I thought this could be an interesting topic.  Oh yeah, and I'm new here.    

Share some of your stories.  What are some of the best parts out of your transition/worst parts?

I guess it could be situations you've been in (mostly) or what you think the best and worst part of this whole process is. 

Best part is that I won't be stuck so much as a woman.

The best is definitely feeling and looking more yourself - or the yourself you always imagined. Being yourself, for many of us, for the first time ever and the self confidence it brings in coming out and taking steps towards physical transition were all a high point for me - scary as hell but so worth it.

The worst is the in between stage and making the pronoun shift with people who knew you before. People just don't always catch on as quick as we'd like. It's worse being introduced to new people by people who still mess up your pronouns... I am yet to bridge that gap and tell people no its actually he  I just don't want to make the situation worse I guess...

Quote from: Aussie Jay on March 13, 2010, 07:25:07 PM
I am yet to bridge that gap and tell people no its actually he  I just don't want to make the situation worse I guess...

I'm curious, how would doing that make it worse?

Quote from: Brittyn on March 13, 2010, 07:40:20 PM
I'm curious, how would doing that make it worse?

I've had people tell me I shouldn't get upset with other people not using the right pronouns. People get very defencive, unfortunately.

For me the best part is when other guys treat me like one of the guys-- when they slap me on the back as hard as they would a bio-guy and call me "man" and ask me to help them carry heavy things and those subtle things.

The worse part is when my family tries to use it against me.  I've got very immature and viscious sisters and when I get into an argument with them, they tear me down with everything they can think of-- they attack my religion, my interests and of course my sexuality and gender identity.  I'm very glad I'm not as close-minded and, frankly, as boring as they are, but sometimes I wish they didn't have so much ammo to use against me.  It's tough feeling strongly about anything in life because people can always use those strong feelings to hurt you.

Quote from: Devin87 on March 13, 2010, 08:01:58 PM
It's tough feeling strongly about anything in life because people can always use those strong feelings to hurt you.

You'd miss it if you didn't feel very much about anything.

Quote from: Brittyn on March 13, 2010, 07:40:20 PM
I'm curious, how would doing that make it worse?

Along the lines of what Lachlann said... Just the fact that some people are happy to try and ignore the fact that I've told them you know... Which sucks and I don't like it at all but - I guess I don't want to make a scene. And especially at the moment when I don't look COMPLETELY male. There is still something that confuses people. Don't get me wrong I'd love to correct them and when I look undeniably male I will - I guess I don't want to provoke an argument etc. Besides when the rest of my facial hair fills in it is them calling me 'she' who will get the funny looks - not me!

I am pre-T so my experiences are limited but I think the best thing transition has done for me is to stop me from being shallow and allow me to really, really see people not just for what they look like but for who they actually are.  I feel I can understand people better now.  Also transitioning has helped me find someone wonderful for me.  I have the confidence to be exactly who I want to be, thanks to making the decision to transition. 

The worst part is the dysphoria obviously.  I hate being unhappy with my body but then I always have been so its not really anything that new...I guess I am just more aware of it now and since it has a name its more on my mind.  Another worst part is being misread and having to explain myself to everybody to stop them referring to me as female or to me and my partner as lesbians (because we both identify as male it is pretty darn off the mark!)  That gets exhausting very quickly, I can't wait until people can just see me as a guy and let it alone. 

Interloper Alert

@ Alessandro

Can I just say that you look awesomely Handsome in that Avatar... if you ever change your orientation I'll definitely be in the queue!

As for being pre-T I would never have believed that. You look all man to me!

Ok guys - I'm gone! - sorry for the intrusion

I'm with Alessandro in that I'm pre-everything right now - am currently waiting for first referral letter, but at least the doc's done it now I have, however, begun to transition, a bit at a time.

So - best part is when I get treated as one of the lads. When I put on men's trousers complete with "padding", 'cause now I'm used to something else being there, it starts to feel odd when I'm wearing women's jeans minus the packer. Not to mention getting my muscles back thanks to Abs Diet workouts.

Worst part - because I'm still at that awkward stage of just starting out, I'm still regarded as a woman by my friends. I'm starting to get well and truly fed up with people telling me I'm a "beautiful woman" - for starters I don't feel like a woman, for seconds - never mind what I look like, what about inside? Also - disregarding early problems that I've mentioned - there's the fact that I identify as bi/pansexual. As in, still find both attractive physically but am more interested in personality for it to bother me too much. As much as I'd like to right now, I can't just switch off my liking of other people. There's a guy I met at Alpha who I'm quite taken with. Can't expect anything to come of it of course, especially since I have to assume he's straight, but that doesn't stop me liking him >_<

Quote from: rejennyrated on March 14, 2010, 07:04:49 AM
Interloper Alert

@ Alessandro

Can I just say that you look awesomely Handsome in that Avatar... if you ever change your orientation I'll definitely be in the queue!

As for being pre-T I would never have believed that. You look all man to me!

Ok guys - I'm gone! - sorry for the intrusion

   Thanks Jenny!   

For me, the best moments were seeing my chest for the first time, and hearing my mom call me Jace and he for the first time.

I can't really pinpoint a worst moment, but the dysphoria and depression before transition was definitely the hardest part to deal with.

I had to think about this but I feel one of the best things I ever did was meet the people on this site.

Would have to be coming to terms with the outright suicidal hatred I had for my body and the urge to do away with my chesticles myself, with no anesthesia or anything, cause my dysphoria was that bad. I thought it over seriously quite a few times but I'm not that depressed and stuff now...that was a few years ago. It still crosses my mind. But I'm a happier, more confident person and actually know some transmen in person now so have a support system.

That, and people and their ignorant pronouns and insistance on using the wrong pronoun even after they're corrected, or using she behind my back. It's HE, idiot!

Oh, those were the worst moments.

The best would have to be getting facial hair, seeing my flat (with the help of a binder) chest, and starting to perform at a gay bar. The last one was the best thing that ever happened to me.

The Worst part I've had is telling my family.
It was so scary, and I had to muster up the courage from the yin yang.

My Best part, so far, was my boss calling me "Sir" today.

I felt like a new boy!! :]]]