If printed words that can be taken several ways, on the internet are hard to handle, just exactly what happens when they are in the real world? I get stuff said to me all the time, and there is nothing the least bit ambiguous about what they are saying.
I know other slightly effeminate men, kinda like me, (and lots and lots of gay men) who are excellent fighters. Because they either learned how to defend themselves, or they never went out. In reality, you're going to have to face a lot more than some bad words or name calling. At some point, if you are really going to be a guy in a guy's world - you just might have to prove it - and not with Robert's Rules of Order. Then what happens?
At any rate, isn't it much more insulting to have people just straight out, flat out lie you? Isn't being told that you're not mature enough to handle the truth much worse than whatever else they might say?
And if that's what you want, then the post ought to be titled: Please lie to me. Hell, I've worked on political campaigns, with politicians, and in show biz, I can lie like a rug when I have to.