Well, if neither you nor your partner has any experience in the area, I do have to highly recommend playing around at least a little bit in private first. If your partner's topped for someone's first time before and knows what they're doing, then sure, let them play

A little word of warning on the BC pill, if I may...

(No, I'm not going to start foaming at the mouth and retelling my horror stories at the mention of the pill again, I promise )

If you find that your periods are heavier, more painful, more frequent - see your doctor. This shouldn't happen.

If you find that your body is changing shape, your skin is changing, you are losing body hair, you're growing tits, or you're otherwise feminizing like a MTF would - see your doctor. This probably shouldn't happen. You've got whack hormones.

If you find that you are experiancing massive depression and/or mood swings - STOP THE PILL AND SEE YOUR DOCTOR IMMEDIATELY. This should not happen. You aren't insane, the pill has been known to do that to some people. Sex is not worth your sanity.

Avoid anything with Cyproterone Acetate (Brenda, Diane, etc) - That's a testosterone blocker.

If you have reason to believe your T levels are high, or your hormone levels are otherwise a bit "abnormal", tell your doctor and excersize caution on the pill.

You may have to keep going back again and again for different mixes of the pill, and you may start to feel like you're annoying your doctor. Try not to worry about it, try as many mixes as you have to. It's your body, you live with it - not them.

Personally, I'd also give the doc a heads up on the GID. It seems relevent, considering you're about to start eating sex hormones. You don't want them to perscribe you anything with a T-blocker in it, and it'll give them more reason to listen to you if you start experiancing deal-breaking side effects (like mental ones).

Blood spotting, UTIs and thrush are very, very common in the first month or two of the pill. As is weight gain, fluid retention, and some bloating.

Sorry if I've scared you any . The vast majority of people can take one varient or another of the pill just fine. It's just that the few percent that can't have a very, very bad time.

QuotePersonally, I'd also give the doc a heads up on the GID. It seems relevent, considering you're about to start eating sex hormones. You don't want them to perscribe you anything with a T-blocker in it, and it'll give them more reason to listen to you if you start experiancing deal-breaking side effects (like mental ones).

Yes.  Definitely do this.  I told my gyno I was "female to male transgendered," and she was very accommodating in prescribing me some really strong birth control.  (Unfortunately it didn't really work for me, but that's a different story. )

Quote from: Teknoir on March 28, 2010, 08:47:44 AM
If you find that you are experiancing massive depression and/or mood swings - STOP THE PILL AND SEE YOUR DOCTOR IMMEDIATELY. This should not happen. You aren't insane, the pill has been known to do that to some people. Sex is not worth your sanity.

This. This is what happened to me - it's rare, like I said before, but it happens and it's serious and everyone should be aware of it but not all doctors who prescribe BC are OB/GYNs who know about this stuff in detail.

I've got a bunch of stuff I could say. You can do alternatives to sex like frotting with a condom on, oral only, etc. Abstinence is the only 100% way to avoid pregnancy.
With anal you could start with fingering (wearing lubricated gloves or condoms, water base lube only) and work your way up. Toys aren't needed when you already have a way to increase the size being used to penetrate.

Now, if you absolutely need to have "front hole sex" there are 3 things that if used perfectly have a very low possible risk of pregnancy. Use a condom (correctly, a lot of people mess it up), use birth control correctly, and pull out. Using an IUD would help a lot more, but it's unlikely that you'll be able to find a doctor that will give you one. Also, get the morning after pill and keep it nearby so if anything goes wrong you'll have an after the fact back up.

I was on a birth control simply to control the bleeding (I was bleeding for 4 months). The pill did what I needed it to, but it also did a whole bunch of other stuff that I did not want. I gained weight, my chest size increased, hips increased, I got acne, cramps were extremely painful, and I was flipping out at every little thing.

I stopped taking my BC a month ago because it was blocking the masculinizing effects of my PCOS plus I can't afford the pills right now.  I'm currently having the red death from Hell right now, though, so I'm considering going back on it (I still don't have the money for it, though-- I might have to go to Planned Parenthood).  This must be what my periods were like four years ago before I started the BC-- crazy heavy with cramps.  Uggg.  I miss my one day of spotting of a month, even though that couldn't have been good for me.