i think i might be gay. Lately female boobs have been staring at me. there just so big how can u not miss them and they move. but then again dating and careing about a female in that manner or anyone in that way seems gross. i dont know this is freaking me out. im out is society as male but... i look at female body and its gross cause i dont want it i dont want to be that but it looks nice and when i look at a male body i want that i want to look like that, i want the parts, but i dont feel attracted to them. IDK i feel trapped and confused. maybe i should date a bi guy.

You need to figure out who you are attracted to emotionally and sexually, which is separate from your own gender and what you wish your body looked like.  Take your time, there is no rush.

FWIW I spent my whole life living as F, attracted to men, but after starting T I went through a period where boobs just turned me on.  But as more time went on  I realized that I am still physically and emotionally attracted to men, and not  just because I personallly like masculinity for myself, it's just that I like MEN.

It's not always black and white, or easy to figure out if your own gender identity is confusing.

Jay

The original post confuses me with the lack of punctuation.
Are you asking us a question or just stating your own confusion?
If the former, are you asking which gender we're attracted to, or which sex?
/grammarnazi.

I'm attracted to the male gender.. that being trans men, or cis men

SOMETIMES I find women cute or sexy.. but I wouldnt want to date a woman, I find them annoying lol

Mostly pansexual.

I have always been attracted to females.  During the years I attempted to 'conform' to the sexuality that I thought everyone wished for me to (trying to force myself to be attracted to men, date men, etc.), but it failed miserably.  Thinking of physical sexual contact with men makes me nauseous.  I don't mind what others enjoy, but I do not enjoy sexual contact with males.  Women turn me on sexually.  I am romantically attracted to women in the emotional sense, as well.  I have always thought that certain men were handsome, but always found that I wanted to BE them, rather than be WITH them, if that makes sense.

I've always liked chicks, aesthetically speaking. I can't say it was ever a struggle for me. Just one day wondered if I was attracted to the same sex, got into a relationship with a girl and went "oh well guess so."

However I'm a little on the misogynistic side thanks to experiences with 'em.. but guys I usually tend to get along with only on a platonic level, with the exception of my boyfriend. I can look at a dude and think he's attractive, but it's usually in a different way than I do with chicks. Hard to explain concisely. Sex with either is fine by me. And it makes no difference to me whether they're gender dysphoric, though I've never been involved with somebody who was.

I'm a straight guy for the most part I mean I wouldn't put much thought into it if I did fall in love with a man, but I find myself to mostly be attracted to women both emotionally and sexually. If I look at men it's usually me thinking "Man I wish I had -insert some random masculine feature here-." While with girls if I find them attractive I usually think something more along the lines of "Man she's hot/beautiful. I should try talking to her."

You should probably hold off on relationships until you figure it out.

Used to like guys, now I like girls more. Go figure. Maybe I'll swing back to the other side someday like a pendulum.

More interested in female bodies though. I've got a touch of misogyny but not significant. Haven't met a girl more interesting to talk to than a guy but maybe it's just my interests.

Women, here. Always loved women.

I know it seems hard and is easier said than done, but try to relax about it. You don't want to work yourself up too much. It could be that you only find women gross because you hate your body, or maybe you simply do not like them. I wouldn't get involved with anyone, actually if I were you I'd stop thinking about relationships and go with the flow. It's not mandatory that you figure your sexuality out right away or start dating people, but even then, worrying about it is probably going to make it harder to figure out.

I'm feeling pretty asexual at the moment.  I think I'm romantically attracted to males, but I could see myself living with and raising a child with and just being a life partner with a female more so than a male.  The thought of having sex with either gender sort of grosses me out right now though, even though I love wacking off (especially since starting T) and like porn featuring either gender.  I'm personally not worrying about my weird feelings right now.  It'll work itself out.  I'm just going to stay out of the dating scene until it does.

Both, neither, and all of them.  And I've dated (or at least fooled around with) people from pretty much every gender or sexual identity too. (bi girl, lesbian, straight male, bi male, gay male, male bodied CD, female bodied gender queer, and a MtF) I guess that would make me pansexual.

Lately though, I've found myself mostly attracted to more masculine people, and male identified over female identified.  Makeup, high heels and dresses are kind of a turn off for me (with very few exceptions).

If you see someone your attracted to, go for it. Try not to get caught up with wondering if dating someone will make you gay, or straight, or an alien, and be with whoever makes you happy, and feel safe and comfortable with being you.

I've always liked guys. And it's kind of funny, I've always been more attracted to gay guys, sometimes without even knowing they're gay. So that's kind of perfect for me.
There have been a few times where I've questioned if I liked girls. Like, I know when a girl is pretty, or has a hot body or whatever. But when it comes down to it, I can't picture myself in a relationship with a girl. It kind of irks me actually. But hey, if I met a girl I really connected with, I wouldn't mind being in a relationship with her.

My suggestion is to just go with the flow. Don't worry about it too much. Eventually you will find the right person for you, and whether it's a male or a female, or somewhere in between, there's no reason to get jumbled up about it. Just do what makes you happy.

I like men exclusively. Always have, fairly certain I always will. There was a period of time I tried to force myself to be bi (back when I was convinced that I'd have to at least pretend to be straight to be taken seriously as a trans guy) but those experiences did not work, and I feel really terrible for the girls I experimented with. If it was even half as uncomfortable for them as it was for me...

Also, I'm like Espenoah in that I've always been more attracted to gay guys, at least on a relationship level. (Some straight guys are hot, I won't deny it, but the relationship dynamic is sort of dysfunctional). My biggest crushes in high school as well as nearly all my close friends ended up being gay, as did the guys who were my partners in my two least dysfunctional relationships before my husband.

Maybe I'm weird but I don't think it is gender that appeals necessarily. I usually end up attracted to the ladies but once or twice have found a man worth looking twice at. Only one ever worth spending time with tho.  I think the attraction factor has a lot to do with certain facial features and animation, personality and other abstract things.


I know a number of people (all female) on this site that I would love to know personally. Some as friends , some as potential partners.


BTW, Dating is nothing more than a way to decide if the person you are with will be a long term person you are with. Some say otherwise but that is what it boils down to.

I'm attracted to intelligent, rational, clever and playful human beings, irregardless of where they fall on the sex or gender continuum.

I consider myself a straight guy, but I do usually end up liking the androgynous looking girls as well as feminine girls. My girlfriend was dressed up like a boy for a play the first time I met her lol.

As I used to say: "I'm the gayest thing on wheels."

So... men. Especially the older classy type menfolk. I'm not into the macho crap. I do likes me some bears though... *evillaugh*

Quote from: Elijah on May 06, 2010, 08:30:07 PM
I'm attracted to the male gender.. that being trans men, or cis men

SOMETIMES I find women cute or sexy.. but I wouldnt want to date a woman, I find them annoying lol

however, I'm only ever sometimes attracted to a transwoman, where I wouldn't ever date a cis gender woman simply because of them having to go through a similar struggle as Trans men. Yet they emerge from thier transistion  beautiful, instead of manly, and I find that kinda sexy...have no clue why though...its just something I admire.  I have noticed more so now the pressures society places on women (I'M Freee wooohooo!). They gracefully accept that. And thats kinda...awesome

I'm only sexually attracted to elves.

  I like boys, really.  In my first week of public school, I saw a beautiful boy for the first time and had my first crush.  Yeah, I tried to like girls for a short time, but... I kissed a girl and didn't like it.  Girls just don't do anything for me.