I have thick straight hair, and I cowlick like crazy. I have one at the nape of my neck and one that parts my hair down the middle that wont go away no matter how much I try to brush it forward. I'd argue it's a 'part' but considering it's been over a year since I ditched the part down the middle hairstyle and it's there bothers me.

Since starting T it's gotten worse and I don't know what to do with my hair because I end up looking stupid. The only solutions I've come up with is cut it even shorter or grow it longer. I can't cut it shorter because I have embarrassing raised moles on my head and two of them are quite big(and I want to rid them, but how does one go about it on the scalp?) I'd grow my hair longer but, dealing with long or medium hair can be a pain and there's not really a style I like that could work for now. I'd prefer short hair.

Help? Mousse, gel, water, etc... don't help.

Have you tried a strong pomade like Murrays? It's very strong and used on short and long hair.

Quote from: rexgsd on March 16, 2010, 09:16:58 PM
Have you tried a strong pomade like Murrays? It's very strong and used on short and long hair.

I've used it before to style bangs, I guess I could try using it to tame the rest of my hair.

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I have embarrassing raised moles on my head and two of them are quite big(and I want to rid them, but how does one go about it on the scalp?)

A dermatologist will remove them, even a family Dr should be able to. It's a local anaesthetic I think but this is my opinion only.

I had curly hair most of my life and hated it, my sister had straight hair and hated it. What is it about hair

Cindy

Have you tried getting over yourself?

Guys aren't suppose to be so self conscious about such trivialities. Their mere existence is sufficient reward to the rest of us for the effort of being here.

Quote from: CindyJames on March 17, 2010, 02:49:09 AM
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I have embarrassing raised moles on my head and two of them are quite big(and I want to rid them, but how does one go about it on the scalp?)

A dermatologist will remove them, even a family Dr should be able to. It's a local anaesthetic I think but this is my opinion only.

I had curly hair most of my life and hated it, my sister had straight hair and hated it. What is it about hair

Cindy

I went to one and they said it wasn't necessary. I'm seeing my doctor today so I'll bring it up again.

Quote from: spacial on March 17, 2010, 03:49:44 AM
Have you tried getting over yourself?

Guys aren't suppose to be so self conscious about such trivialities. Their mere existence is sufficient reward to the rest of us for the effort of being here.

And yet they are, otherwise they wouldn't put stuff in their hair, wear cologne, try stuff like rogaine, dye their hair, get piercings, tattoos, work out, etc... it might be a different style and motive from women, but a lot men are self conscious about this stuff. I don't want to look like an idiot or white trash.

I'm not concerned about how I look to anyone but myself and right now I don't like it. So, yes, I do care because if I'm not confident in how I look then I'm not confident in myself... and that's a lot more unattractive.

Now that I wear my hair in a woman's style and have a competent hairdresser, I don't have that problem.  But when I had a man's haircut I always had a cowlick if it wasn't cut properly.  See if you can find a barber who can handle it.

- Kate

Lachlann

I really hope you can find some strategies to get your appearance the way you want it to be.

Sorry if I sounded blunt, I was trying to make light of it with a bit of friendly jibing.

I know a lot of men are very particular about their appearence. They tend to be really attractive.

(Your avitar photo does kinda give a more rugged impression to be honest).

Quote from: K8 on March 17, 2010, 07:55:36 AM
Now that I wear my hair in a woman's style and have a competent hairdresser, I don't have that problem.  But when I had a man's haircut I always had a cowlick if it wasn't cut properly.  See if you can find a barber who can handle it.

- Kate

Yeah, I should probably let a professional look at it. I've been having my mom cut my hair so maybe it's time to just shell out some money.

Quote from: spacial on March 17, 2010, 08:19:45 AM
Lachlann

I really hope you can find some strategies to get your appearance the way you want it to be.

Sorry if I sounded blunt, I was trying to make light of it with a bit of friendly jibing.

I know a lot of men are very particular about their appearence. They tend to be really attractive.

(Your avitar photo does kinda give a more rugged impression to be honest).

I had a hard time telling if you were joking or not to be honest, but no harm done. Sometimes it's hard to tell, normally I good at picking up on it, but y'know.

And trust me, I'm far from the metro/fem type but my hair is a pain in the butt sometimes, lol. If I wake up one morning with it sticking up every which way, good luck getting it down. The trouble with straight and thick hair is that the cowlicks are really noticeable and you end up seeing the person's scalp and that always looks pretty crappy no matter what look you want. I remember someone making fun of me because I had gotten a short haircut in High School, female styled, and he thought the hairdresser cut out a clump of hair but it was just how my hair grows in.

The Classic Male Solution to Hair Problems.

a hat

I have a few of those, you know what I'm doing to solve the problem?:... Letting it grow out.
*shrugs*

Blokes can easily have long hair too..

Quote from: tekla on March 17, 2010, 01:23:48 PM
The Classic Male Solution to Hair Problems.

a hat

lol this is true, very true. Hat hair is a lot more preferable and doesn't look that bad imo.

Quote from: Miniar on March 17, 2010, 01:25:20 PM
I have a few of those, you know what I'm doing to solve the problem?:... Letting it grow out.
*shrugs*

Blokes can easily have long hair too..

Oh I know, it's just easier to keep it short for me. I had hair that was 2-4 inches longer than what I had now for about 4 years and it just got boring and I wanted something different. I had a 7 inch ponytail for a while after that due to laziness in getting a haircut but the upkeep was tiring. I might try it again sometime.

If you have a nicely-shaped head, you can wear a buzz cut or something else really short.  That way all the hair sticks up and you can't see the cowlick.

(I could never wear my hair that short because my head isn't shaped well.   Either it got sat on when I was little or it's all those extra brains in there. )

- Kate

Your only options are to buzz it really short (which you have said you don't want to do) or to let it grow to a length around the cowlick so that it can be smoothed in.  I had one of those so I understand.  Now with some length it behaves a lot better.  But I always found that a spray gel by Aussie helped do the taming trick for me.  Incidentally, I had hair transplants and now that they are growing in, the new hair is a bit unruly in the front.  I still use the same product and it works to keep things in order.

Kristi

I can sympathize, Lachlann.  I have two cowlicks on top of my head - right where the horns should be.    The only way I've found to tame them is to go with a spiked, or "messy" hairstyle.  That way they just blend in and add "extra movement" as one hair stylist put it.  Something along the lines of one of these, for example:
   
Or else, if I wear a hat while my hair is still damp, it will at least flatten them out, though the swirl is still there. 

I kind of like the last one, Jamie-o. The rest don't seem like something I'd wear.

It seems like high maintenance to keep it that length, though. Next time I go into the doctors(I didn't bring it up last time), I'll talk about my moles because they're raised ones(which is why I'm so bothered by them.) I don't think I really have any money to get rid of them, though.

This is so frustrating. 

Quote from: Lachlann on March 24, 2010, 05:40:21 PM
It seems like high maintenance to keep it that length, though.

I've had my hair in a similar style.  It's really not bad at all.  You just wash your hair, let it dry, and then rub a little hair goop (wax, gel, whatever) between your palms until you have a thin layer on your hands an then rub your hands through the top of your hair.  Move your hair around with your fingers until it looks the way you want, wash your hands, and you're done.  Trust me, I'm the king of "Can't be Ar$ed" when it comes to my hair, and I had my hair that length for years.