Quote from: The None Blonde on January 30, 2010, 05:46:51 PM
That it is 'unfair' that people can get out of this spiders web smacks of jelousy and bitterness really. Perhaps you wouldnt feel this way if you were in thier position? You know what? I think if you had the chance to never be known as trans again... you TOO would take it and not look back. Honestly tell me otherwise?

And what am I jealous of? That some deny their status? On a day to day basis I don't deal with trans issues and nobody accosts me about it. I am treated as a woman. I know several others who don't have that chance and I worry about their safety.

So what is it that I want? Bitterness that I can't go into denial?  I didn't say we have to become activists. I merely said given that stealth is increasingly impossible, we are all in some ways examples of transwomen as far as society is concerned. I expect as governmental and corporate intrusions into our privacy accelerate, we will be more and more forced to be outed.

I agree that I would like not to be transsexual, I don't think anyone wants to have that burden. I would like it to be that nobody could ever know about my past or anyone's past for that matter, but it isn't possible to hide it anymore.

As for the rest who took offense:

Insult me for bringing up the topic, fine. It just goes to show that as a community we are often at each others throats instead of trying to make things better. 

I'll exit this discussion, all the wiser. My opinion of our community's sisterhood has changed and not for the better.

Sisterhood?

Another presumption here.... I'm not sure I personally can call people i barely know over the internet a sister.... That title alone i reserve for my blood sibling, and my best friend who is the closest damn thing to a 'sister' possible without the blood tie.

As for your reply... Sure, but you just seem... I dont know, quite defeatist and bitter to me... As for claiming its denial? Jaysus... I'm sorry but thats out of line. Denial is living as a male. What is denial about a female living as a female and identifying as one?

I transtioned because i'm female. Why would I settle for second place?

It appears to me that the longer this topic goes on the more arguments will arise. This is, and always has been, a touchy subject here.

As I said before, we're all on our own paths and make our own choices. From those who dedicate a large part of their lives to trans issues to those who leave transition behind them. This goes back to our differences and similarities. Perhaps we can't completely understand each others' point of view, but we can respect it.

Topic closed to avoid further arguments.

These threads always blow up sooner or later.

Sad because they are obviously important