It's crazy how sometimes people say something meaning to insult you, and it ends up making your day.  A couple days ago I was out by the loading dock at the theatre on a break when a couple guys walking by started giving me crap for the pants I was wearing.  I'm on the stage crew for a big musical, working the set changes, so I have to be wearing all black.  The only black pants I have are womens skinny jeans.

so these guys walking by start laughing, saying "WTF dude? you wearing your sisters pants or something?  Look at this guy, wearing his sisters pants." I kinda just shrugged and let them look like morons.  This other guy who was outside the pizza place next door saw the whole thing, and as soon as  they were gone says "Those guys need to look at them selves, people suck man." "Yeah, thats why I didn't bother saying anything. It's not worth it."

Made my day.

Now that's an oxymoron of a different color. (mixed metaphor but hey) Strange to be happy about comments most would consider harassment.

Yay...??
I guess....

Now that you pass as a matter of course maybe it is time to invest alittle more into the old wardrob..?

One question, were you packing? I'm trying to figure out how much bio guys check for junk down there before figuring out what gender a person is...

Quote from: zombiesarepeaceful on April 07, 2010, 03:00:55 PM
One question, were you packing? I'm trying to figure out how much bio guys check for junk down there before figuring out what gender a person is...

I'll answer that one for you. Unless a guy is gay then I would say bio checking another man is actually a pretty big no-no!

In the one brief period of my life when I was at least notionally male and doing my reparative therapy between 18 and 23 that was one of the things which used to get me into trouble. Cos I used to bio check other guys too much.

I can back Jenny up on this. I had a bad case of crotch gazing. Men are sexualy hyper aware, they know if you look at their package and if it is a dude doing the looking .... You just better hope the guy you are looking at is either too small to do anything about it or gay.
Men do not look at eachothers package as a general rule.

Well, you're not supposed to look directly at it, but if it's obviously not there (e.g. in women's skinny jeans) then, well, it's obvious.

I'm a serial crotch-gazer at times. But if that's what ends up getting me gay-bashed, I guess I'll know I've arrived.

Quote from: kyril on April 07, 2010, 03:47:54 PM


I'm a serial crotch-gazer at times. But if that's what ends up getting me gay-bashed, I guess I'll know I've arrived.

Lol. Um, yeah. About that. I do it too, mostly to see if my packer looks realistic.

Actually, I remember a study where they said that a man is most likely to look at the crotch when focusing in on a person while women are more likely to look at the face and the crotch I think it was.

Quote from: zombiesarepeaceful on April 07, 2010, 03:00:55 PM
One question, were you packing? I'm trying to figure out how much bio guys check for junk down there before figuring out what gender a person is...

We do not.

- N

I'm guilty of crotch gazing as well, again mostly to see if my packing is realistic.  Most of the time I can't see anything when I look, so I doubt it would be very useful as a gender identifier, even if men did look at eachother's junk.

I'm surprised they made fun of you for that, though.  Guys wearing skinny jeans is really popular up here right now.  Even brightly colored skinny jeans.  I think it looks dumb, personally, but I guess I'm just getting old and uncool.

Ah hah! Found the article.

Men look at the face and crotch, women look only at the head. I had it mixed up a bit.

http://www.ojr.org/ojr/stories/070312ruel/

I'm more interested in how a stagehand can wear tight clothing.

Quote from: tekla on April 07, 2010, 10:34:38 PM
I'm more interested in how a stagehand can wear tight clothing.

? why wouldn't they be able to

constricting? perhaps not.  pants tight enough to be considered "his sisters pants"? not sure why there'd be any issue.

If they're women's jeans, they're probably that flimsy stretch denim that doesn't restrict movement.

Quote from: kyril on April 08, 2010, 12:13:22 AM
If they're women's jeans, they're probably that flimsy stretch denim that doesn't restrict movement.

I hate that stuff!  Right now all I have are woman's jeans and I wear through those things so quick.  That flimsy stuff just rips right up after a year or so, sometimes less.  When I need new jeans, my main excuse for getting men's is going to be durability.

I'm in a constant battle to find stuff that will wear well, not restrict movement but not be so loose that it gets caught in stuff, particularly mechanical stuff, and still falls within the range of the dress code when I have to adhere to it (which is rarely).  I think that's the reason that most of the stagehands I know tend to buy all their stage clothes at places like REI where the stuff is made well, and made to move it while not being all flowing and baggy.  Like stuff made for climbing, hiking and skiing.  It's either that or the dickies/carhart wardrobe.

Of course you could have just said "What, it's not an emo show?"

Hahah that's awesome.  I love when people try insulting me but it's just a confidence boost.  I've been passing as male consistently for over a year and it still gets me every time.  I was running the other day, and a group of other guys also running just happened to me running near me, and someone yelled "->-bleeped-<-s!" out the window at us.  Most guys would be pissed if someone tried attacking their sexuality but I got a rush out of the fact that calling me something related to liking men is now supposed to be an insult 

Also says a lot about the attackers' insecurities.  Just brush it off as you did