Quote from: Aussie Jay on March 06, 2010, 07:13:22 AM
As for an example of the way you think of things - like a 'boy thought'... Ask for an example of a 'girl thought'!! I don't think there is any such things! But I guess - are you emotional? Do you cry at the drop of a hat like those running on estrogen do? I hope I'm not coming across as sexist that is just biology! I'm assuming you have chatted to your folks before about all that is going on - have you told them what living with the dysphoria is like?

I'm not sure that's a good test. Most of us can't escape the fact that we are (currently) running on estrogen - that's undeniable, and it sometimes shows. The hormones do their job regardless of whether you want them to or not. The difference, to me, is that the excessive teariness/emotional volatility is disturbing and foreign and incomprehensible. I don't know why I have these intense feelings, they come out of nowhere and make no sense to me and I can't name them or talk about them (and they're just as baffling when they occur in other people).

Actually, that might be a good example of a "boy thought."

Quote from: sneakersjay on March 08, 2010, 07:25:22 AM
Whereas guys like me can dress like men and express our masculine sides without most people thinking it being odd.

Mostly. Till you go into the women's restroom and are challenged or chased out, or hear people call you lesbo or dyke as if it were a bad thing (and I'm not! I'm gay!), or call you "it" and "that," or ask your partner (not you), "Excuse me! Excuse me! Is that a boy or a girl?"

And even with all of that, you're right, the social stigma tends to be much, much nastier for the women.

Quote from: sneakersjay on March 08, 2010, 07:25:22 AM


Why I think you ladies have it worse is because society (in general) will never understand why you want to be women (not understanding that you ARE women), how society is hard on what they call 'sissy' men (which many think you are) and how you aren't as free to express your feminine side until you truly transition because of  the negativity heaped on  someone who is perceived as male trying to present as female (ie you're sick, a joke, etc).  That would weigh harder on my psyche.  You ladies are truly courageous, IMO!

Whereas guys like me can dress like men and express our masculine sides without most people thinking it being odd.

Cindy:- this

Thanks Guys

I suppose I had never thought of it that way. I have to admit I'm no longer embarrassed by most of the crudities. I think people who have to support their fledgeling ego by being rude to anyone is pitiful. I have to be careful not to laugh or respond sometimes, in case I get physically attacked. I'm pretty sure I could no longer defend my self against a full physical onslaught by a guy. I'm not sure I ever could but now a days I don't feel the level of violence in me that carried through on those occasions.

I am cautious when I'm out. Which is something I never even thought about when acting male. Even in Liverpool (UK) where I grew up I was OK going to most places. OK there where and are someplaces any person with a brain should not go, and there were plenty of those in Liverpool .

I think Susan's can be a dangerous place. We are use to talking to each other in a civil and indeed helpful and understanding manner. We forget that in the big outside not everyone is as understanding.

Sorry for distracting the thread.

Hugs to you all

Cindy

Quite true Cindy. You need thick skin when transitioning.

Quote from: CindyJames on March 09, 2010, 01:46:23 AMI think Susan's can be a dangerous place. We are use to talking to each other in a civil and indeed helpful and understanding manner. We forget that in the big outside not everyone is as understanding.

I could not agree with you more.

Quote from: CindyJames on March 09, 2010, 01:46:23 AM
Even in Liverpool (UK) where I grew up I was OK going to most places. OK there where and are someplaces any person with a brain should not go, and there were plenty of those in Liverpool .

Cindy! You grew up in Liverpool? Me too. I don't know why I find this so amusing, but I do.

Sorry for being off topic, whoops 

another one off topic-my gf is from liverpool too-god i love the accent