You could go back in time and make it so you are born the gender you were supposed to be, would you do it or not?

Personally my first answer was YES DUH COURSE I WOULD but then i got to thinking. If i was born male from the very beginning would i be the same person i am now? the answer for me is a definate no.

Had i been born male i would have never been homosexual and i would never have been trans and i think that would have made me a very close minded person. Before all this when i assumed i was 'normal' i went by what other people said and didn't question it. I remember before i knew i liked girls asking what a lesbian was, my friends made fun of them so i did too.

Going through this has made me realise how much of a sheep i was back then, always following the crowd, never thinking about my own opinion. Never bothering to read up the facts of things. I think thats a big problem that we face, many people just go on what others think and say instead of educating themselves.

So yeah in a way i am glad im trans because it's made me a very open minded and non-judegmental person.  Its a huge burden and im only just beginning so if i will have this frame of mind by the end of it i don't know but for now i can see the good thats come out of it.

Although...the benefits on the physical side do add up quite a bit, for starters i wouldn't have to worry about the fact bottom surgery is not that amazing at the moment.

How do you feel about it?

I don't know if there's been a discussion like this before sorry if there has, oh and i can't spell so sorry again

When I was younger I used to be really popular and I was a bitch to everyone. Then when I started to realize that something was different about me, everyone started making fun of me. If I was born female I don't think i every would have realized how much it hurt to be made fun of because you're different, and to this day I would probably be very close minded and always make fun of people that are different.

So my answer would also be a definite no.

I wasn't mean to everyone as a child, but they certainly were to me. If I had been born in the right body, I probably would have made it through school much more easily. However, I don't think I would be as empathetic as I am now, nor as humble. Then again, I probably would have been the recipient of the terrible treatment my younger sister got from my father, so there's a chance at least she would have came out a better or less tormented person.

I wouldn't change things. I'm definitely not a religious person, but I still think I started out in this body in this lifetime for a reason.

Id say no. As much as I'd like to have been born with a female body, all the experiences I have had are what shaped my opinions and self awareness. I might have ended up being a different person but thats not always for the best. If there was a choice to have that body and to keep my memories as they are now however I would say yes in an instant.

Quote from: Metamorph on May 10, 2010, 10:23:44 AM
If there was a choice to have that body and to keep my memories as they are now however I would say yes in an instant.

yeah that would be my ideal too, although i suppose in a way we are getting that just...in a difficult way.

Quote from: Thomas on May 10, 2010, 10:08:09 AM
You could go back in time and make it so you are born the gender you were supposed to be, would you do it or not?

I would do it in a heartbeat because...well...dealing with GID sucks. If I could do that certain things wouldn't change, though, such as being an outcast, being a metalhead, dressing like a tomboy, etc.

->-bleeped-<- yes. I'd change immediately. I don't think i'd be much of a different person if i'd lived without going through all this shi*. From the start i was a pessimist, and a bit of a freak, so i wouldn't become a total bubble head, its kinda my nature to be a realist. All that'd change about me would be me being so damn depressed, and angry.

At this point in my life, of course I would! I cherish many things that have happened in my life so far... Including ones that could only exist in my current male world.  But, knowing that I would have female opportunities in that other life, I would easily take it.  Sadly, I might be closed minded in relation to gender issues if I was born female.  I would have been comfortable with the way I would be (I certainly hope so at least)... In that sense, it could have been hard for me to emphasize with the trans community.  But, I was obviously not born female, and in that sense I am do understand this... Because I am experiencing it!  I wish I was born female, but knowing that I wasn't makes me only wonder!

definitely yes. i hate this body, i havent been able to have a normal life yet at all because of it, and wont be able to until i can get all the surgeries i need. it would have been a lot better/less expensive if i was born in the right body. i get jealous of cis guys because they are just born right and dont have to go through half their life wrong and go through all this trouble and money just to get to the right body, and then can finally start their life when they have already wasted so many years.

oh the pain i could have been spared and the memories (all Bad) in the nano second it takes to think the answer it is so much of a yes i would GID sucks

Almost certainly, but actually not for myself because as you say that would have made me a different person and I would have lost a lot by it. Like Metamorph I would prefer to have been able to have a fully fertile version of that body with all my memories intact, as might one day be possible via some advanced genetic manipulation and tissue regeneration therapy.

What would edge it over the line for me into saying yes I would press that reset button, go back and be born as a nornal natal female, is the fact that by doing so I could have spared two of the most magnificent parents in the world from all the pain and worry that I must have caused them in my childhood and as I transitioned as a young adult.

I got all the benefit and experience of my GID while they took all the pain for me. That I still feel bad about.

I definitley can relate to having to wait so long to really start my life. That i must admit is one thing that irks me about being in the wrong body, I think my general welbeing would have been a lot better too.  So much stress can't be healthy for anyone and then the stress i will be putting on my family...

I also think even with transitioning i will face many problems i wouldn't as a biomale. For starters i am pretty sure i would be taller and at least be able to fit into mens clothing.  I would also not be looking at either a micro penis or one that in my opinion doesn't look enough like the genuine thing.

I no size isn't everything but it will definatley be an issue for me as it already is.

I keep thinking what girl is going to be cool with her man having to shop in the boys section for clothes, has nothing in his pants, isn't fertile and used to be a girl.

Although i say i would probably choose to be trans if i had a choice when it came down to it i wouldn't really know what to do to be honest. Theres so many pros and cons on both sides

I would yes. I have very open minded parents who on numerous occasions have voiced how horrible it is for LGBT people to go through so much discrimination. So I think I still would be very open to LGBT issues etc. If there was ever any chance of me being a bio-male I'd take it in a heartbeat. I'd be a lot happier.

It would depend.  I have children and what if one of my Grandchildren discovers a break through in medical advances, say cancer or heart disease, which could save thousands of lives in the future..

If that were the case, then no.  But what if I was born female and one of my children discovered something along the same line and saved thousands of live now.

Which do I choose?  Now a selfish note, Damn straight I would.  I guess I would rather have transitioned 20 plus years ago.  My blood line would have been set, and the time line would not be disrupted as far as my family is concerned.

H*ll TO THE YEAH!! LOL . I use to go to bed and pray to god I'd wake up a woman. I don't do that anymore though now lol.

I'm with Metamorph on this one.  Changing your birth gender would change so many things about who we are today, so many we probably wouldn't even be the same person.  It's not worth it.

There was a study done, where people who had been exposed to horrible life experiences were asked if they could have avoided it, would they?  In every situation, the person answered they would not change a thing.  Most all said because they wouldn't have learned what they did had they not had the experience.

That's how I feel about the experience I've had being TG.

easy, I'm with the GID sucks crowd.  That's the wish every time I blow out a candle.

There was a time when I would have immedietly said yes to this question. Now, though, I think that if I could do that I would not be the same person. I guess the only thing that I wish is that SRS is fully effective.

Thats a tough one. I guess in thinking about it I probably wouldn't change anything now, as much as I too prayed every, single night, BUT that is only because I am dealing with, and conquering, my GID. Now, if you were to ask me if in my next life which body do I want? Most definitely I would pick a woman...

Well, my opinion is that the gender I was 'supposed' to be was male.

I simply see no way to argue anything else, if you have a Y chromosome you were 'supposed' to be male. HOWEVER nature messes up what's 'supposed' to happen all the time.

So, to answer your actual question first. If I could change it so my soul (or whatever) ended up with a female body right from the start, yes I would do it unquestionably. I can't speak for anybody else, but this whole thing has made my life utter hell. Would I have been a very different person if I had just been born genetically female, of course, my experiences have made me who I am. However call me selfish, but I just don't think its worth it. And honestly I don't see it changing. I lost my entire adolescence while watching everyone else live theirs because of this. No matter how good my life does or doesn't get in the future, nothing will undo that loss, so I don't think my opinion will change.

However in spite of that, I would NEVER go back and change things to make it so I was gender congruent (happy being male).

I can imagine being born genetically female and still being me, a different me, but still me.

I can't imagine being born a mentally congruent male and that person even remotely resembling me. It feels more like I would be dying.

But yeah, to answer your question very simply, yes I would without hesitation.