What would you say if someone asked you why are you transexual? Or all the ignorant people ask that ask those dumb question like, are you girl or boy?

What do you say?

As to "Are you a boy or a girl?", I answer truthfully, I am a girl.

When asked "Why are you Transsexual?", my answer is again truthful.  I was born this way and I am finally dealing with it without anyone's interference.

Quote from: RoseBlossom on January 23, 2010, 01:09:07 PM
What would you say if someone asked you why are you transexual?

<FlanHusky> some choices in life are the result of life choosing something
I didn't ask for this, but I chose medical treatment to "cure" it.

Quote from: RoseBlossom on January 23, 2010, 01:09:07 PM
Or all the ignorant people ask that ask those dumb question like, are you girl or boy?

I'm a human \o/

Sometimes a person is born with a brain that is clearly one gender, and a body that is clearly the opposite sex. In my case, my brain is male and my body is female. I can't help it, I didn't choose it, and I can't control it.
Who I am is dependent on my brain and so, since my brain is male, I'm a boy.
The body just needs a little work to catch up.

Sorry to be difficult here, but I've been wracking my brains on this one and keep coming back to the same problem.

Who's asking and why?

Quote from: RoseBlossom on January 23, 2010, 01:09:07 PM
What would you say if someone asked you why are you transexual?

I don't even know what that question means?

Oh, well unless it's asked under the assumption that "transsexual" is some sort of "lifestyle choice," in which case I wouldn't validate or dignify the question by attempting to answer it.

I didn't "cure" anything, I didn't have a birth defect, I didn't have a "condition," my brain isn't one sex and my body another.

I just changed my sex. My choice, my responsibility - no blaming or justifying it on anything other than that.

Quoteare you girl or boy?

I'm Marie. Nice to meet you

  I guess technically this wouldn't apply to me since I am cisgendered but as one on the outside looking in my views have changed so much from being here that my responses are totally different from what they used to be.
  When someone asks me about transsexuals I typically tell them that they are those who are born feeling as though their body does not fall in line with their thoughts, emotions and many times actions. I generally follow that with directing them to this site to learn more firsthand from those who live as such.
  When someone makes a foolish, rude or hateful remark I tend to stop them and explain the above as well as tell them to consider themselves.
  How would they like it if they woke up one day and felt so deeply that they were the opposite gender of their body that suicide seemed a way out that grew stronger and stronger each day?
  How would they like it if every day was a living hell that they were willing to risk everything to escape it or pay any price to repair what they deemed wrong?
  Even though this does not apply directly to me I just wanted you to know how some of us cisgendered people feel and the advice we give. There are some of us that can relate in one way or another and not all of us are saying or preaching that transsexuals are evil, perverted or going to hell.
  May God bless.
 

I think I'd probably go with marie with some people.

But for example, if some surgeon promised to take away the ugly growth between my legs and asked me that, I'd probably tell him something more.

Most people, I'd treat in the same way as if they asked any other impertanent question.

No one's ever asked me, so this is hypothetical:  I am a woman (albeit one with an odd past).

As far as what is a transsexual, to me a TS is someone who has (or had) the anatomy of the opposite sex and was raised and lived for a while in that sex.  (A physically intersexed person might be considered TS if raised in the wrong gender.)  If the person is lucky, at some point he or she will get the chance to align their inner and outer selves and live as the person they really are.

May we all have the chance live as we really are.

- Kate

Quote from: RoseBlossom on January 23, 2010, 01:09:07 PM
What would you say if someone asked you why are you transexual? Or all the ignorant people ask that ask those dumb question like, are you girl or boy?

What do you say?

Why am I TS? Because the next best option was death.
Am I a boy or a girl? That's really a matter of interpretation, but if you don't want to get way overly philosophical, I would say girl.

No one has ever asked me. My mom did wonder at first if it was something she did to cause it, but I told her it wasn't anyone's fault, it's just the way I was born.

When I'm asked, it's usually from someone that I've known for quite some time.  And they aren't asking to be mean.  They usually just want to know what it's like.  I tell them that I have always felt this way, and that the life that I have been living all of these years has been a lie to protect myself and to fit in.  But now I can't do it anymore, I need to be whole.  I explain to them that I AM a woman, I always have been, but was just born with the wrong equipment.  A problem that I am trying to correct.  For the most part once I tell them, a light bulb goes off in their head, and a lot of things form my life make more sense to them.  Not in a bad way of course, just I never quite fit in, and was always one of the girls whether I was or not.
As for someone on the street, if they were to ask me whether I was a boy or a girl.  I would just reply,  "Can't you tell?" smile and walk away.  A few months ago I'd be worried, but now, MEH, it's their problem not mine.

Was born this way. My brain is wired in such a way that being female or very feminine makes me incredibly uncomfortable. I realize that physical masculinity and the masculine role make me much happier. Can't stand being a woman.

Am I a girl or boy? Well at present, I guess I don't know. Although I hope to be a guy in the near future.

The question I seem to be asked is Why would you WANT to do this?
You just help but walking away.
Sarah

Hi...

    When young children ask are you a boy or a girl  I just say i was born a boy & now i m a girl . no probs .

  To those who are friends they never asked about transsexual s . as i m not any way . i explained in the begining i m a transfemale . & then added with a male background . who lives as a woman .wired both ways .

later i learnt i was born a andro . so knowing that . it cleared up a few details .
  Now its not about being asked what ever ?  like why or whats going on ,
      its when i talk to them like just as a women would . its we just get on . oh yes we seem to talk about every thing else . it does not come up . part of being accepted ,being known . & really most people are not bothered . by me .
   I do have a few friends who ask ?? as they are learning to get to know me as a person & figger me out . other than them not many now .

    ...noeleena...

Nobody has really asked me, they just kind of go with whatever I look like on any given day. It's about a 60/40 proposition in my favor right now, I sure hope that gets better. One thing I have noticed, is when people aren't sure they seem to use excessive pronouns; it used to bother me but I've realised they are looking for cues, kind of indirectly and maybe even subcousciously "asking". Generally if someone uses the wrong pronoun I give them my biggest twinkly smile and flip my hair or angle my face differently to them and they usually at least fein embarassment and correct themselves. Those few who don't, well, you can't win without losing so it's best to just go away. For example a stock guy at the all night supermarket kept calling me sir even though I was looking better than usual, but I sood six inches taller and have prolly 60lbs on him...not going to work. Like it's my fault he's scrappy.

A couple of dead giveaways are earrings in both ears and plucked/waxed eyebrows. I've had a lot less hassle since I started getting my brows done.

Why explain? No one wants to know. They would rather I just went away, barring that, ignore me like I'm invisible or something.  Work sucks and so does my living arrangement.

I guess I'll add my two cents.  It is incredibly difficult for most people (educated or not) to understand.  For me personally, I did just about everything I could to ignore my TS.  I went through denial, anger (why me?), bargaining (got married, tried to be "normal"), and depression (this one still hurts sometimes).  There just comes a point when I have to look in the mirror and accept there is a (not so good looking) woman looking back at me.  I always go back to her and I identify as female.  It is not something I consciously have chosen, but it is who I am.

i'm writing a script for college, and in one scene a trans character has to explain to his borther how being trans works.
This is actually the way i explained my feelings to my father.

It's like...I was given an ipod as a complete surprise, but I was given the pink one.
I lived with the pink ipod for eighteen years and was never quite satisfied with how it worked.
Then I started thinking more about a blue ipod...but it was as if I didn't know I could GET the blue ipod.
Then I started getting little pieces of the blue ipod, so I could build my own.
But in order to get the blue ipod and be completely satisfied with it, I need my family and friends to help me get more of the pieces.
Otherwise...I'm left with the choice of a half built ipod that doesn't quite work yet but has potential too or a pink ipod that works ok but will never be exactly what I'm looking for.

Quote from: Shawna Cynthia on January 24, 2010, 02:03:13 PMif they were to ask me whether I was a boy or a girl.  I would just reply,  "Can't you tell?" smile and walk away.

I have never been asked the other question, but if I was I would say something like this:
Your brain is screaming you something, and your body is saying another. Which would you chose to listen to?