Oddly enough, there a is a gay/lesbian bar near me that I am distinctly not welcomed at. I went in there one time and as soon as I told one person that I was trans I was curtly told that this was not the safest place for me to be.

Apparently they don't like half-and-halfs, as they call them, there.

Quote from: The Original Cami on February 28, 2010, 02:11:11 AM
I ordered something to eat and a long island.

My favorite Cant pass up a good long island 

Re: Is it ok for a woman to go to a bar alone?

Of course, it's ok. A good idea, maybe not.

A woman going to a bar alone is okay if you plan to meet up with friends there later. Leaving and walking to your car alone late at night is another story and not something I would ever do.

Yes!

It can be quite uncomfortable though as most people seem to assume that you are there to be hit on!

As for lesbian bars and clubs, I've been to one or two in London. I even went to one where they were theoretically very trans hostile indeed, but oddly enough were really kind to me and welcomed me with open arms. I thing it just depends on how you behave and whether you are perceived as fitting in. Evidently I was, even despite my background.

Personally, I prefer to go with someone; however, there is no set "rule" for a woman going to a bar with a friend vs themselves.

Most women go with friends because it makes them feel more comfortable to have someone they know, and a friend to watch out for them.

I've gone on my own before, but I still like having a friend with me, depending on the bar. A woman going alone in a bar spells "fresh meat" and I get annoyed with being hit on so much. Gah! I get the weirdest people hitting on me just on the bus, or when I'm shopping, or running errands and looking like a disaster. Uh, maybe flattering at first, but after a couple of years it can get pretty annoying and especially if you get some drunk guy who grabs your ass. Or, a guy who buys you a drink, and then expects something in return at "his place." Worse if the guy is a jerk or not attractive at all.

Yep, I've been there. I always set the line saying if they buy me a drink, there's no guarantee. I've swindled a few drinks too, actually... it's easy, but not really fair, so I try not to do it. Although, I have done it with games of pool... it makes it seem more far. Guys will usually try and lose to buy you a drink - I suck at pool, by the way, and I've never lost.

Also, if I guy gets you a drink, go with him to the bar as well. You don't want something slipped in your drink (I've been there, too).

Having a friend is helpful because you can watch each others' backs. Friends are great excuses to get away from creepy guys, and also helpful so you don't feel pressured going home with some stranger drunk.

Also, if I guy gets you a drink, go with him to the bar as well. You don't want something slipped in your drink (I've been there, too).

OMG! I never though About that! Thanks for the tip. I'll watch out for that next time.

If a drunk guy grabbed my ass, you can bet I'd have him by the collar in a second. Gender role reversal indeed.

I have only went to a bar by myself to meet friends.  Anything more than that and it is almost guaranteed to be hit on within 10 minutes.

QuoteI truly consider a friend but she's been working all day and I'm quite sure she is not interested in going out tonight..

I meant to comment on this in my orig reply. Sometimes after a long day at work a drink is exactly what is called for

Funny thing about my interest in going, I'm actually looking to meet new people. I don't mind being hit on because I know how to say no thanks, not interested, and Get the ->-bleeped-<- away from me!

But at the some time I don't want to appear desperate.

And indeed after a long day at work a drink is quite often in order.