All this time I've accepted myself as a MtF TS. But there has been that occasional moment where I've had to wonder if that's really so.

I think most of us would agree that there are two acceptable genders in society, male and female. All of us are expected to identify with one of those genders based on our genitalia and present ourselves to the world accordingly.

Long before I ever considered myself female I rejected a male identity. I could never be happy living life as a man. In our society what is the only alternative? Living as a woman.

Sometimes I wonder whether I'm really female or have come to consider myself female because it is the only acceptable alternative to male.

Then there are other times, most of the time actually, when I am certain I am female and always have been.

Either way, I've started MtF transition and plan to complete it. But I will always wonder.

Friendly word of advice. If you doubt, you should *REALLY* be looking at alternatives.
Do not feel you must finish just because you start. A lot of the journey is quite undoable and not at all fun. Be sure, I suggest. Very much regret it might save you.

i agree with Kimberly,

              it's lots better to do the wondering now rather than later after transition.



beth

Unfortunately the only alternative is living as a man, and that isn't an option.

I've always found it interesting how transition is only considered to be appropriate for TSs. Why not allow TGs to transition as well? I'm sure some of them could be very happy doing so, and they don't necessarily have to identify as the gender they transition to.

It really is unfortunate there are only two genders in society. Where does that leave TGs? I think they should have the option to transition as well if they choose.

But it is very possible if not likely that I identify as female. Either way, why not go through with transition? It's clear I'm not male. What else is there to do?

QuoteI've always found it interesting how transition is only considered to be appropriate for TSs. Why not allow TGs to transition as well? I'm sure some of them could be very happy doing so, and they don't necessarily have to identify as the gender they transition to.

I would think that those who do not desire to transition into female, or male, do in fact transition in a very significant manner if they have the desire to do so.  Transition is after all, only in part a physical thing, it is also a mental thing.

If one does not desire to change the body, but does in fact change their own self image and self esteem, I would call that just as tue a transition as that aquired by those who use chemicals and surgery to alter the body.

Anytime one is more comfortable with life and themselves then they were at a previous point, transition has occurred, be it in mind, body or both.

Terri

I agree.  The mind is much easier to change than the body.   Maybe you just need to change your attitude?

If only society felt the same way.

I have a male body. I will therefore be treated as a man in society, regardless of how I feel inside.

I wouldn't be able to handle living a male life.

If the mind truly were easier to change than the body, then none of us would be transitioning.

I know of one FtM who is partially transitioning and is comfortable with that, living life in between. Many of us would not be and that is why we are planning on full transition. I don't see that there's anything wrong with being genderqueer or being in between, but it's a hell of a harder road, both socially and in dealing with medical professionals who have the gender binary ingrained. It's also not necessarily questioning transition to feel that you are in between or want to appear more in between than you are. But do be aware that socially you will be taken as either male or female and not in between, except by a few enlightened sorts.

Dennis

QuoteIf the mind truly were easier to change than the body, then none of us would be transitioning.

err...that's not exactly what I meant.

But yeah, a partial transition is definitely no cakewalk.  There are many practical reasons why one would want to gravitate to one extreme or the other regardless of how comfortable they may feel inbetween.

Quote from: VeryGnawty on August 16, 2005, 06:50:43 PM
But yeah, a partial transition is definitely no cakewalk.  There are many practical reasons why one would want to gravitate to one extreme or the other regardless of how comfortable they may feel inbetween.

That's what I've been saying all along. I sometimes wish I could stay at a place in between. But we know that is not possible. It's either one or the other. I've chosen the other.

Just my opinion but..........is it like a tg seeking other tg's? Or something to that effect??

I would have to say that i agree with most of the ppl in here saying that if you wonder about it it's not something to inter into lightly.  with any change should come great thought.