There comes a time to get back to the business of living and this is  it.

I am one of those odd children from the 1950's that just never fit in. Though supposedly "a boy", I lacked the essential ingredients to ever pass for one and through childhood I was just "STRANGE", not Gay, not "a fairy", just unmistakably feminine. With puberty and a mixture of masculine and feminine development, I was even more confusing to people, the guy who was a girl or the girl who was a guy???. Little wonder that Dr. Benjamin pronounced me "a Type VI" after just a short visit in 1966 and that I was on the leading edge of the push for medical and surgical treatment - my name was on everyone's "short list" for years before I got to Dr. Biber in 1974.

After SRS, I just vanished into normal woman's life, married, and followed a career. I am not the prettiest woman around, nor the most shapely, but average enough that I never seemed to attract any unwanted attention or suspicion. And thus life went on for nearly 30 years.

When I decided to venture out in the  anonymity of the Internet to see what was happening, I was, at first, welcomed with open arms but I didn't meet many "kids like me" and eventually I started being challenged: "If you are as passable as you say you are, POST A PICTURE!" and being told that talking about my life is "boasting" and makes other people feel bad, like I am rubbing salt into wounds.

Well these forums don't really do anything for me and when I find that they are COSTING me to be here, I feel it is time to move on. My life moves on, there is a new man in my life talking about marriage (that would be #3 for me), and many demands on my time so I think it is time I said my goodbyes and got on with the rest of my life.

Hopefully I have left some good information here (in the archives) that others can find and that I have left a little something behind for my sisters.

Remember, nothing in life is unachievable it is just that some things are worth the cost and some are not.

Your not a fossil.  I went through the same things in the late 40's and 50's.  It sounds like your found good information (when it was harder to find) and made a life for yourself. 

That's wonderful.

I hope you stop by once in a while just to keep us updated.

Sarah L.

Jane,

I will miss you, Dear.  And you are one of many I look up to.  But we all must move forward.

Good luck with the upcoming marriage.  May the gods make this one stick.  We can all use that little bit of happiness.

Stop by once and while to say "hi".

Hugs, Jane.  Many hugs and Thank You.
Janet

Sorry to see you go,

I was maybe a tad jealous of you learning something way before I figured out anything but I never doubted that you passed as well as you said. I thank you for going through much of it first and making it easier for me. I wish you well.

Jane, I'm sorry to see you go.

I am older than you are.  I know what it was like back then.  You have always had my utmost respect.  There weren't many girls who made it then - the times were too tough. 

I wish I had known you then.  Perhaps I would've taken some courage from you and not had to wait so long to finally figure out my life.

Thank you for your time here and for opening a window to the past.  I'm afraid many on this forum just can't grasp what it was like "back in the old days."

Take good care of yourself dear.

*hugs*
Kate

Jane, sorry to see you go but I so understand. I have been confronted, sneered at, etc because of whatever various things. Arguments on whether I was a primary or secondary or not (it was important to someone at sometime never very much to me) and of course I could not actually be TS because I wore pants, could change spark plugs in my car, or a number of other ridiculous things.

The most we can do is to let others know to not listen to the types that gave us grief. That life is worth living on your own terms and that you will be happier for it. This forum is better for having had you on it.

Good luck with whatever the future may bring.

Sorry to see you go, but you have the right to say just how much you're willing to take, and if people are giving you too many stupid and arrogant comments, then it's your prerogative to hit that X in the top right corner.
Just know that you'll be missed.

I'm a bit younger but I've always been fascinated and intrigued by your posts. I have a ton of respect for you and will miss seeing you around!

Jane,


I know there are times in life where we all have to move on. I did for a while and enjoyed the freedom of just living. Now I am back to meet up with old friends.

Alice

Jane
Yes I going to miss you, we're same generation believe it or not, your 1974 girl Im a 1985 girl.
May your God go with you where ever you go (Dave Allen quote)
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Jane

I have only just realized that you are moving on and so I will say take care and thank you for the posts that I have read that are your personal thoughts on the issues that surround us.

Like many others, that have already said it, your contributions would be surely missed.  I have just arrived and yet the very few posts that I have read of yours I have noticed a similar way of thinking on our issues and hence your thoughts resonate with mine.  So I will have to read a few more of your posts.

Best wishes for the future and may all your dreams come true.

Kind regards
Sarah B

Be who you want to be

Well thanks ya'll but my boyfriend isn't freaked out by my sticking my nose in here and the "challenges" seem to have died away so I will be in from time to time. (And I am STILL not going to post a picture LOL!)

Jane.

We have lost too many lately.  I am glad things are working out for you and that the BF is not going nuts. 

And we don't need a picture, Hon.  We are just glad to heard from you.

Hugs,
Janet