hug) 

I just want YOU Janet to know...That yes...I'm one of the younger trans who look up to you...Don't let me down! 

Haha! Just joshing you, everyone is HUMAN and makes HUMAN MISTAKES. All of us just need to understand that fact and cremate that ideal into our brains...And even more into our hearts.

I dunno what's going on, but you know you can PM if you need to talk.  I check my email every day & when somebody PM's, I get a message telling me that I've received a PM.  You can also email me personally.  My email is on my profile.

Be well please.

it takes a brave girl to say she is sorry, Though Lordy, I'm not sure what your sorry for.  We all put our foot in mouth sometimes.  It's part of being human. 

We are all the same and yet different too.  Being TG/TS is what we have in common. There is no one way to transition or even to transition.  It's NOT easy to transition young or old.

Oh and Janet, Just want to say that I too am one of the younger transitioners that look up to you.  Hey I am after all, like maybe a year younger....JK BTW (Evil grin).  all kidding aside, you dear janet have come along way too.  hugs Girl.

Keep the faith

Beni

Sorry to hear all this went on.  I wasnt aware of it.  I tend to not get into offensive mode unless im being overtly picked on or something.  Everyone has a right to their own opinions, but it is something quite dif to put it on to ppl who do not have the same beliefs. 

Life would be far too dull without dysfunctions, problems, and bickering :p

With that being said of course, it takes two people to start it :]