Quote from: CindyJames on March 26, 2010, 02:18:19 AMSounds like you'll be heaps better off without the husband

He "mostly" moved out last night. Of course he was all pissy and angry about it. He's had over 8 months to prepare for this and he's the one who wanted to move out to begin with.

These last 8 month with him have been a living hell. I've had to put up with his moping, anger, insults, crying, laziness, immaturity and being vindictive. He hasn't once tried or even wanted to learn more about transgender issues. Instead he's crying he's the complete victim to get people's attention and guilt trip me (not happening). He doesn't even understand what hell we go through our whole life until we've gotten farther into transition. I few days ago I told him he has to get past this victim mentality and grow the f**k up. I believe him not being here and little contact with him will help relieve my stress and be therapeutic.

Glad things went well with telling your mum.

Ugh... I am so stuck right now. I just can't seem to get the courage to tell my father & stepmom. What is wrong with me? I'm a full grown man on my own and not dependent on them. I love them dearly and want them in my life but if I didn't it wouldn't be the end of the world.

They're the last big hump with telling my family... yet I keep putting it off in fear. Why can I not grow the balls to do this? The rest of my family is supportive so far. In the beginning I thought they would be the most accepting but other family don't think that will be the case. What did you guys do to get over this and tell the family member most important to you? I just seem stuck.

Well, I finally mailed my letter and book to my dad and stepmom. Let the fireworks begin. God help me.

Good luck to you on this. Working up the nerve to do it, the waiting, it's all so hard. Sending positive thoughts your way.

Quote from: Radar on June 07, 2010, 08:21:10 PM
Well, I finally mailed my letter and book to my dad and stepmom. Let the fireworks begin. God help me.

Is it a human condition to expect the total worse outcome and then feel oK as it wasn't as bad as you could possibly think

Good Luck Radar keeping my fingers crossed for you

Cindy

Quote from: CindyJames on June 08, 2010, 03:41:32 AMIs it a human condition to expect the total worse outcome and then feel oK as it wasn't as bad as you could possibly think

Thanks everyone. It's hard to have faith when all the family members who know (and are all supportive) expect this to be a disaster too. At least this is the last of my immediate family to tell.

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Well, my package should have gotten to them by now but I haven't heard a word. They haven't contacted any other family too. If they want to cut me from their life at least I wish they'd say so. Maybe they were really angry and don't want to talk to me until the shock and anger has settled down some. I would prefer to talk to them when they aren't angry or combative. I just don't know. Has this happened to anyone else?