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How Long Before You Weren't Surprised to Be Called "Ma'am" (or "Sir")?

Started by K8, November 21, 2009, 09:43:06 PM

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Morgan

I get all warm and tingly when I get called Sir, even after nearly two years of RLE. I may look like a 13-year-old boy, but at least it's boy :) I'm happy with that for now. Though I am getting kinda aggravated when everyone and their brother says 'boy, you can drive? You look so young! How old are you?' Etc. etc.




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Autumn

I got straight up sirred today at work after a coworker used my male name accidentally (which was funny, since we were just having a conversation where he was apologizing for using my male name.) I'm still carrying it with me 7 hours later, but strangely, it doesn't bother me as much as it used to. Somehow, 'being outed' is different than failing on my own merits. First time in months.

Though it was strange considering how many times people ma'amed me even with my male name. Black men, bleh.
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kyril

I don't think I can remember ever noticing getting ma'amed. I don't get sir'd either (I must just not go places where those honorifics are used on young people). I think I'd be a little disconcerted if I were called either 'sir' or 'ma'am.' Like "Have I really aged that much since this morning?"

Occasionally I get 'man', and when in a group I get included in collective 'boys' and 'guys' and sometimes 'gentlemen.' That's been happening since grade school, sometimes with an awkward 'and lady' added as an afterthought, but not sincerely.

I am still a bit surprised when I get read as male individually though. I'm used to it when I'm in a group of guys because...well, nobody expects to see five or six guys and a masculine-seeming girl, so they don't even really look at me until I open my mouth. But when I'm out alone and I get "he" it makes me really happy.


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Natalie3174

I never get maam or sir. I always get 'Mate.' Bloody Australians!! All they wanna do is throw another Shrimp on the Barby and call everyone 'mate.'
But long have I dwelt in the darkside and the time shall come when I seek my ressurection through the netherworld of the Force and begin to rise as the Sith lady I have become. And I will strike down those who oppose me. And SUFFER the little children may they come unto me. Yes SUFFER! I like that! Of the Dark side it is. Down with the Jedi, Down with the Jedi..Oh geez I think im losing it!
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K8

Kyril,
You're right about age.  I remember the first time I was called "sir" (back in the bad old days of presenting male).  I was in my late 20s and the kid was about 14.  I didn't know whether to be pleased (Gee, I'm finally grown up) or displeased (Yow, I must be getting old).  At my present advanced age I get the honorifics a lot, especially in some parts of the US. ::)

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mr_marc

I get sir'ed on the phone, but i dont in person because i look about 12 lol.
But i sound alot older so its pretty cool on the phone.
But it makes me feel old..
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Arch

Okay, I know this thread is serious, but it reminds me of a Monty Python sketch...specifically the first fifteen seconds or so:

"The hammer is my penis." --Captain Hammer

"When all you have is a hammer . . ." --Anonymous carpenter
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V M

I love Monty Python... LOL

I got ma'amed at two stores today... It still made me feel good

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Jam


haha monty python, classic!

um im always suprised because i still have long hair and am know where near starting T yet.
I do get called 'mate' and 'pal' relatively often though, its ace.
What i don't like is that because im not on T i know theres a good chance within the next few mins they are going to suss that im actually a girl. Makes me really self concious, questions are my worst fear, if i can't answer by nodding my head im doomed!

Voice of a 5 year old girl honestly...im in my late teens and i still get 'is your mummy or daddy at home' on the phone.
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Radar

Quote from: kyril on April 05, 2010, 12:07:22 AMOccasionally I get 'man', and when in a group I get included in collective 'boys' and 'guys' and sometimes 'gentlemen.' That's been happening since grade school, sometimes with an awkward 'and lady' added as an afterthought, but not sincerely.

I've gotten that all my life too when with a group of guys. Many times when someone would say "and lady" someone would go "[Radar's] just one of the guys anyway". Always made me feel good. ;D
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BlackWolf

I guess for me, I'm never really surprised when I get called "Sir." It's always happened to me... even before I fully realized that I wanted to be seen as male. Even when I had long hair, I was always referred to as male by random strangers. I've got so many stories about that sort of thing it's not even funny. Big fella is my favorite one so far though. Things like that just keep me entertained.
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Nigella

Its nothing new to me, even in my late teens I was called ma'am and miss before I transitioned and that's a longgggggggggggg time ago, lol. But living full time for the last two years it still feels kind of good and a confirmation of my femininity and womanhood. I wouldn't say it surprises me but rather makes me feel good inside if that makes sense.

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Arch

Quote from: Minkle on April 05, 2010, 06:16:48 PM
Voice of a 5 year old girl honestly...im in my late teens and i still get 'is your mummy or daddy at home' on the phone.

Ooh, ouch. You might find relief through a voice changer, although that would only help you on the phone.
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Jam

Quote from: Arch on April 06, 2010, 03:49:05 PM
Ooh, ouch. You might find relief through a voice changer, although that would only help you on the phone.

Yeah maybe =/ lets hope when i take T it has an effect pretty early on
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Kristyn

It's been a while since I've been called sir, dude or bud, but after 12 or so years of living full-time, I still get a little surprised when someone calls me ma'am or sometimes even miss.  Not sure why.
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Frances

15 months into HRT, it is still a little surprising sometimes. Since I feel the same as I always have, there is sometimes that moment where I go: oh yeah, right, you have transitionned!

icontact

I'm really young, so I kindof grew into transition about the same time a bio-guy would go through puberty, so I was never really surprised after I'd gotten a haircut. My hair was the only thing holding me back for a long while.
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Maddie Secutura

It doesn't surprise me to be called ma'am anymore; I can't get called sir even if I tried.  I know I'm reiterating everything previously said but it still always feels good to be called ma'am. 


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pebbles

I got called a "Miss" today... just for a second but it's the first time in a long time It's happened it used to happen occasionally when I was younger a once in every 3 month occurrence it always made my day when it happened.

A woman was selling an eyebrow threading service to women walking past she turned to me as I walked past and said. "Hello miss would you be int... *calmly stares at me for a second before bursting into laughter* hahaha oh my gosh I'm so sorry sir!"

Almost there!! ^_^
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