I just wonder why

It's a support site. It makes people feel better to get these things out.

Quote from: SilverFang on January 10, 2010, 08:31:10 PM
It's a support site. It makes people feel better to get these things out.

Word. 

I'm pretty sure that the answers people give is almost always relevent to the persons topic, regardless of whether or not the story has been posted previously. Sometimes it's good to tell your own story as it shows that we share universal experiences.

And many time the new ones need to know that we have all done there, done that.

To show that they are not alone.

Janet

Quote from: Greg on January 10, 2010, 08:44:36 PM
I'm pretty sure that the answers people give is almost always relevent to the persons topic, regardless of whether or not the story has been posted previously. Sometimes it's good to tell your own story as it shows that we share universal experiences.

This too.  I find it's a way of grounding the experience and helping relate to other people.  Give an example of situations I've personally been through in the hopes that it might help them with their own.

People like to talk about themselves, just in general.  I don't think that is just a transgendered phenomenon.

If it does seem to be more prevalent here, it may be because dealing with these types of issues is an introspective process and people tend to be pretty focused on themselves while they figure things out.  Also, the related experiences of others is more welcome here than other places because it can be really helpful to hear how people have coped and which processes worked, etc.

Also, we're all major narcissists =P.

I am a major narcissist and I love to talk about myself. In fact, I can see Russia from my house

Quote from: xsocialworker on January 10, 2010, 08:54:06 PM
I am a major narcissist and I love to talk about myself. In fact, I can see Russia from my house

Quote from: SilverFang on January 10, 2010, 08:31:10 PM
It's a support site. It makes people feel better to get these things out.

Yepper Pepper.

Quote from: SilverFang on January 10, 2010, 08:31:10 PM
It's a support site. It makes people feel better to get these things out.

Another vote here

But in regards to narcissism, I've notice that since I started HRT my panties seem a bit tighter and I'm worried that my butt might look big in these jeans and I keep looking to see if I can see Russia from my house and if my boobs are big enough yet and if I can consider my body to be mine or if it is a body that I took over and I painted my toenails and I'm sure they are prettier than everyone else' and (pant pant, catches breath) and........

i could give examples but it wouldn't be fair to the posters so just trust me..you all know what i mean...  i'm not talking about someone posting looking for support..i'm talking about repliers who reply to answer a post and then either conciously or unconciously start to talk about their own problems, issues, etc... they very commonly move into their life story in what seems to be a self-affirming need to state how and why they are...and almost always, especially with the more transitioned or arrived iMtFs an underlying inference of i'm more real or female, attached to this...now i'm am not looking to attack, be mean or make anyone uncomfortable...i just wonder why and want to understand the drivers.....why do some need to do this...what is it about...

Quote from: Virginia Marie on January 10, 2010, 09:45:43 PMBut in regards to narcissism, I've notice that since I started HRT my panties seem a bit tighter and I'm worried that my butt might look big in these jeans and I keep looking to see if I can see Russia from my house and if my boobs are big enough yet and if I can consider my body to be mine or if it is a body that I took over and I painted my toenails and I'm sure they are prettier than everyone else' and (pant pant, catches breath) and........

You too?

Probably because a lot of the opening posters questions or comments reminds us of where we were and where we are now.  It sparks our emotions. 

Quote from: lauren3332 on January 10, 2010, 10:30:05 PM
Probably because a lot of the opening posters questions or comments reminds us of where we were and where we are now.  It sparks our emotions.

That sums it up very well.

Quote from: legion on January 10, 2010, 10:07:02 PM
i could give examples but it wouldn't be fair to the posters so just trust me..you all know what i mean...  i'm not talking about someone posting looking for support..i'm talking about repliers who reply to answer a post and then either conciously or unconciously start to talk about their own problems, issues, etc... they very commonly move into their life story in what seems to be a self-affirming need to state how and why they are...and almost always, especially with the more transitioned or arrived iMtFs an underlying inference of i'm more real or female, attached to this...now i'm am not looking to attack, be mean or make anyone uncomfortable...i just wonder why and want to understand the drivers.....why do some need to do this...what is it about...

Looking through some of your previous posts, it seems that you also have related experiences of your past when responding to a thread.

I, for one, will knowingly respond with my own experiences if someone is looking for an opinion or seeking answers.  Depending on the nature of the response, I may relate a synopsis of my experience, or point them to an entry in my blog, "Sandy's Transition".

I do not do it for any need of affirmation.  I already know who I am.  But there are others who are questioning their journey or are seeking to find out if they are in fact horrible people.  When others relate that they also have had the same feelings that these seekers do, it can provide comfort.

When I first started on my journey, I sought out the experiences of others to help answer my questions about myself.  I am now paying it forward.


-Sandy

Okay, I was kidding around a bit. But I somewhat understand what you mean

But most folks don't have much else to go on but their own personal experiences and there's nothing wrong with that

But sometimes I wonder if they are replying to a thread or writing an autobiography or some other literary composition

What ever the case, folks are just expressing themselves in the best way they can

I tend to use minimal posts and my somewhat odd humor. Other times I'm very serious

I want to be the perfect woman!!!!!!!!!!! I want Michelle Bachmann's hair, Gretchen Carlson's legs, and Glenn Beck's tear ducts. And Lindsay Graham's name

Quote from: legion on January 10, 2010, 08:23:38 PM
I just wonder why nearly everyone who posts here has a need to continually tell, and re-tell their life stories.....i notice how often it takes over a post they are answering on one subject and then ends up being focused soley on the answerer's story about themselves... every one does it from new born to deep stealth... the main group affected however, seems to be MtF and have been transitioned for a few years and upwards... i wonder why that is.....

Quote from: legion on January 10, 2010, 10:07:02 PM
i could give examples but it wouldn't be fair to the posters so just trust me..you all know what i mean...  i'm not talking about someone posting looking for support..i'm talking about repliers who reply to answer a post and then either conciously or unconciously start to talk about their own problems, issues, etc... they very commonly move into their life story in what seems to be a self-affirming need to state how and why they are...and almost always, especially with the more transitioned or arrived iMtFs an underlying inference of i'm more real or female, attached to this...now i'm am not looking to attack, be mean or make anyone uncomfortable...i just wonder why and want to understand the drivers.....why do some need to do this...what is it about...

Why?  for the same reason that we respond to silly, trollish posts.

Hey hang on... are you calling me a troll ?

...but putting "thems fighting words" aside for a moment i noticed what i asked touched a few nerves..why would that be...