i hate roommates. i hate them.

i was at college for two years, and detested every second - luckily my roomie was pretty cool, but it was still just so. ick. and then our second year she lived with her boyfriend 99% of the time so it was like living alone, anyway.

i moved, switched schools, blah blah blah and moved in with an old friend. now, he's always going to stay at his mother's house. and i'm like "why pay rent, then?!" i feel like that is SUCH a waste of money and time and everything. and i feel so unappreciated. like he doesn't want to be here or spend time with me. he hasn't stayed here in at least a week. it just. pisses me of. and makes me really, really sad.

so i'm just going to lay on my couch and be depressed and watch adult swim..

anybody looking for a new place to live?

I suffer with living in sharehouses, I just can't do it. Well saying that my ex was a dream to live with because we thought the same way about the important issues of sharehousing especially standards of cleanliness lol! Noise and parties or the lack of. o-o-o-o-o and ...I know this will make me sound pedantic but I don't understand people that don't rinse plates straight after using them.. it's so easy. Yet some prefer to then later stand there scrubbing for ages to get caked on food off.. it just seems so... :S to not just rinse it and save all that hard work and time wastage. Can anyone justify the reasons for caking on food?
It's annoying when you want to use a frypan and you have to deal with someones selfish caked on mess and they don't understand your annoyance at it ..I should laugh before I cry ..lol :-/
Just yesterday I had 'the' fight with my housemate, you know the one where you both realise it's the end of a chapter and time to move on.. yeah sucks.
I wish I could live with my ex but we've only just started hanging out again, even though she's looking to fill a room lol.

Hey dude,

Sorry your not so roomate sucks. I'm living with my dad well in his bacement and he's never home. And if he is he goes to his room and doesn't come out its like pffft thanks nice to see you too. No i like siting here alone no prob >.< Hope things get better for you dude! I think i'll leave a trail of beer leading all the way down the stairs to my living room so that my dad comes down here hahaha

Ethan

Golly gosh, a lot of people would think a roommate who was never there, but paid the rent on time was a gift from god.  As for cleanliness, back when I lived in a commune - the Iowa State Home for the Bewildered - we had one roommate, Wild Bob, who did nothing, absolutely zero housekeeping - except he did the dishes, always did the dishes, the dishes were always clean.  He was a gift from god.

QuoteI don't understand people that don't rinse plates straight after using the

OHHH MY GOSH I TRULY TRULY HATE WHEN PEOPLE DO THAT. my roommate does that, too. so did my old one. i don't UNDERSTAND. it only takes a few minutes. and it makes washing them 384238947329487 x's easier. and doesn't make the kitchen start smelling to high heaven. it's ridiculous. i just got a job (yess) so maybe i'll be able to afford the whole apartment on my own soon.

Quotepffft thanks nice to see you too.

that's how i feel he just leaves me here alone.. all the time.. and i'm just like.. oh, okay. i love you, too?

QuoteGolly gosh, a lot of people would think a roommate who was never there, but paid the rent on time was a gift from god.

HE HASN'T FINISHED PAYING ME FOR JAN'S RENT. nor does he have feb, so he doesn't technically pay rent, lol. and he's a friend, and i'd like company sometimes. i get so lonely, so really it's just sad.

Man, that sucks. This sounds kinda corny but look in the yellow pages or on craigslist for classes for like cooking or something fun. you'll meet lots of people there and then you can be the one never home.

Personally though if my roomate didnt pay rent i'd be like "SEE YA!" and stick an add in the paper for a new one. But i know that friends are important so its not easy to do. Good luck dude.

Ethan

Nah, what's really sad is that a college student would want to spend that much time at home with mom (unless she is ill, or needs help).  My parents insisted that I had to go to a school at least 500 miles from home, as a way of helping me grow up (or just to get rid of me).  Turns out it was not all that wrong, I could not run home and do my laundry, when I got hungry I had to learn to cook instead of whining to mom, oddly enough, it worked out pretty well.

As for being lonely, try the campus organizations, I'm sure there are big dog piles of them from chess addicts, to drama clubs, to LGBT, and the one I loved the most, the speakers bureau which gets people to come to campus and give talks, demonstrations and the like.  Since I had a car I was usually the person who went to pick them up at the airport and got some quality time with some pretty famous people.

And yeah, if he ain't paying, he's out.  You need someone at least responsible.

Quote from: tekla on January 20, 2010, 10:23:01 PM
Golly gosh, a lot of people would think a roommate who was never there, but paid the rent on time was a gift from god. 

I will second this as living with 3 others can be challenging at times.

However, I understand why people being around helps too. . . so hopefully they'll start hanging around more.  Maybe try to initiate some more stuff with them?  They could be lonely so that's why they're leaving a lot.

i transferred to a community college, so it'd not very campus fun oriented. some of y'alls suggestions were really good, though. thanks.

i'm not sure why he won't leave his mom's house.. Tekla - thats what my mother did. i was off away on my own for two years. maybe that's why he keeps going back to mommy - he hasn't had that. this is his first place. but he's not even trying.. ugh. idk.

i've posted an add on craigslist. i live in a small town so don't expect a response. rawr.

You'll find something dont worry dude! Things always hit bottom before they bounce back up!

Might be best not to care too much about how your roomie spends his time.  What helped me get through college (had a roommate every year to cut costs) was to keep a very short list of things I cared about in a roommate and seek them out:

1) Pay rent on time
2) Don't physically damage the rented property
3) Obey the building's quiet hours, as described in the lease
4) Keep the place reasonably clean--which the roommates should talk about and agree on what is 'reasonably clean'

Save for one roommate that I did not pick myself, I had a roommate who met all of those qualifications every year.  Maybe I got lucky, maybe I was a good judge of the people I picked.  Probably both.

I also went for two-person places; the more roommates, the more potential for problems.  As for kitchen stuff, I always insisted that we have our own stuff.  It doesn't take that much extra cupboard space (then again, I never kept that much stuff, and neither did my roommates), and one person will never be out of clean dishes because the other person used them all.

I never expected my roommates to be around for my own entertainment.  We actually never did much together, save for the one roommate that I was already friends with (though we were careful to give each other space when we needed it).  Rooming with a friend can be hard and strain the friendship, actually...