Welcome to Susan's, Melanie.

There's a lot of good information and good people here. Each of our stories is unique but we have a lot in common. Settle in, pull up a keyboard, and explore.
As Janet said, be sure to look under the Announcements heading. There you will find the rules we live by in this little world of ours: "Site Terms of Service and Rules to Live By", "Standard Terms and Definitions", and "Post Ranks". Look through the other stuff there, too.
I hope you can get the hormone treatment straightened out. You're seeing a physician for it, right? And I'm sorry for your losses. Some of us manage to stay married, but for many it is just too hard on the spouse.
Good luck on you voyage of self-discovery.

- Kate