im sure there have been many many topics on this issue but what the hell,
i really really want to come out and ive been thinking of different ways to do it. im thinking a email since i dont think i could ever sit down with my mom or dad and tell them straight up. im pretty sure they would be excepting, im lucky in that sense.

the thing is i just cant bring myself to do it. i almost did it once by sending my dad a article about a ftm and i was going to tell him i wanted to do this but instead i just sent the article to see whta his reaction would be
he basically said "your not thinking about doing this are you" in a joking tone, and when i didnt respond (because i had no idea what to say) he came over and gave me a hug and said you know i would support anything you do

so if hes so supportive or i think he is why is it so hard to just come out
i know i would feel so much better and i could start my process but this is by far the hardest thing ever.
any advice?

Sounds like Dad has given you the greenlight to come out.

It's hard to put your feelings out there dude - no matter who it is to or what about.
It's not easy no matter how you do it. I gave my olds a letter and went into another room and then we discussed it.
I stipulated in the letter that I was taking the adult path in coming forward and being honest and I expected the same treatment in return. That is to say I didn't want to be talked at or yelled to etc.

Went off pretty well but I understand that's not always the case. Do what feels right to you. I gave it to my folks together and others have said its easier to tell one then have that parent on side to help - it has to feel right for you man.

Good luck. It is really bloody hard to do - but worth it. No point in pretending to be someone for anyone else. Be yourself. Your dad sounds pretty cruisey from your post. And as for timing and when to do it - you will know when it is right and like above your dad gave you an opening. They might again with a little prompting

Chin up bro - and whatever it means to you, stay true.

At least your dad picks up on that stuff! I skillfully managed to find a few TV eps with transgender people in them and sat us all down (made sure we where all together) to watch them... made comments and everything. Neither of my parents go the hint....

It's pretty hard to "come out" to people very close to you as it could go either way and there is tons of potential for pain. Sounds like dad would be fairly supportive of you either way.

I gave my parents a letter. My mom got to it first and didn't show my dad (she ended up talking to him as she didn't think he could "handle" what i put in the letter.) But the initial reaction was a lot of crying, some talking, and a bunch of "baby step" and "therapist" talk.

Unfortunately they seem to think the baby steps mean ME being open minded about not being trans and THEM not having to do jack to come to terms with it. I'm seeing my therapist on Friday, they're seeing her next monday. Things WILL be cleared up at that point and i'm assuming that they won't go well.

But my parents are very conservative, my dad very religious. I don't expect miracle with them and never did.

Coming out is a BIG step - if you don't already have a therapist i would suggest asking your primary care doc to give you a referral to one. That way if the issue of therapy to "be certain" comes up with the folks you can say "already on it." Come out in a way that makes you comfortable - if you need to write a note and give it to them, send an email, or talk to them then YOU choose which and do it.

Even though my life is turning upside down and my parents aren't taking it well, i'm glad i'm out to them. I personally can't go about hiding myself away and even if they're uncomfortable with it i'm not going to continue to do so. My life, my choice, i need to do what's right for me.

Good luck!

thanks to all the comments, i do allready have a therapist one that ive been seeing for a long time but i feel like i should come out to the parents first..i dunno
thanks again though

Yeah, coming out is strange; you know it's right, you need to be honest with people as well as yourself (since it can also help you to get used to the idea), but when it comes down to it, it's one of the hardest things to do. I rehearsed in my head what I'd say to my housemate, but when sat down with him explaining it all, I was sweating buckets out of nervousness. I was in a similar state when explaining to my other friend. I do feel that, although nerve-wracking, face to face is the best way - it's easier to gauge their reaction through reading their body language and their expressions.

Tell you what, after explaining to those two, telling my parents - one of whom first alerted me to the fact that there was a problem - will be a breeze. Over the phone maybe, but I really need to tell them now.

But yeah, the fact you're already seeing someone should help your case; they at least know you're serious that way.