Yeah-- I'm pretty much with the nerds or the gay people.  I don't like hanging around girls who talk about clothes and makeup and boys and stuff all the time (but then again, lesbians who talk about girls all the time annoy me just as much), but girls with more andro/masculine pursuits are perfect for me, as are guys who aren't macho men.  They don't have to be effeminate, but I find that jocks tend not to accept me as much.

I'm friends with lots of people; most people who are openminded enough to be my friend are fine with me.  I'm friends with more girls than boys, which is good because we can talk about clothes and boys (ha ha, Devin)!  Also, as of late I'm friends with some other transgendered people at my school (one was a friend before, one sought me out; there's a third person whose commented anonymously on formspring, but who I don't know, so I don't know why I mention them), which is pretty cool.

I have a couple close friends that are all girls, but they're nerdy, not particularly girly girls. I like them because we can watch sci-fi tv shows and have weird in-jokes, and they take me as I am rather than caring about why I dress/act as a boy half the time.  Other than that, I hang out with guys quite a lot, mostly because of the sports/activities I do. (Whitewater canoeing, ice hockey.) I don't have any close guy friends as I'd really like to, but thanks to hockey I'm fairly well accepted as "one of the guys" by most of the school jocks. Other than that, I only really hang out with other girls in mixed groups, and again, it's not girly-girls. Me + very fashionable, feminine girls = doesn't work.
A lot of the time, I wish I could be better friends with the guys I know. It's definitely one of the reasons I started considering being transgender.

I grew up in a very small country town and spent my childhood hanging out with the boys and one other 'tomboy' riding motorbikes and playing sports...definitely not playing dress ups or with dolls.

Senior schooling was hard..I tended to hang with females and gay males. I think to some extent we all realised that we didn't quite fit anywhere else and that gave us all something in common . By this stage I was getting a lot of male attention (usually from the alpha males) and its hard to explain but it made me feel powerful in that I could attract this attention but at the same time it was uncomfortable because it certainly didn't make me feel giggly or go weak at the knees and I soon learnt that it was best to try and stay under the radar.

I then spent 6 years in the Air Force..what a blast!!! Male and like minded females, my personality soared. In my squadron, I was one of a handfull of females and I can honestly say that these were some of the best days of my life.

Now, a bit further down the road... given my location and situation (an expatriate), my closest friends are female (not girly girls tho). I still enjoy male companionship but often my friendliness is 'misread' by males and I certainly don't want to upset the wives!
I still have good relationships (albeit on facebook) with males from my past which allows the 'maleness' to step up.
I figure it's probably safer behind a screen for now.

The one's that are on my MSN, Yahoo, and AIM.

Quote from: brainiac on March 18, 2010, 09:35:37 PM
Nerdy boys, nerdy girls. Not the most heteronormative bunch. That simple!

This.

Geek first...girl second

All of them open-minded and just little bit wierd. No jocks and my best friend is a drummer.

Pretty much anyone with whom I can have an intelligent conversation.

To be honest I'm not generally to struck on either the ultra macho or ultra girly - but within the middle ground I'll be pals with just about anyone.

Now I'm being completely honest I will admit that I do fairly unashamedly bat for both teams as required. It's far more fun, and that way, to continue the sporting analogy, you get picked for first team appearences far more often.

So for example on a fairly regular basis I find that one night I will be invited to a female only chick flic night, or an ann-summers lingerie party by my girlfriends, while the next I will be out playing pool and having a few beers with a few of the boys! Neither group ever seems to have a problem accepting me fully as one of them which is just how I like things to be.

My friends are mostly girls and all pretty geeky in there interests. I have to say i did once have a very girly bestfriend and i got on with her like a house on fire. I found it was pretty easy to bring her down to my level, true i could never talk about video games and comics but we could find a middle ground. Of course occasionally she would babble on about men and clothes and perfume and the newest chick flick but i have an inner off switch so it was fine.

I did use to have quite a few male friends, some i still have i just don't see them as often as i'd like. I do miss the days of biking and playing football =[

Quote from: Minkle on April 14, 2010, 09:37:33 AM
... true i could never talk about video games and comics but we could find a middle ground. Of course occasionally she would babble on about men and clothes and perfume and the newest chick flick ...

Nothing wrong with any of those things I love chick flicks men perfume clothes AND video games and comics AND biking - I'll pass on the football though.

Wow thats a good mixture of interests, i guess you can find something to talk about with a lot of people?

sometimes i struggle when others are just not interested in the same things i am.  You know its going to be hard when the dreaded 'hows the weather?' question comes into the convo.

I'd like to think I'm able to socialize okay with most people, but apparently with my now-friend who was in the same class as me thought I was really surly whenever she said hi to me... until she mentioned she liked video games, and I warmed up to her immediately and we became friends for years.

And I thought I was being friendly beforehand. :[

I have a wide range of friends now that I think about it.  I like to believe that variety is the spice of life, however trite that may sound.  In the past I tended to make friends easier with women and other gender neutral types, or the people that were just around me for whatever reason - I guess I am just lazy in that respect and randomly form friendships.  But over time I opened up to more people regardless of what gender or social faction they may belong to.  Lately I've noticed I've made friends with people all over the map in both gender, subcultural ties and age, though I usually feel closest to other androgynous or neutral people.

I think I have/had a typical array of androgyne-like hobbies.  I love nature, outdoor activities, individual sports, cooking, art, writing, study, fashion, building stuff, DIY culture, technology, bargain shopping, cultural studies, & animals.