When should one start using the men's room?

I pass as a boy, not a young man, a little boy, but a boy nonetheless. And I pass pretty much all the time, but I don't think I've ever used the men's room. And idk if I can. I use the women's room &I get weird looks everytime. I feel so awkward in there cause everyone sees me as a guy(im sure, or I wouldn't get funny looks &little girls running out), im afraid someone's going to eventually report me or something.
The reason I use the women's room is because everytime I'm out im usually with my family &they don't know. But I try my best to find a unisex or family restroom, or just make it quick in the women's room. God, I swear everytime I walk in, all the ladies are staring at me like wtf are you doing in here. But then I walk in with my mom so they prolly figure I'm just butch or somthing, bleh. And when I go in with my friends, im guessing ppl just prolly assume im a little gay boy. But its not just the ladies in the restroom that get weirded out, its the ppl that see me go in as well, and of course me. I feel like I don't belong in there, but I feel like I can't go in the men's room either. So I'm pretty much an outcast that doesn't belong anywhere.. Well that's how I feel... What to do? Any suggestions?... besides holding it, cuz that's what I do most of the time. And my pack n pee broke, well I tried modifying it and well it worked for a bit but I need to fix it again so I don't rly use it anymore. So I can't just stand outside and go anywhere anymore either. What do you think?

My first suggestion is to work on coming out to your friends/family.  Because making women feel uncomfortable in "their space" is probably the last thing you want to do (for your own safety mostly). 

If you can't/don't want to tell them, that's okay too.  This is what I think might work:  the men's if you are passing enough to make people stare/feel uncomfortable by using the women's.  When alone, use the men's or find a unisex if available (and you prefer that).  When with family/friends who don't know, just use the bathroom at a different time and use the men's.

Quote from: Adio on April 17, 2010, 02:49:25 PM
My first suggestion is to work on coming out to your friends/family.  Because making women feel uncomfortable in "their space" is probably the last thing you want to do (for your own safety mostly). 

If you can't/don't want to tell them, that's okay too.  This is what I think might work:  the men's if you are passing enough to make people stare/feel uncomfortable by using the women's.  When alone, use the men's or find a unisex if available (and you prefer that).  When with family/friends who don't know, just use the bathroom at a different time and use the men's.

My friends know, its just my family that doesn't understand. I don't use the men's with them because I feel weird idk lol its like I feel like I can't or am not supposed to cuz its stuck in my brain.