What female privileges have you gained in transition?

Transitioning has given me so much more then I have lost but some of the most important to me are:

The attention/affection of men
The friendship of other women
Huge amounts of self confidence

I may have lost some respect of the guys I worked wit but I was accept by every woman that worked at my old employer.  I also have attracted the attention of men, when I could not attract women in the other realm.

And like Cami, my confidence has risen tremendously.

I desire these things.  Though I don't really wanna lose my appeal to women....

Attention from men.
Men holding the door open for you.
men letting you walk across the street on a busy street.

The most important thing being a 'Black Male' was hard having woman hold there purses so close thinkin your gonna snatch it. None of that anymore

I'm not sure there are any 'privilages' as one says... theres privilages to being attractive to the oposite sex, sure... but for just being female? Not really any at all...

perhaps people are easier to trust you, to let you help, or to confide in you, but a lot of things people have described above are simply the opposite of male privilage... not a female privilage. Unless you like being the little 50s housewife steriotype... *shrugs*

Sure, its nice to have a door held for you, but don't define your life by what guys think of you... be your own woman, and men will like you more...

Men are more courteous; a lot of them tease each other mercilessly, but they no longer include me in it thank goodness.

Other women are friendlier and accept me as an insider to the club. Very different from how it felt before to be left out.

I don't think those are dependent on being attractive, however I do notice other things where that surely does make a difference. People sometimes give attractive women a "free pass" on things. Can't think of specifics but they're little things like being allowed to do something out of turn or being given an inexpensive item free of charge. They also tend to be more forgiving of mistakes.

QuoteUnless you like being the little 50s housewife steriotype...

"Get out of your 1950s fantasy.  Your face shines with misery transparently.  Spew out that sobering, half-assed victim rhetoric.  Make 'em all squirm while they chew on it."  *Hums a few bars of Bad Religion.*

Quote from: Jester on February 25, 2010, 10:14:48 AM
*Hums a few bars of Bad Religion.*

No Bad Religion song can make your life complete. *puts on headphones and listens to No Direction*

I am now a member of the club I always yearned to join.

Men are nice to me and don't expect me to be manly or one of them.

Women are nice to me and accept me as one of them and tell me secrets and we have fun together and sometimes can get silly and we touch each other gently in a warm and friendly and nonsexual way and there are few barriers between us and ...

- Kate

Bad Religion makes my life complete.

None that I can think of.
I don't consider men oggling me and wanting to get into my pants a "privilege".  I consider it annoying.

Men more courteous and gentle towards me, my brothers tease each other endlessly but never towards me, they now have a ''girl respect'' towards me.
I get doors held open for me.
I always get offered a seat by a gentleman.
I don't have to wait long if Im in a bit of bother with my car, I never have to change a wheel (I can) but always a guy is willing to do it for me, so I don't get to break a nail lol
Having a nice girly bond and girly chat with other women.
Opposite sex attention from men who see me as a real woman.
Taking as long as a like to look attactive and pretty, my boyfriend takes about 10minutes to get ready, I take as long as I like, my hair, my makeup, my nails, my clothes etc etc etc and its excepted, boyfriend never questions or complains because its female privilege, because Im a WOMAN!
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Quote from: SarahFaceDoom on February 26, 2010, 03:57:11 AM
None that I can think of.
I don't consider men oggling me and wanting to get into my pants a "privilege".  I consider it annoying.

Word sister...

Was talking to a transwoman the other week, I'd mentioned guys grabbing my butt at work (I work in a nightclub) and how annoying and degrading it was... she said to me she enjoyed it and welcomed it
that it made her feel like a woman... and attractive...
allowing ones self to be groped and defining ones self by molestation? Jeez... have some self worth folks, its scary how many m2f women seem to define themselves by males.... and by male standards still. Claim you're female? so be a female, not a man's idea of one. Self respect is free...  female privilage? sad point is there arent any.

- being paid less than men for the same work
- being ignored at meetings
- having ideas dismissed
- having a lower credit rating

- being whistled at
- being flirted with
- being smiled at
- being touched without invitation

- being able to make men do stupid things
- having men vie for my attention
- being able to be "silly" and having it snickered at


.... oops, out of time!

The other day, when my waiter brought my bill I thought he said "Thank you, sir."  When he returned, I said (with a smile): "Please don't call me sir."  He was shocked and said: "I would never call you that!  I called you sweetheart."  I was mollified.

When I told my therapist, she said she would have been insulted to be called sweetheart, especially by a waiter half her age.  I told her it was still new to me, so I was still happy for it.

The only thing that doesn't change is Change.

- Kate

My male co worker opening doors for me.I love to shop and I do it with my sister and a couple of her friends.

Odd, most people I know open doors and hold them for anyone who is holding anything.  It's the least polite people can do.  Gender regardless.

Since we're talking about doors...One thing I've gotten alot lately is that men seem to want to hold doors open for the purpose of checking me out, it's fun when they're cute but that's about it.

The number one privilege gained is being able to be myself and not having to hold back anymore. I'm not that shy, morose person I used to be.

Quote from: mija on March 27, 2010, 03:10:21 AM
The number one privilege gained is being able to be myself and not having to hold back anymore.

Amen, sister.

- Kate