and just act as if Im 110% male, no matter what, would other people (especially if they are expecting to see a boy in the first place) go with the flow and believe I was born a guy? Sometimes I think that when people post "do I pass pictures" that the critiques look especially for female characteristics bahaha.

A lot of it does have to do with your attitude, yes.

Visuals do help, of course, but you have to walk to walk so to speak.

I suggest, if you stop worrying about what others are thinking and just say to the world, 'Hey, I'm here.!' that will be as effective.

Most of us worry about what others are thinking about us. Usualyl because we are worried we might not get something from them. I frequently worry about what the people I happen to be working for, at the time, are thinking.

In your case, you're worried about someone thinking you are a chick instead of a bloke.

You could try approaching it from the perspective, So what?

Decide not to care what anyone else thinks, and you're half way there already.

Yeah a lot of it is attitude.  I've noticed that most people aren't really all that perceptive in terms of gender (the idea of a trans person rarely crosses most people's minds), so if you look somewhat male or at least androgynous and act in a way that is typically seen as male, you're more likely to be seen as a guy.

That is, unless you live in an area with a lot of butch lesbians.

Hang out with the straight folk and most people won't read you visually. Voice can kill it though.

Quote from: Chamillion on March 04, 2010, 08:32:28 PM
Yeah a lot of it is attitude.  I've noticed that most people aren't really all that perceptive in terms of gender (the idea of a trans person rarely crosses most people's minds), so if you look somewhat male or at least androgynous and act in a way that is typically seen as male, you're more likely to be seen as a guy.

i completely agree with this.  for the months and months me and my boyfriend were just good friends,  he told me that he was *sure* i was onto him... especially because i would say his clothes were a little girly on a particular day or asking him stuff like, "if you were born a girl what would your mom have named you?" etc.

i had absolutely no idea whatsoever. he is actually not so great at passing, but i never had any reason to think he was actually born female instead of just a boy in touch with his feminine side.

it's not that i didn't know that transpeople exist or even that i never thought i would meet someone... it's just that the thought never ever crossed my mind.

if you are looking kind of androgynous, i think most people are going to look to you for a clue as to what gender you are. so if you have a boy's name/exude some boyness there is no reason for them to believe otherwise.

remember the snl sketch "pat"? all those people wanted was a sign from pat so they could figure out pat's gender. if you are confident as a boy, people should get it.

Attitude makes a huge difference. Most people don't second guess a person's gender, so attitude makes a huge difference.