So today, my lovely mother told me that she doesn't support my taking T. Why? Because she thinks that at some point in my life, I'm going to want a baby. And of course, there's no other way to raise a child other than popping one out of your own womb. No matter how many times I tell her how much I HATE those parts, (last night I told her about having fantasies involving performing an amateur hysto on myself) she still thinks that at some point I'm going to decide my life was a waste because I wasn't just like Mommy.
And then, because that wasn't already enough, she told me another reason she doesn't support it is because I wasn't masculine when I was a kid. Because apparently, heteronormalcy is important even in a ->-bleeped-<-ing LESBIAN HOUSEHOLD. I was also predominantly GAY when I was little. I still am bisexual. Yeah, I'm not the most macho guy ever. Neither is my little brother. Neither are a LOT of guys. I know biological men who are WAY more flaming than I am. And I don't consider them any less of men. I know women who are exceedingly masculine, including her girlfriend. I don't think they are any less of women.
I'm just really, really pissed off that she would say things like this. Now I understand why she's always been the parent who has trouble with pronouns. She still wants me to be her little girl. 

How frustrating. I feel for you, mothers can be like that. At some point you won't have to listen to her, try to ignore her.

Quote from: SilverFang on March 06, 2010, 12:31:35 PMtry to ignore her

Yeah.  Ignorance really is bliss, for this particular definition of ignorance.

  Its funny how parents will blatantly blatantly lie to us just to try any stop us. My sister and I only ever got flack for not living up to our gender stereotypes if it got in the way of their bragging. The worse was being fed sexist misogynistic reasonings from my own mother as to why I couldn't be female because I was smart at this or that. 

That sucks. I recently had a similar problem. I finally got the nerve to come out to my younger sister whose around seventeen or so and told her I planned to have a hysterectomy before I got on T. Which led her to ramble on about how much I would regret it if I did and etc. Even though I told her long before I told her I was a trans man that I never planned to have kids the conventional way because of totally unrelated medical problems and she was totally understanding, but ah well it's impossible to please everyone. It's best to just do what you know is right for you.

My mum actually asked me about "what if you want to have another kid?" and what made her understand just how big a "no" those parts are to me was my response of "Seriously, if I get pregnant again, I'll get rid of it, and failing that, I'll go hang myself."
I said it in a half joking manner at the time, but it made her go "??" at me, which led to the discussion allowing me to explain just how much the idea bothers me.
Mind you, I don't think she understands fully yet because I tend to explain myself in a "matter of fact" way and don't display the emotion behind it.