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Started by Jessica.C, May 25, 2010, 06:34:38 AM

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aubrey

Quote from: Jessica.C on May 26, 2010, 06:02:34 PM
Wow Pauline that's awesome. i just last week told this guy I've been talking to and he asked me why would i feel the need to tell, which shocked the hell out of me. I was just shocked that a guy would even say that. I think it was one of those things he'd just assume not know. But I to afraid of discovery.

I've had guys say the same EXACT thing. The other most common reaction is to act o.k. with it but seem "distracted" all of the sudden...then stop calling completely 3-7 days later.

Quote from: Jessica.C on May 26, 2010, 07:41:17 PM
That's very sweet Sara. But I'm starting that when it comes to guys they"ll love you for who you are till something better comes along.

If he's a playa forsure and there's lots!

Quote from: SaraR on May 26, 2010, 07:55:13 PM
not all guys are like that, some stay true to their love!

If they love you, some do, maybe ;) lol
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lpfix2009

I had a very nice boyfriend and we kept it hetero to the sense that no penetration was done. but we were deep in love and when the day arose that he was rubbing my tummy and getting closer I swallowed a bullet and told him, he didnt call me the first day.. then called and said hes ok with it.. but he didnt want to know anything about whats down there.


I agreed I also didnt want to know what was down there, so I kept him happy in other ways etc.. how we broke up is by me breaking up with him, he was really jealous when I would hang out with other guys which have been my friends for years... and im not going to let go good friends that still accepted me after transition after partying with them and literally being naked and jumping off docks @ camp party's.

I incident occured one night I went out asked him to come out he said he was leaving that night to go out of town for his work.. but then he showed up a tthe bar i was talking with my friends.. and instead of coming up to me.. he waits till hes out of town then bitches me out for it.. I told him simply... If you would of came up to me, I would of kissed you so deeply in front of them and introduce you. Instead you were shy and booted..

At that time I had broken up a couple of days being furious.. then i went back with him and said IF ever again! then... recently a couple weeks ago, he did the same thing when I was out with a group of my guy friends and HE said go ahead after asking him do you wanna do anything today then i said if not ill go hang out with X and X and he said no problem.. approx 1 hour later he calls me asking when im coming home, i said probably later tonight he replies "Ok babe" calls me back 20 mins later... and questions me.. then hang up then another 30 mins later on and on for approx 4 hours length time...

When I got home, I said take all your stuff... and leave... goodbye.

Otherwise if it wasnt for his obsessive behavior 7 months into our relationship we would sitll be extremely in love! It's like he wanted me as his territory but was scared to mark it around other guys! I am such a social butterfly, whoever is with me, you have to take the heat or come with me! PERIOD!

He totally was not like that in the beginning, he seemed really cool about everything, I guess you can even say that our 7 month down the road point we were at an extreme love level and that's probably what drove him..

The reason I parted... simply, it can lead to dangerous situations, and I don't want a DejaVu

P.S. approx 90% of the girls in the city wanted him, he was georgous heck he still is georgous.. but bad behavior = no no
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FairyGirl

Quote from: SaraR on May 26, 2010, 06:04:58 PM
If someone truly loves you, they will love you for who you are.

That's true to an extent- but changing our sex (not our gender) is a big deal to a lot of people, they just can't get past it for a number of reasons.

Guys all taste different; it's the same for girls I'm sure.  :)
Girls rule, boys drool.
If I keep a green bough in my heart, then the singing bird will come.
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pretty pauline

Quote from: FairyGirl on May 27, 2010, 07:15:47 AM
That's true to an extent- but changing our sex (not our gender) is a big deal to a lot of people, they just can't get past it for a number of reasons.


Your absolutely right Chloe, thats why my present boyfriend Im sure is in love with me, he was attracted to me as a woman, now he knows Im trans, was a bit of a shock to him, but still feels the same, he never knew me when I was a guy which was a very long time ago, he even said to me ''gosh he just can't imagin or see me as a guy'' but a former boyfriend didn't see things that way, I posted about it here https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,41242.msg278947.html#msg278947  so maybe it was a good thing I tolded him I was a transexual woman, I hate that word transexual, nowadays I just see myself as a woman, thats what I see and everybody else sees everyday I get out of bed, regardless of my history, my boyfriend fell in love with this person, Im in love with Him, but it is awesome that he now knows my history and Im so happy that he fully excepts me as a woman.
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If your going thru hell, just keep going.
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tori319

So can ridges be constructed?
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Northern Jane

So what  the heck are "uterus ridges"???

I never encountered a GG who had any "ridges".
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tori319

I read up on it and I don't know what a uterus ridge is but the vaginal one is so that the vagina can stretch to accommodate a baby or a penis.
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LordKAT

Having been with female parts, I have no idea about uterus ridges but the vagina is a lot of ridges in the front side. rough ones at that.
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tori319

Quote from: LordKAT on May 28, 2010, 02:35:40 PM
Having been with female parts, I have no idea about uterus ridges but the vagina is a lot of ridges in the front side. rough ones at that.
Yeah I'm confused about the uterus thing.By the way I've said this before but have to say I'm in love with Clark Gable.
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FairyGirl

Girls rule, boys drool.
If I keep a green bough in my heart, then the singing bird will come.
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tori319

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rejennyrated

whoa - stand back both of you. Let the old timer how you how it's done ;)

Ps - I honestly thought everyone had rough little ridges in their vag - I certainly have in the first two or three inches or so of mine.
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tori319

This may be unrealistic but I hope that the surgery will have gotten more advanced within the next three years when I hope to have mine.

lol jenny.
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lpfix2009

yea the ridges are from the uterus its felt when you inter a finger its a bunch of "bumps"
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rejennyrated

Quote from: SaraR on May 29, 2010, 03:15:57 AM
yea the ridges are from the uterus its felt when you inter a finger its a bunch of "bumps"
Can't be entirely that cos I haven't go a uterus - but I definitely DO have the ridges...

unless the surgeon was having a joke with me and put them in to worry me up! ;)
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gothique11

Speaking of the devil her self.  >:-) hehe

Warning: I get a bit explicit and maybe I get into TMI... I tried to tone it down a some to keep things PG14-ish. Hey, the horns keep my halo up and in place after all! :D


Anyway, your health, diet, etc will affect how you taste. Probiotics help your vagina to be healthy. It's not a requirement, but it can help your vaginal flora in a lot of ways. A healthy vaginal flora is good for you. You don't need to take them every day, as the probiotics will take hold.

There are many things that can affect your vaginal flora (the good bacteria that keeps your vagina healthy inside), such as health, stress, antibiotics, yeast infections, bad bacteria, etc. A healthy vaginal flora will fight off bad bacteria and yeast from taking hold down there - probiotics can boost and support your natural vaginal flora, fighting off the bad stuff. A yeast infection isn't pleasent -- that was my "welcome to womanhood you've now got a vagina" welcome wagon. Oh, yay! I had pretty bad problems for a while, which also induced a lot of bladder infections, causing all kinds of chaos down there. Probiotics made a huge difference with my vaginal health and quality of life. I've only used one bottle, and never needed them since. I have a healthy vagina with healthy vaginal flora -- that fights off yeast infections as well as bladder infections.

As for my sexual experience, before I had SRS I was dating a post-op woman. So, yes, I have sex with a post-op woman using my pre-op parts (aka penis), and I also tasted her. Her vagina tasted slightly sweet, pleasant, and smelled like normal vagina -- actually, one of the best I've ever tasted, to be honest. I've heard that often post-op women have the best tasting pussy. :D (not just from my experience, but from others who have been with post-op women and also from what people have told me what I taste like).

The feeling (with using my male part in her vagina) felt normal, with a slight tightness but not in an uncomfortable way (honestly, the only time I ever really enjoyed sex with the male part). Very, very enjoyable. I've had men who have said similar comments in regards to my post-op vagina - tight, but not too tight, just right. (however, it can be tighter at first if you haven't dilated in a while). I've made men cum pretty quickly, however -- I've had several comments about how they usually take a much longer time and with me it's boom. In my experience with my ex-gf, I never really orgasmed with other women, except for a couple of times after a long, long, tiring time. With my ex, it was much faster and more enjoyable... it was the best sex I had pre-op.

You have a lot of muscle control down there, and when you orgasm you have the same contractions as a natal woman during orgasm. The first few times having sex are a bit awkward, 'cause you basically need to re-learn sex. Relaxation is key.

With your fingers down there, it will feel smother inside -- although over time the inside feels more like a natal woman's inside. Most don't notice at all. You will also have a g-spot, which is in the same spot as a natal woman's is.

I have had sex with men and women who didn't notice any difference with me vs another women. (Side note: Every vagina is different, post-op or natal, and post-op is nearly or identical to the typical range of vagina out there... basically, you have nothing to worry about that someone will find your post-op vagina off or unusual vs the other vaginas out there... and in ranges of pussy, a lot of post-op women are on the premium side of the range of pussy. )

Also, a penis will adjust to your vagina, so bottoming out isn't much of an issue. It can happen, but it also happens with a lot of natal women as well. You may feel the penis as it hits the end, and at first, it might feel uncomfortable, strange, or a slight pressure -- then you get used to it, it doesn't hurt, and in fact, it feels real good.

As times goes on, you'll find that your post-op vagina will also stretch and mold like a natal woman's vagina -- after, it slowly goes back and gets a bit tighter. That's the same for all women, although. With a post-op vagina, however, there's a bit of an advantage in that although sex and dilation makes it looser, it goes back into shape faster. Some women seem to be very loose, which can be genetics, having children, or other factors... usually exercising the pelvic floor muscles help it go back into shape (kegel exercises). Kegel exercises are also very good for post-op women as well as natal women. Kegals not only affect your vaginal health and performance, it also affects your bladder (in a good way).

You will self-lube, but the amount of lube can vary, just like in other women. Diet, medications, stress and your health can all affect your lube. There have been times when I didn't need any; however, I enjoy a small amount of lube. There's nothing wrong with that, a lot of women use lube and find it more comfortable. It really varies, some women are crazy wet and some are not. I've dated natal women drier than I am, and needed copious amounts of lube for comfort and enjoyment. I would say that I'm average in terms of self-lubing (so was my ex). Some days I get more wet, other times not so much -- again, diet, stress, medication, etc affect down there a lot... lube, taste, all that... same goes for all women, post-op or natal.

In conclusion, post-op pussy rocks and was the best I ever had and now have. :D

*gothique11*  >:-)


Footnote: My SRS was performed by Dr. Brassard; my ex had her's done my Dr Mannard of the same clinic, about a year before I had mine... I started dating her a couple months before my SRS. After that, I had a lot of confidence about going to Montreal for my SRS. I can't vouch for other surgeons and their results, since I haven't experienced it; although, I'm sure a competent surgeon will have similar results - a wonderful vagina that rocks this world!
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lpfix2009

Sweet post!

UTI's are not cool at all!
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Jessica.C

Quote from: gothique11 on May 29, 2010, 04:30:12 AM

(Side note: Every vagina is different, post-op or natal, and post-op is nearly or identical to the typical range of vagina out there... basically, you have nothing to worry about that someone will find your post-op vagina off or unusual vs the other vagina's out there... and in ranges of pussy, a lot of post-op women are on the premium side of the range of pussy. )



Very good to know!!! But what about scars?? I'm quite sure worthy of its own topic.

By the way i agree with Sara fantastic post Gothique!! Thanks


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FairyGirl

Thank you for the reassurances Natalie, it's really nice of you to share your experience :)
Girls rule, boys drool.
If I keep a green bough in my heart, then the singing bird will come.
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lpfix2009

Quote from: Valeriedances on May 29, 2010, 11:03:05 AM
I'm concerned about the scars too. Mine are very visible right now.

The only way to breakdown scar tissue is to massage it however unfortunately people that scar easy.. will not look pretty in the end (like me)

When I scar, I get white bumps, instead of flat and barely noticable.

You can always say you had an hysrectomy(sp?)
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