Hi Everyone, I just found this place doing a search, kinda funny really I've been post op for almost 7 years.

I think I'm feeling a bit unsettled in my life lately, you know like I'm missing something so I thought what could it hurt to "talk" to some women in the same boat so to speak.

I don't go to support groups anymore.....too many bad experiences with some of the people. some good ones too, but I don't know if they go any longer either.

Anyway, a little about me. I just turned 51 and I live my life stealth. I've not had any issues in that regard and I prefer to keep it that way.

I've made some friends over the past few years and I cannot imagine what it would be like if they found out.

If I can help with what to expect after surgery I'd me more than happy to chat. I may occasionally vent, some things are not at all what I expected, but perhaps I expect too much?

My biggest gripe is I have not had sex in nearly 10 years! Yikes. I miss being held and touched.

I'll post more as time permits.

Hi Heligirl,

Welcome to our little family. Over 4600 strong. That would be one heck of a family reunion.

Feel free to post your successes/failures, Hopes/dreams.  Ask questions and seek answers. Give and receive advice.

But remember we are family here, your family now. And it is always nice to have another sister.

And be sure to check out these links ( MUST READS )

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Hugs and Love,
Janet

Quote from: Heligirl on May 08, 2010, 10:28:30 PM
Hi Everyone, I just found this place doing a search, kinda funny really I've been post op for almost 7 years.

I think I'm feeling a bit unsettled in my life lately, you know like I'm missing something so I thought what could it hurt to "talk" to some women in the same boat so to speak.

I don't go to support groups anymore.....too many bad experiences with some of the people. some good ones too, but I don't know if they go any longer either.

Anyway, a little about me. I just turned 51 and I live my life stealth. I've not had any issues in that regard and I prefer to keep it that way.

I've made some friends over the past few years and I cannot imagine what it would be like if they found out.

If I can help with what to expect after surgery I'd me more than happy to chat. I may occasionally vent, some things are not at all what I expected, but perhaps I expect too much?

My biggest gripe is I have not had sex in nearly 10 years! Yikes. I miss being held and touched.

I'll post more as time permits.

Hi HeliGirl welcome to Susan's.  I'm confident you will find many helpful, friendly people here--I know I did.  Don't feel bad about the sex thing, I have you beat by five years!   I kinda missed being held and stuff too, but I don't think I could really handle anything long term as I've grown to be pretty independent.  Not only that, I have a lot of hobbies as well.

Enjoy your stay!

Thank you for the warm welcome!

Wow! No sex for 15years! I have a lot of things to keep me busy as well, it is just that at times they don't seem like enough. And I get to thinking what if?

It is really nice to be able to chat with you ladies. It does help to get it out in the open and see I'm not the only one. Much like going the first support group meeting and seeing all the other TG people there.

Take care.

Welcome to Susan's, Heligirl. 

There's a lot of good information and good people here.  Each of our stories is unique but we have a lot in common.  Settle in, pull up a keyboard, and explore.

As Janet said, be sure to look under the Announcements heading or follow her links to read the rules we live by in this little world of ours.

I am just over two weeks post-op and am trying to move up to the next size dilator.  I'm getting pain and blood – both manageable – but it occurred to me that the main reason I'm doing the dilations so carefully is to be able to have receptive sex.  And after the pain and blood, I better get some someday! 

But the main thing for me was to feel right, and finally I do.

Transition doesn't solve all of our problems.  It solves one great big one but can create more.  I hope things even out for you and that you are again a happy woman.

Happy exploring.

- Kate