Hi there everyone, my names Kelly.
I just came upon this site and thought to maybe meet some people to get some support...

Just recently (since this past monday), my partner said she wanted to transition, which I am totally supportive about her decision. At first I got emotional about it cause I was just worried about the "unknown". She was worried that I was cryin cause of her decision, she said that she would rather keep our relationship and not ruin it by her decision. I told her that I just want her to be happy with who she was and how she looked on the outside too. Told her I would stand by her side throughout her transition... well actually his, but not sure when he wants me to start changing the wording. I do know not around the family cause they dont know yet, I will most likely slip on accident. He is very scared about telling them and not sure how they are going to take it. I just know either way I am going to be there for him and be supportive as much as I can. At first it was kinda hard to wrap my head around the subject cause we have been together for a year now, plus about a year and month ago I had just came out as a lesbian. So, many thoughts have been running through my crazy and emotional brain of mine... like if I were asked if I was a lesbian or straight, how do I answer that question? how would I go about telling my family (who I have came out to as a lesbian), down the road once they start talking to me and want to meet him "oh by the way I am not in love with a girl anymore but a guy"?
p.s. I wouldnt really say it that way but you know what I mean LOL

So if anyone has any advice, personal experience (if you feel comfortable), and just support in general... that would be amazing cause even though we have talked and are still talking about this, I would love to get some answer/support from other places and people as well.

Thanks so much for takin the time in reading my post!
~Kelly 

Welcome Kelly,

It is good to see supportive partners even when life can be so confusing for both of you. When it comes to pronouns, follow your partners lead and ask questions. Nothing shows interest like asking about how you want to be refered to instead of details about surgeries that may or may not happen. Be aware that this is a bumpy journey but certainly possible to live through and that neither you nor your partner are alone.

I'm glad you found us.

Welcome to Susan's, Kelly. 

There's a lot of good information and good people here.  Each of our stories is unique but we have a lot in common.  I hope you can find here some of the support you need.  Settle in, pull up a keyboard, and explore.

Be sure to look under the Announcements heading.  There you will find the rules we live by in this little world of ours: "Site Terms of Service and Rules to Live By", "Standard Terms and Definitions", and "Post Ranks".  Look through the other stuff there, too, like "Age and the Forums".

In my experience, constant, clear, open communication between partners is essential.  You are walking this road together.  It has a lot of bumps and confusing places, but being being able to rely on each other can help a lot.

Good luck to both of you.

- Kate

Hi Kelly,

Welcome to our little family. Over 4200 strong. That would be one heck of a family reunion.

Feel free to post your successes/failures, Hopes/dreams.  Ask questions and seek answers. Give and receive advice.

But remember we are family here, your family now. And it is always nice to have another SO.

And be sure to check out these links ( MUST READS )

• Site Terms of Service and rules to live by
  
• Standard Terms and Definitions
  
• Post Ranks ( including when you can upload an avatar)
  

So many of us have lost the people we love.  It is important that a partner understand that it is hard for us to transition and when our partner is open and understanding it is easier for us to go forward.

Hugs and Love,
Janet

Hi Kelly,
There are very few supportive SO's and it's good to meet one.
With a whole section of the forum just for support I'm sure you will find information and friends in similar situations.
Welcome to Susan's
Jillieann