lets try to be more optimistic friends.

List one, (or more) thing that is GOOD about being in the wrong body.. if you can't think of anything.. don't reply to this.

mine is..

I'm glad that I cant ejaculate.. I think it would be annoying and messy.

your turn..

I'm rather happy with my boob development so far

Understanding that issues such as these are not easily fixable nor in the imagination.  It has helped me realize that the brain has a deep rooted core in a sense.  Being trans, I feel a lot more sympathy towards the plight of others, because I know through the experience of my own trials how hard some issues can be in life.  In fact, I don't know I would feel this empathy towards others, as much as I do now, if I was not trans.

Having to sort through my gender has most definitely boosted my critical thinking skills! My brain appreciates the exercise.

Two: One, more sympathy for others' problems which I previously did not have. Acknowledgement of other problems, rather than assuming they were ridiculous.

And second, I must have gained some mysterious insight into the human mind non -trans haven't. Even if it's just knowledge of how fixed and persistent the mind can be. And how much gender roles really are social constructs (not completely, but people seemed a little obsessed with a lot of made-up differences between the sexes.)

Hmm, I might also know how to better please a woman

i know how both men and women think/feel  ^_^  .
*plus , it gave me a wider perspective of how people can be different to endless degrees and there's really no such real thing as a stereotype , just common traits sometimes

I thought of more than four. But I still think the disadvantages greatly outweigh the advantages.

If a gay man gets into a romantic relationship with me at this point, I'll know it's for ME, despite my not having had SRS (yet).

When women complain about that time of the month, I can sympathize from personal experience, even if they don't know it.

I know all about everyday sexism, the kind that a lot of men do unconsciously. Like the guys who talked to my chest instead of my face. Or the guys who talked down to me because they thought I couldn't possibly know about the subject at hand. Or the guys who acted differently toward me when they realized that I did indeed have a brain and the will to use it.

I escaped a traffic ticket once just by being young, blond, and female. And I wasn't trying to get out of it. (This wasn't just a freebie that I took advantage of; I learned from the experience and was more careful in the future. Another example of sexism in action, though.)

A few straight male friends told me personal things that they probably wouldn't have shared with a regular guy.

Learning, understanding and appreciating more about people

Made me alot more positive.

• I have a blackbelt in internet.
• I have a true appreciation for happiness having lived without it for so long.
• I learned I was a strong person, or at least much stronger than I thought.
• I know those that still love me really love me.
• I realize those that don't, never really did.
• I got to experience the vibrancy of youth twice, where the simplest thing, like a breeze across my face or a bumblebee buzzing by, can seem new and beautiful and fantastic.
• I'll never really understand boys, but I do have insight into their world that most other women will never have.
• Everything I've lost has made me truly thankful for everything I have.
• I wake up each day so unbelievably happy that I get to be me.

Easy.

My life has been one long adventure of self discovery.

Even today I am STILL changing and still learning surprising things about myself. I know that is true for non trans people too, but for us the changes and the extent of exploration can be FAR wider and far more dramatic.

I've said it before and I'll say so again. I wish the medical process could be better (ie postops could be fertile) but I LOVE having been trans and I would definitely do it again!

Once I have established my identity as male, and lived as male I will probably be one of the most secure guys (well, secure in my masculinity.) I'll know that skirts don't make me a girl or gay, it's insignificant in comparison to "boobs/female reproductive organs don't make me a female."

Quote from: Jen on May 26, 2010, 02:19:42 AM

• I have a blackbelt in internet.
• I have a true appreciation for happiness having lived without it for so long.
• I learned I was a strong person, or at least much stronger than I thought.
• I know those that still love me really love me.
• I realize those that don't, never really did.
• I got to experience the vibrancy of youth twice, where the simplest thing, like a breeze across my face or a bumblebee buzzing by, can seem new and beautiful and fantastic.
• I'll never really understand boys, but I do have insight into their world that most other women will never have.
• Everything I've lost has made me truly thankful for everything I have.
• I wake up each day so unbelievably happy that I get to be me.

wow
*stares at almost one's ultimate dream*

Quote from: something else on May 26, 2010, 01:24:23 AM
i know how both men and women think/feel  ^_^  .
*plus , it gave me a wider perspective of how people can be different to endless degrees and there's really no such real thing as a stereotype , just common traits sometimes

That's what I was going to say.

Can't add anything more except possibily the occasional pleasure of dreaming of how good it would be to have completed.

Quote from: SilverFang on May 26, 2010, 02:34:35 AM
Once I have established my identity as male, and lived as male I will probably be one of the most secure guys (well, secure in my masculinity.)

Interesting. I feel that I'm perfectly secure in my masculinity. It's my maleness that I'm insecure about. I wonder if I'm deluding myself to separate the two like that.

I can parallel park and talk about my feelings. At the same time, if needed

Pain wanders.

Quote from: Arch on May 26, 2010, 11:31:29 AM
Interesting. I feel that I'm perfectly secure in my masculinity. It's my maleness that I'm insecure about. I wonder if I'm deluding myself to separate the two like that.

Not really, just assume I said maleness as it's more accurate.

Not having a "regular male configuration" in the pants does have it's perks..
No "awkward erections", no "blue balls", no mess after "play", etcetera.

No monthly visitor to contend with