From my own situation my kids seem to have adjusted well. My teen daughter has issues with not knowing what to say. She's in the habit of saying that she's with her dad part of the week, and with her mom the other part. But then there's me. Mom is a man. She's not comfortable lying, nor does she want to tell people mom is a man. She's resorted to saying her family is complicated for the moment. I've told her she should start saying she has 2 male parents.
My son hasn't had that problem yet; he's more introverted and has fewer friends, and the ones he has either know, or only know him at his dad's house.
In the past few weeks I asked each (separately) if they missed having a Mom (as in female-bodied, cookie baking, stereotypical Mom, which I used to be for them). Son said no, because I have YOU! (Big Hugs!! - he's a big hugger). Daughter said no, why? I said idk, but sometimes do you wish you still had a normal mom? And she said, no, what's normal, anyway? And I said, true. Look at my mom (very eccentric).
Jay