Hi girls,
     Yeah, i know we all wish we'd come out years ago or had the courage to do it right now, but the past can't be replayed, tomorrow can't be predicted with 100% accuracy. All that aside, what is your single greatest regret re M2F?  After both hip joints were replaced in 1995 and again in 2001, I cannot walk in heels. I can and do wear them for lounging around the house, and in the bedroom, but - sigh - can't walk in them, so will never be able to 'strut my stuff' in public. [and my legs are my best feature - sigh ].  Just curious to hear from everyone else.
        humbly and sincerely,
              hugs to all,
                   jannelle
     'a lady in the drawing room, a wh**e in the bedroom.'

I could go with my height, which limits my practical ability to wear heels just as effectively as yours.

But I'm going to say my waist/hip/butt weight distribution. It's just not shaped right. Even after months of hormones, while it is fuller than a man's in the hips and butt, it's not as full as it ought to be and the waist is in the wrong place. I've seen some expensive surgeries to correct this, but that would be a long way off for me if I can even afford it. Meanwhile it constricts the kind of outfits available to me.

I would have to go with the butt and hips also.  I am still built like a boy from the waist down.  I have no behind to speak of.  Everything else is coming along nicely.

I can and do walk in heels and have a natural swing to the hips.  I just don't have any.

I had really bad acne as a teenager. I wish I had done something about it done rather than listen to my folks who told me it would eventually go away. It did eventually go away but I was left with awful scars

stubborn belly fat.

nothing else is close.

This is the point where you'll all hate me - because I've been trying to think of something all day but other than the boring "wish I'd had SRS earlier and not had to wait until 24," but I can't think of a thing! Sorry.

To be honest Jenny, I don't really regret anything either (I know I'm just starting out but still), I could trot out the whole "I wish I started earlier" but that would be a lie as I wasn't ready.

My biggest regret?

Spending my entire life lying to everyone while claiming that I don't lie.

I go outside and act a carefully thought out routine of behaving like a man. I try to be cool and calm. I try to stand up straight. I try to say the things that I think men would say. I avoid looking at children with dewey eyes, because men don't do that.

Being outside is a bit like stepping into a pool of fear. I live in constant panic that I may be found out. Or worse, that I may be misunderstood. Inevitably I regularly meet others who see my fear or who see through my guise then rag me. I pretend I don't notice or that it doesn't bother me. When I get home, I go to the bathroom and rant abuse at them, I imagine I'm tearing their lumbs off, making them beg me for mercy.

Then, I wander around the house for a while, still stewing, making things difficult for my amazing wife.

So, the worst thing is that my wife suffers so much because I am a coward, afraid to face the world as I am.

Your biggest regret is fashion? Really? lol

Other than the disallowed answer I have no regrets at all. And why would I? I'm getting to live as who I am. That doesn't make it easy, but not doing it would be unbearable.

Well, the main regret I have has been opted as not an option, I guess my other main regret is ermm.... that my cup size after 4 years of hormones, is still an A.  I know it is due to weighing about 110, but really wish I had at least a B... I have self esteem issues cause of my itty bitty t... but at the same time do not want to get breast enhancement surgery. Sometimes, I feel like less of a girl cause of it.

Overall, I am happy with the way things are.  But since you asked, I wish I would have been more well-read transgender stuff when I was confronted by my parents when I was 20 or 21.  Maybe I would have given a stronger argument instead of being forced back into my shell.

I guess I'm reasonably lucky
I'm not allowed to pick "earlier" and that's tantamount to what alot of my regrets and wishes are. I know that if I'd thrown a bottle of hormone pills to my 17 year old self they would have taken one and realized that it was for them my 15 year old self might have hammed it up and hurt themselves.

I feel kinda stupid for even trying to get my facial hair removed before I begun HRT and really hurting myself trying. I mean so much of it has fallen out on it's own and is synergistic with other methods. I could have saved that money for something else.

Wasted ammunition. :/

Wasting all the money I made before I transitioned. If I would have just socked away a quarter of what I use to make I could have paid for all of my surgeries and all of Seth's surgeries. 

Lifting weights in an effort to persuade myself that I was a man - that's a big regret. I would have been a lot more svelte if I'd never touched a weight.

Quitting my former and job and spending most of the decent sum of money I had saved on partying and drugs whilst in a period of denial about being transgender. This hurt extra because beforehand I was on the verge of accepting myself and trying to find help about it, but I held it in and went into denial. The money and time I wasted could have went to hormones and even towards surgery. (FFS though, it would have been only a fraction of SRS.) I had to learn the hard way that staying high and living a life of leisure would only make me temporarily forget things and dig me into a hole. Now I am facing a transition while being broke and struggling to find work.

My biggest regret was the fact that I didn't seek help sooner. I could have essentially only had 1 puberty if I sought help sooner.

Quote from: Janet Lynn on May 21, 2010, 10:37:39 AM
I would have to go with the butt and hips also.  I am still built like a boy from the waist down.  I have no behind to speak of.

(...trying to think of a responses that doesn't sound sexist...)

Ok, there's a (50's-ish) lady at my office who's built like that, and she's ridiculously hot.  It's her spunky attitude (which I think you have as well), that makes her so yummy. Don't worry about curves, just rock what'cha got and people will fall over themselves to get to you.

And I'll have to echo the "start sooner" regret here too.  Excuses aside, there's still no time like the present. We all have hurdles to overcome, so might as well start running now. There's ice cream at the finish line. 

Quote from: natalie rene on May 22, 2010, 09:08:01 AMThere's ice cream at the finish line. 

and cookies, too  I can smell them now...

Quote from: FairyGirl on May 22, 2010, 09:23:17 AM
and cookies, too  I can smell them now...

with sprinkles

Quote from: LordKAT on May 22, 2010, 09:26:03 AMwith sprinkles

and a cherry on top lol