I like girls now and I think I always will.

I decided I am bi sexual.I do have a boyfriend Brad whom I started dating 3 weeks ago and he is pretty much cool about this.I did tell him this

Its amazing what a few months of hormones can do to you!!  Even though I fathered 3 children, I never could understand some of the basic concepts of male sexuality that my same age male acquaintences experienced.  I admired women, but wanted to be them, and not having sex with them, but I was stuck with my male image and would not even begin to think about sex with a man.  For three months now, I find myself looking at men and wondering what it would be like if they would suggest a trip to the bedroom, or heck, just close the drapes to the front room. I also feel less edgy with men around me now that the hormones are definitely having an effect.  In a subtle way, they smell different to me now.  Just the permission to accept myself as TRANS let me see that I had in the past looked on certain types of men as more than guy to guy friends.  OH WOW!!  The big thing though is that knowing this feels RIGHT where before it was wrong!!

When I was taken to the bedroom by a man there was no thoughts of my sexual preference,only how wonderfully delightful it all turned out to be. After that there was only men for me.

Quote from: Georgina on March 07, 2010, 03:58:31 AM
When I was taken to the bedroom by a man there was no thoughts of my sexual preference,only how wonderfully delightful it all turned out to be. After that there was only men for me.

Nice post!!!!!! I'm not going to lie and say there aren't guys out there that i don't find attractive but no sexual attraction at all. I think men are dogs! I am gay and the hormones are not having any effect on my train of thought. My therapist told me bout a year ago we shall see if your preference changes, not going to happen.

From the time of my youth, I've always been interested girls/women.  So much of my life I considered myself heterosexual.  I was rather different from the norm though.  Because of that, there were a few times where I tried to convice myself that perhaps I was gay.  No matter what I did, or how wonderful the person was that I thought about asking out...there was always one thing absent:  I could never generate any desire or appreciation for the male form.
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Currently, I'm asexual.  Partially due to a horrible marriage that I'm still recovering from emotionally.  Partially due to the effect HRT has on such matters. 
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I expect after I heal some, and find myself further along in transition, I will probably still be interested in women only.  Only time will tell though.

Liked girls before, still only like them now. So lesbian I guess

Quote from: Laura91 on March 07, 2010, 10:54:02 AM
YAAAY for lesbians!!

RAWR
(sorry, chat joke)

Given I've only just started down the long and winding road it may be too early to tell, but I currently identify as lesbian and have never felt attracted in the slightest to men...despite the fact I regular set off a lot of gaydars when out. They usually look confused when I tell them I'm a lesbian.

I've started to reply to this about 12 times now and don't even know where to begin. The whole subject just makes me want to weep. I used to identify as bisexual. I've pretty much lost all sexual attraction to females now which I suppose means I've gone hetero. In reality I just want to hide in the back of a small drawer and wish god never invented this whole sexuality thing.

I saw an interesting term in an article on how Xbox Live is now (finally) allowing LGBT people to say that they are LGBT, and the term was 'relationship orientation' which I thought was pretty neat.  I think hetero people can get a little squicked out by the thought of non-straight sex, but if you're just talking about romantic relationships it's a bit easier to take.

Anyway, at this point I'd say that my relationship orientation is girls, and my sexual orientation is yes .

Hmm, that's a complicated question for me to answer really. As a child growing up, I remember at 7-8 years old I would look at girls and guys both in store ads and such, I liked both genders, and it kinda scared me at first. But then my mom found out and convinced me that I didn't like guys and such and for a long time it was kinda....shoved away.

A little over a year back I came in an encounter with a guy and half-dated him for a little while, but it occurred again to me that I am bi, and I do like guys....but at first I thought not as much as girls as I prefer them. But in recent days I even wonder about that, as I find myself in relationships not very compatible with girls (though I can be great friends with one), and I decided to leave the doors open to guys more recently. So yeah....it's complicated xD

Quote from: findingreason on March 09, 2010, 07:01:29 PM...and I decided to leave the doors open to guys more recently.

That's how I look at it -- I'm leaving the door open.  Why should I decide ahead of time who I can like and who I can't like?

I'm waiting till somebody curls my toes, then I'll be able to say "I like that."

I really tried to be into girls, almost as hard as I tried to stick with my assigned gender, but the sad reality is that in the wrong role, I was asexual- 100%.  In the correct role?  We shall see...

I do have to say, I have been experiencing a non-stop procession of the flutteries lately.  OMG, what is up with those?  Ever since I noticed them for the first time it's just been like ...pew! pew! pew! just... constantly (sigh ) especially when I catch sight of them sexy mens.  Eep!! I just had one!  Sheesh, it's unlike anything I've ever felt in my life, well away from like an amusement park ride anyway lol.  It's given me this happy feeling that as a woman I'm actually going to have a libido .  Also, given my feels, I am pretty certain I'm hetero.

I'm still withholding final verdict till I've experienced a proper toe curling though .

Only being 18 and having zero sex drive I can't really say yet, maybe I'll be a little more... frisky? once I start hormones.  Hope to find out eventually, don't like being asexual but nothing feels right to me...

Quote from: FlanHusky on March 07, 2010, 02:52:34 PM
RAWR

* FlanHusky lesbinates laura

(sorry, chat joke)

YAY!!

Quote from: Natasha on March 06, 2010, 04:10:54 AM


interesting thread but what's been your experience?

as they say..quid pro quo.

Okay

Natasha, there's no doubt I've always liked blokes but that fact has recently been reinforced by my post-operative status.

Quote from: andie723 on February 27, 2010, 06:34:50 AM
I'm glad you posted this, because I wanted to post something like it myself.

I'm very new to my transition experience and in the early stages, but from what I have learned from myself in the last 3 months and realized over the last 7 years of my adult life, I am not a gay man as I came out as when I was 14 (very accepting parents, I was *very* lucky for them to accept even that back in the 2002). 

I always felt as, a gay man, incredibly awkward while in relationships including: holding hands, giving flowers/gifts, who remember anniversaries, who pays, top/bottom/vers roles, 'sexiness of bathhouses', 'attractiveness of being promiscuous', kissing in public and most of all, the somewhat 'animalistic' and vastly testosterone-driven drive for sex immediately.  I always looked for the gay man who would be the man, so I would be the woman --- but I didn't 'think' of it that way, because that's not how a gay man is, it is a give and take, a compromise: I always yearned for the opposite.  For years I battled with disagreeing with all of it (and so much more), striving for the heterosexual norm, with all my gay peers constantly scrutinizing me.  And I was always such an awkward gay man.  I'd be the one covered in make-up, feminizing myself in every way and then wondering, why doesn't any gay guy like me, except for the ones who are as girly as I am (still don't get that)?  After going after all the straight men with obviously, no successes, idolizing my female friends, being jealous of their gender and never relating to any gay man emotionally on structurally in the gay world, it was the real bubble burst that I was not actually gay at all.



WE are EXACTLY the same!

Bottom line: preference only 'straight'/heterosexual men without getting into any debate of bi/curious TS ->-bleeped-<-s.

Quote from: TristanV on March 13, 2010, 12:26:58 PM

And so am I

I responded to this question and I suppose I shouldn have. My lover happened to be reading this and I saw it and decided to answer. I say I probably shouldn't have because I am not an MTF TS. My lover is. I am a female, was born female and for the most part have been ok with that, exept for a few drunken nights, I can remember between 14 and 20 yrs. old when I swore my life would be better if I had been born with a penis.  It's funny now, but was quite serious to me then. I remember having a poster of Jim Morrison in my bedroom. Not only did I want to be WITH him, I also wanted to be LIKE him. I practiced trying to look like him in the mirror when I was kid.(My brother insists I am like him, though his autobiography didn't point in that direction) However, my naturally born flirtatousness and my early developped curves guided me in a different direction in life. I guess that was about how others interacted with me. I do think I would have had the same attitude if I had been born a man. It turns out I am not the only one in my family with this duality in nature.  And, honestly, for a long time, I did not believe there were any differences in the way men and women think. Of course, I know, now, that is entirely untrue. I realize it's just me -  and maybe my genetic make-up, since there are others in my family who think similarly to the way I do. SOOOOOOOOOO, anyway, if you read my post about how I often fantisize about women it may change your perspective of me (the writer) and in the future I'll pay more attention to what I am responding to. I hope I haven't offended anyone by  responding to this topic, even though it doesn't exactly apply to me.
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