should i go to a gender therapist? or is a regular psychiatrist okay?

Go talk to someone with the experience and knowledge of transgender issues.  My therapist is well known in the area and also has the referral's to a great endo!!!!! I wish you all the luck in the world!!!!!!!

would they cost more? are they covered by insurance?

It just depends, i have really great insurance, my co-pay per visit is $20.00. I really didn't know who to turn to, so i did my research on-line and found my therapist was about 15 minutes from the house! The best decsion i have ever made was calling her. You are taking the right steps, the first thing is the therapy sessions. Trust me!!!!!

thanks for the info - i'll look into finding someone.

Sorry i'm not too much help. I think alot of finding a g00d therapist will be on your location too, i know back home in my small town there wouldn't of been no help at all. So once again best of luck to yah and keep in touch, let me know if you found someone and how it goes. Thats another thing, they can only help you if you can let them know whats on your mind, i am more open and so comfortable with my therapist than anyone.