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Think of ONE good thing about being trans.

Started by Elijah3291, May 26, 2010, 12:36:00 AM

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rejennyrated

Quote from: Virginia Marie on May 26, 2010, 02:44:21 PM
No monthly visitor to contend with
Personally I never considered that as an advantage - more like a cause of tremendous disappointment, but I know all the FtM's think I'm nuts saying that.
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Silver

Quote from: rejennyrated on May 26, 2010, 06:50:10 PM
Personally I never considered that as an advantage - more like a cause of tremendous disappointment, but I know all the FtM's think I'm nuts saying that.

Yes, yes I do.
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Crow

Quote from: rejennyrated on May 26, 2010, 06:50:10 PM
Personally I never considered that as an advantage - more like a cause of tremendous disappointment, but I know all the FtM's think I'm nuts saying that.

If "monthly visitors" were transferrable, I would gladly donate mine!



OH! oh oh oh, another advantage-- if I wasn't trans, I probably never would have met the majority of the awesome trans people I know (here and elsewhere)!
Top Surgery Fund: $200/7,000
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jesse

the ability to know once your out who your real friends are
jessica
like a knife that cuts you the wound heals but them scars those scars remain
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Cindy

Meeting the people I have on this site. I have made more real friends here than I ever thought possible. I also feel free to be me.

Cindy
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Lachlann

Quote from: ƃuıxǝʌ on May 26, 2010, 06:28:11 PM
And when a cricket ball slams into your crotch at high speed...

...It still hurts and can cause damage.

It hurts no matter what you have down there, and T does make that area sensitive too.
Don't be scared to fly alone, find a path that is your own
Love will open every door it's in your hands, the world is yours
Don't hold back and always know, all the answers will unfold
What are you waiting for, spread your wings and soar
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AmySmiles

To understand what true happiness is.  In the past I've experienced what I thought was happiness, but it doesn't compare to what I feel almost every day now.  It truly is amazing.
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kyril

As someone who struggles to understand and get along with (most) women and who might have been something of a misogynist had things been different, I think that experiencing the things that women go through (physically, hormonally, societally), even if I perceive and experience them differently than a woman would, has led me to develop a lot of empathy that I might otherwise not have.

It's made me a raging feminist in terms of my views of law and policy matters.

I was spared the experience of violent homophobia growing up. My discomfort with my effeminate side was internally-motivated, not externally-imposed.

All the millions of scars that I got growing up/firefighting/being in the military healed to near-invisibility, which was irritating at the time but I now see it as a positive.

I wasn't allowed to play football, so I have no football injuries - all my sports were spinal-cord-safe.

When I sucked at sports, people assumed it was because I was a girl (not the case) rather than because I was an effeminate gay nerdy klutz (probably more accurate), so I wasn't beaten up for the latter.

When I was raped, the rapists were able to choose a hole that was significantly less painful, less delicate, and of less emotional significance to me than the one they would have used if I'd been born male.

I still think the disadvantages outweigh the advantages.


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insanitylives

Quote from: rejennyrated on May 26, 2010, 06:50:10 PM
Personally I never considered that as an advantage - more like a cause of tremendous disappointment, but I know all the FtM's think I'm nuts saying that.
Quote from: SilverFang on May 27, 2010, 01:58:50 AM
Yes, yes I do.
brave soul to be the first to point out what we're ALL thinking.


Anywho back on topic.
Sexism. Yes this was gonna come up. I'm far less of a jerk than I probably would have been, had i been raised male.
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Rock_chick

Quote from: rejennyrated on May 26, 2010, 06:50:10 PM
Personally I never considered that as an advantage - more like a cause of tremendous disappointment, but I know all the FtM's think I'm nuts saying that.

I'm with Jenny on this one...in fact if any FtM's want to swap, I have a beard, a chest rug and other sundry items I'd happily exchnge.

Oh and the best thing about being trans...the people I've met so far.
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DamienR

Best part of being trans is the amount of self-awareness I have had to cultivate to live day to day.
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LordKAT

The community at susan's is the only good thing.
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lightvi

It teaches me to fight, not physically but with my soul for a dream. It also makes me realize what's really important like certain people, things, places.
:icon_geekdance:
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Miniar

Being in a position where your mind doesn't match your body forces you to take stock of who you are and why, something very few people do, even if when they have the "chance" to.
The amount of self awareness this gathers can be unwanted, but I believe that knowing yourself, your mind, your desires, and being accustomed to asking yourself "why" on every thing can lead to a far stronger self image and a better chance at actually getting what you "really" want from life.




"Everyone who has ever built anywhere a new heaven first found the power thereto in his own hell" - Nietzsche
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kyle_lawrence

Its kind of forced me to step out of my self in a way, and be more observant  of the world around me.  Since I never knew where I fit in, I would kind of hang back and watch people around me.  I've developed a weird ability to pick up on small details on people and things, and just "know things".  i think its made me naturally curious, and I have become a more well rounded person because of it.
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Fenrir

1. Discovered the most interesting forum ever, made better by all the interesting and intelligent members in it.  8) (Flattery, flattery...) Even those few who rub me up the wrong way sometimes make good points!
2. I have gained a vast, VAST amount of knowledge on the subject of gender. Even gender stuff not related to trans-ness I can really spout about should I need to!
3. I have become more open-minded about the different ways people think (especially with regards to plastic surgery. It's your body, you do what you like to it!)
4. Funnily enough, I have learned that it is OK to explore your feminine side, it doesn't affect your gender identity. I never expected that!

And that is definitely more than one good thing. I tried!
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Lachlann

Quote from: ƃuıxǝʌ on May 27, 2010, 03:50:13 PM
Not as much. My trans guy buddy and I were comparing notes on the subject; his four year old daughter has a propensity to charge at us and slam into our crotch. From me, this elicits a yelp of pain, from him, just an 'oof' of air being knocked out of him.

The potential for damage is still there which more concerning to me. I had a friend who was bruised down there for weeks because she fell on a bar and knew a woman who couldn't have children after suffering a pretty bad groin injury... walking into desk corners by accident have always felt really painful as well. To me it's similar to being able to hold your alcohol more than the next person, just because you can doesn't mean you're suffering less damage.

Female or male bodied, no one wants to be hit with a cricket ball at high speeds.
Don't be scared to fly alone, find a path that is your own
Love will open every door it's in your hands, the world is yours
Don't hold back and always know, all the answers will unfold
What are you waiting for, spread your wings and soar
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pebbles

The other day I was feeling miserable and I was tempted to use my freaky body to scare huge internet burly body builders.
An image of my developing boobs.. I USED STEROIDS ONLY ONCE AND I USED ONE OF THE STEROIDS THAT YOU ALL USE! and watch them get all nervous and defensive before running away paranoid. That's right! #1 freak the queen bee coming through!

If I ever become fully passable I'm still able to make strange male vocalisations with my voice at the expense of a sore throat and scare away anyone I don't like.

My body scarring is uniquely patterned it's possible to play noughts and crosses or creatively draw on the various patterns on my body like you might with patterned wallpaper but you don't get in trouble for drawing on my body with a pen I'm fine with it assuming I like you.

Eventually with luck I will be one of the rare pepole in this world who will be qualified to say who gets the better orgasm.

I have a number of stranger than fiction experiences in my life which could easily be used as plot points in a story. Those memories are uniquely enriching amongst the pain.

I don't believe in an afterlife but if I'm wrong I won't be upset because I know I will be sent to hell but I can say I was honourable in my life given the clues I had to work with to hell with anything that would judge me for that.

I know where my heart is some bastard threw it into the middle of hell and I know where I've gotta go in my life to go fetch and the things I've goto do in my life become obvious at my young age. I have friends older than me who struggle with the fact that they have no dreams or aspirations and don't know where they are going in life and feel bored and unfulfilled and wish they were special.
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Miniar

Quote from: ƃuıxǝʌ on May 29, 2010, 05:30:02 PM
Actually, female genitals suffer no risk of testicular torsion, which is massively damaging and hugely painful.
There is a distinct difference in anatomy and it doesn't do us any good to deny it.

Yes, but Other things can get damaged.



"Everyone who has ever built anywhere a new heaven first found the power thereto in his own hell" - Nietzsche
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Little Darkling

Just wanted to say...

If I wasn't going through the process of what I am and becoming who I feel I am, I don't think I'd be the same person, and that'd really kill me to consider.
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