If I ever got the chance to have or meet a Sugar Daddy, I would get to know their morals and objectives first and if it's all peachy I would lavishly take them on their offer and try to have fun with it.

Life is all about taking risks and having a little fun, if you don't try new things then how do you know if they are really that bad? If you never ate Sushi and you are afraid of it...You're missing something but if you ate it you get a new experience! 

The funny thing also is, sometimes when I walking around the city I have different men in their cars honk and they'll stop and say, "Babe, do you want a ride!" and I obviously say no but it's humbling when men want to be kind and not everyone's actions are going to be evil.

But instead of rambling on I'm just going to finish and say, I hope one day I can get a Sugar Daddy but for now I am lost in the culture and how getting one works and I'm a little shy as I haven't been really intimate with a guy...It was a little flirtatious but not overboard. But who knows --- Some of these SD's could be innocent and down-to-earth.

Well the night I spent with him that one time was wonderful.  He really is a nice guy.  I just.. I dunno as I said above.  I want it but I'm just. =/

I would not take on a Danda. I'm in a very happy relationship, for one, and second: I don't want to depend on some rich person up to the point where I'm heavily indebted to them. Because that's another side of the coin.

The escort business is a lot better organized, though the demands in the NL can be quite tough. I've met people in the escort business, and they spend most of their time learning. Reading the newest literature, making literature reports, viewing movies, making reports, learning all modern and ancient philosophy, religion, economics, world politics, becoming a master at chess, poker, go...
These people did it to make money for their university education, and as a result, they are the most educated people I know.
But still there are questionable things, for me. The personal dependency is what makes me squeemish.

Taking on a Danda, however... Far too dependent. And I think that's dangerous.

There are housewives all over the world who depend financially on their husbands and who are perfectly happy with their lives. There are many girls in this exact same situation who are miserable to their ends. Most women who find themselves in these situations happen to be married to men their own age. It's funny how when age is involved assumptions fly all over the place as if it ever meant anything to begin with.

Over dependency on any source whether it's your man, a welfare check, or even your children can be dangerous to your health, financial or otherwise. With that said, being involved with an older gentleman, in of itself, isn't a bad thing.

If I found someone who supported me financially and emotionally, I can't see these things as something worth concern just because of age differences. I wouldn't have sex with someone whom I didn't love irrespective of the financial rewards waiting for me though, but I wouldn't be automatically turned off by the proposition. Boys will be boys and men will be men - I bet 99.9% of all men on the planet would do the same thing if they had as much disposable income and they thought they could get the girl with it.

Oh, but I don't mind being the housewife. Honestly; I love my partner, and yes, she has way better career chances than I do. Also, I work from home, anyway, so I might as well be a housewife, even if I would be somewhat depending on her income.
I love her, so that's not a problem for me. I wánt to spend my life with her. I don't see it as a financial arrangement.

An older person doesn't mean that they are the sugardaddy/mommy in the relationship, though. Sugardaddies/mommies, or Dandas, simply aren't a romantic interest. That's what separates them from an ordinary partner. No romantic interest, and a huge financial interest.

we get the impression you're young and still in  the closet so don't have much femaleness and street savvy to be a fultime girl so just why he likes you is hard to say but if he's nice and clean and you're careful you could use him as a teacher..kind of like Professor Higgins in My Fair Lady?
If he's spent the night with you he knows what he's getting so basically in your situation I'd be inclined to go along and enjoy.

So the general consensus is kinda just go for it?  Even though I might well fall flat and just see how it goes?

I mean I'm in yet out of the closet at the same time.  I'll go out inbetween or try the other 'n' honestly get scared to death.  Practicing on my own gets kinda depressing.  Nobody to show ya any tricks 'n' stuff.  Support groups.... I just don't get or trust.  I dunno.  Lots of stuff.

I left a message on his voicemail today though... 

A Sugar Daddy in the US implies sex, as it's taken from a very real deal in SF where a top model (Alma) said she'd rather marry an old rich guy then a broke-assed young one.  She did.  Married Adolph Sprekels, heir to the Spreckles sugar fortune, and hence, a Sugar Daddy, a term Alma herself coined.

Here is one standard defination:
What is a sugar daddy?
It is a man who supports a woman so that she will have sex with him - he buys her expensive gifts and usually pays for her house or apartment and furnishings.

Leave the messages, work up the courage, paint toenails to color he likes, few other small things.... and his works calls him out to Ohio at the last minute... Yay......

Course we did setup a new date....

   maybe his wife and family need him to do the barbecue chores?

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Actually it was a business trip....  happens in his line of work.  One of the things he wants is me to go on those trips with him.  Considering everything... I'm up for it at this point. 

I'm out on a limb anyways.  At least this would give me some stability and the ability to keep going on this path.  Otherwise I got nothing.  This ends for awhile and frankly?  I don't have the fortitude of you peeps.  This ends now and well other things end as well.

So sugar daddy ahoy.

Let me know how it goes, I think if I had the opportunity I would do it.

Enjoy it. Just be sure to save as much of the money as you can, without being greedy, so if things go bad somewhere you can at least get by briefly til you can grab a basic job.

Quote from: tori319 on June 22, 2010, 02:08:09 AM
Let me know how it goes, I think if I had the opportunity I would do it.

Well finally have the time to post again... in old stuff....  It fell through because his work had him away all the time.  So our meetings were spaced at best but I still got a few things out of it.  Wish it had worked out then I could have stayed out there and just lived.  Now I'm back in a podunk spot in Oklahoma.....  BLECK!

 take it from someone that live with haveing more than one sugar daddies. It not a game it a pane and it all most all end up about sex. and haveing sex to pay the rint or to eat are it is prostitution.
I will say one more thing if you get a chance to have a sugar daddies just run the other way.

Quote from: drippin on May 12, 2010, 03:57:02 AM
I actually have a sugar daddy now. I see him once a week, and he gives me 1000 a month. It gives me the opportunity to really focus on school and transition without working.. Its not a bad deal. And believe it or not, I. Care about him.

That's a lot of sugar!

Quote from: Korlee on May 12, 2010, 06:08:59 AM
"sigh"  I'm torn between a family that has given me a home but never loved me for well?  ME!  They love me for my blood and nothing else.  And actually achieving the goal!

I can definitely understand this all too well. My family does not love me or respect me for me either. They look at me only for what I am on the outside, and when I told them what I was inside most of them refused to believe me, one of them looks at it as a joke and laughs about with everyone he talks to on the phone, and one says that having sex with him, claiming he is no longer my uncle even though I still see him in that way since he was married to my birth mother's sister but got divorced, will make me change my mind after seeing how good male on male sex can be . I just want to scream and force them to see me for what I truly am inside, not make fun of me, or think that sex with them is going to make me change my mind about wanting surgery to become the female I am inside.
I have thought about perhaps trying to find a sugar daddy, but not just for the transition. I would rather a full-time life-long sugar daddy or sugar momma. I'm not the type to use anyone, and to me just using a sugar daddy or sugar momma only for the transitioning would be using that person. Still, if I could fall in love with the sugar daddy or sugar momma and be in a long term relationship with them, then that would be a different story.

Quote from: lilacwoman on May 13, 2010, 01:05:08 PM
if all the sugar daddies and sugar mommies cut off their allowances right now there would be an awful lot of man and women around the world wondering where their next meal was going to come from.

Yes, but what if you are already in that fragile state in the first place?

With the caveat of settling the current relationship, and acknowledging it would depend on what specifically was expected, my answer here is YES!

First, my financial situation is already on the precipice so that even affording hormones would be a big challenege - nothing to lose in that sense.

second, the prospects that i would, on my own efforts, get to the place where I could afford and save what was financially required to fully transition are bleak.

Would that make me a whore? If sex was the driving force, sure.

Do I mind being a whore? Not especially. I've heard horror stories but I've also heard accounts where the escort (or whatever) really enjoyed her work so I'll risk it.

The only thing I might say in terms of caution is that I might ask for a trial period of, say a month or so, to be sure that i was comfortable with everything.

I'd for sure do it....Being a little older and not fully transitioned is very miserable.  The longer you go, the harder it gets.  No way I'd do prostitution, but if he treats you well, and you like him, then go for it!  Your a lot safer going out on the town with him than meeting some stranger!  Your family might never understand, so what's the point in appeasing them.