I have been thinking long & hard about coming out too!
The Village I live in is way too small, conservative.
I would over in Fairbanks if I could conect with other girls over there. I think that's the way to do it, to step out in the company & suppot of more experienced CDs. Maybe I'm wrong but it does make sense.
If only I could make contact with girls over there, I would step out .
I do believe support & understanding is a plus when doing that.

Comming out and stepping in with the cross dressers is a good idea if that will help you feel more at ease.  Be carefull of the ramifications in a small conservative town though.  Will it negatively effect your job or family in a way that is too difficult to deal with while stilll staying in a small town?