I was outed by my ex wife while I was in hospital, she told my parents who had come down to visit me but then they made a hasty retreat back home, so I knew something was up. She also told my brother and sisters primarily I think to make me look bad as she had decided to leave as the marriage was over, something else I found out after I was released from hospital. I later found that she had also told a few of my friends who turned out to be ok about it, my other friends I told face to face. I have had a few rejections but mainly acceptance but that may be because I have moved away and don't see them face to face very often. But life coudn't be better, in a way I am pleased that she told people it saved me a difficult job.

I made a list of everyone I needed to tell, starting with close friends in the local area.  I told each person individually, face-to-face because I somehow felt I owed them that courtesy.  I told the core group in as rapid succession as I could manage, because I didn't want them to have the burden of keeping my secret for long. 

Early in the process I told my daughter by telephone.  (She lives 1,200 miles away.)  I told my sister and brother and a few others who live far away by letter, but only after I had built a local network of supporters.  I was fortunate, because it all went very well.

- Kate

I told my husband and counselor in person, and my sisters, aunt and dad by phone. Kinda wish I didn't tell my aunt and dad, I think things are weird between us now, but we've never been close and I don't think they ever thought much of me anyway.