Hey guys,

Do you think packing makes a difference to other people? I don't pack, but now that I am just starting to pass I'm wondering if people check there for confirmation or what. Do women check there? The last thing I want is for people to think I'm hung when there's actually nothing to hang but I don't want to out myself either. But I'd feel really weird packing. It's just not my thing.

Not really, unless you wear skinny jeans it work make much of a difference. I personally don't pack because I don't see a point since noone really looks there and I wear baggy pants.. Id pack an stp for public use though

It's there for me, not 'generic you'.

Unless you're running around in your superhero tights, I don't think anyone's going to be looking for something down there.  Personally, the only time I've noticed something on a man was when it was incredibly obvious; so more than likely, the same would go for you as well.  I don't think you really have to worry.  As has been said, pack because you like it, or don't do it at all.

I don't pack and no one has noticed.  I really don't think that people look, but even if they did, as long as you wear somewhat loose jeans they aren't gonna think anything weird if they can't see your package.  The only times I've really noticed a dude's junk they were wearing really tight pants, which imo, doesn't look that good anyway haha.

Hi. I'm MTF but when I tuck, my pants fit better/different than if I don't. The difference is subtle but real none the less. Yes, I do think people look and it makes a difference.

Randi

I don't think packing really makes any difference. I only pack if I'm going out to a club or something, just incase someone makes a grab for that area, which is highly unlikely but I pack anyway. In that case it would be more for the feel of it than for the look of it.
Normally I'm just in jeans though so being un-packed doesn't make much of a difference. If I was wearing dress pants then I'd probably be more likely to pack since the material is thinner.

I don't bother usually. One of the few times I did pack was going out with a friend to a gay bar and he didn't notice a difference (and he's a compulsive crotch-scanner). If I'm wearing something really tight I do, but otherwise, meh.

Dennis

Quote from: Randi on January 07, 2010, 03:55:26 PM
Hi. I'm MTF but when I tuck, my pants fit better/different than if I don't. The difference is subtle but real none the less. Yes, I do think people look and it makes a difference.

Randi

But if you are MTF you are probably wearing womens jeans right?  Women tend to wear much tighter jeans so it would be more noticeable in your case.  Correct me if I'm just making a dumb assumption tho

I pack for me.  *I* need it.  I don't care if others look or not.


Jay

When i pack i feel a lot more confident so although it probably doesn't help me pass in the looks sense it definitely helps me pass in personality

I pack. When I do I see that it makes a difference. I feel different. It really is more of a personal choice though. Not too many people are going to take notice of your lack of buldge. If anything they'll feel sorry if they notice and not immediately think, "Oh my lord, it's a woman!" 

I like packing but as said for me - no one else. I like that when I sit or stand my croch doesn't cave in and there's a nice bulge there. Just my preference. I think sometimes it might help those who are not sure call me 'he' but not as much as my voice, mannerisms etc. It is a confidence booster for me as well. But I have two dilemas that prevent me from packing all the time. One is I need to get a more effective harness - I am paranoid my dick is moving too much and I'll stand up and it will look like I have wood or worse no longer be in my pants! Which would cause me instant death and I'd probably never pass again wherever I was lol! And two starting T actually caused me some 'discomfort' to the area and I am unwilling to walk around 'excited' all day long!
But do I think people walk past me in the street staring at my crotch - no, its more about the WHOLE package (not the little one) making the man.
Jay

Quote from: jaydle83 on January 07, 2010, 06:26:44 PMI like that when I sit or stand my croch doesn't cave in and there's a nice bulge there.

Me too.  I always pack when I'm out in public, mostly for convenience (urinals).  At home it's about 50/50; I try not to sleep with a packy, just because I don't want it to fall apart that much sooner.  And honestly, I just like the feel/look of having something there.

I haven't had my packer for long.  When i do use it, its usually for my own.. uh.. satisfaction lol.  I don't always pass, so I feel a little nervous about packing because I don't want to look like a chick with a dick. Plus the packer is uncomfortable to me, and it moves around too much, even with a harness. Sometimes I'm tempted to glue it on.

BUt to answer your question.  I don't know if you are gay, but I am and I tend to look at guys crotches, and FOR THE MOST PART I can never see their bulge, but it doesn't make me think they aren't a guy, it just makes me think that they are a grower rather then a sho-wer.

It makes no difference. There are many, MANY men who even when wearing tight jeans or even spandex, will not have any bulge in their crotch.

I think it would make more of a difference if it was the kind of thing you had to do for your own sanity or psychological gratification. Just like when I wear my binder. I can hide my chest pretty well without it if I've got some layers on, but it makes me more confident and comfortable.

Or if you're in a group of crotch-lookers.

Not for me. I don't pack because I'm incredibly lazy and too poor/cheap/lazy to buy a glue-on packer. I keep meaning to, and it keeps not happening due to the "I'm lazy and it's not right there for me to buy, so it's too difficult" factor. I used to pack back when I was in the is-that-a-boy-or-a-girl stage, because I thought it was important for passing. If it was then, it damn sure isn't when you get past that stage - for FTMS, anyway. As I recall from my own days wearing female skinny jeans, MTFs wearing skinny jeans (aka almost all female jeans in comparison to men's) have a bit more need for tucking. The crotch-pinching factor is a little more so there.     

Perhaps if you interact very frequently with a number of gay men who are shameless about pointing out the size of other men's bulges. But if your demographic is majority anything else, and providing you don't wear skinny jeans, I've personally found it doesn't affect passing negatively.

Quote from: Chamillion on January 07, 2010, 04:59:48 PM
But if you are MTF you are probably wearing womens jeans right?  Women tend to wear much tighter jeans so it would be more noticeable in your case.  Correct me if I'm just making a dumb assumption tho

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I'll have to agree with you Chamellion.  Tucking isn't optional with the tighter jeans.  Packing though, I think you can choose to go either way, and it won't matter that much (provided you're not wearing pants that leave nothing to the imagination.  Looser is better.).  I certainly don't think you need to pack in order to pass. 
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Honestly...most guys avoid standing next to others at the urinal...you really don't have to worry about them staring at your crotch...and if they do happen to, they aren't going to say anything.  I've never heard a guy comment on the lack of a bulge in another man's pants.   Generally if there are comments, it's about the opposite end of the spectrum...too much of a bulge (most often in the embarassing sense, not in the 'hung' sense.)
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Women (or gay men) would probably be more apt to notice, but again...as long as you leave enough looseness in the fabric, no one will be able to tell.  The male anatomy changes quite a bit in size depending on temperature/situation.  I don't think it's something people will notice unless you purposely draw attention to it by wearing a leotard a speedo or too-tight pants.

Sometimes I notice, but I'm looking *wink*.  When I do notice though, it's only because it's an obvious bulge.

In all reality though, it isn't going to make any difference.


When I was growing up, mostly in high school and very early in college (before I was out) I used to tuck for my own sanity.  Nobody ever seemed to notice.