My Ma says she'll support anything I'll do, including all the medical stuff, which really brightened my day, cuz she hasn't been the greatest since I came out to her. Though this conversation started out pretty good, it kinda ended on a harsh-ish note.

"But don't get ahead of yourself..its not like you'll be finished with the entire sex change until your middle aged anyways"

I don't think she meant it badly, but it kinda dented my good mood. Is that true? A lot of people seem to transition before 30, some even younger, but maybe I'm only looking at the positive? Is what she said true? I don't think i can live another 25-30 years like this..

Another question, does anyone else get scared/embarrassed at the word "sex change"? It kinda frightens me, makes me feel freak-ish.


On a side note, I already have pretty high T levels, and I'm kinda worried how this will effect me getting T, or how well it will work. I read somewhere in the past that by having weird hormone levels makes it harder to get hormone prescription from your therapist for some reason (My memory isn't the greatest for details).

1. What sort of research has your mother done on transpeople. From the sound of it she's based her comments on things she's picked up from mainstream media, since she's using the term "sex-change"

2. It's up to you when you consider your transition to be finished. Testosterone? Top surgery? Botton surgery? Some consider themselves in transition for their whole lives.

3. People who don't know much about transitioning usually assume that it's not over until you have the downstairs equipment. If you wanted bottom surgery then, yeah that would take a few years, that's probably what she thinks will take you until you're middle-aged.

4. "Sex-change" is a pretty insulting and outdated term.

5. I have no idea if high T levels would make it difficult to get hormones.

ok well I don't know what your mom thinks you are planning to do, she may be one of the people who thinks that FTM's can just 'get' penis's.. which isnt really true, surgery can get you a penis, but the results arent too good.

and middle aged is ridiculous.. I am 19, and to me fully transitioned will be, being on Testosterone and looking male, having top surgery, and having a hysterectomy.. and Im sure I will have all of that done before I'm 30.

and, the word sex change doesnt bother me too much

I don't want to sound dumb or anything, but I'm about as educated in this stuff as my mother, but having high T means there's a chance of medical condition? Do you know the name(s) of the condition(s)?

You're done with transition when you say you're done.

Yeah, I've heard people say they are still in transition after 6 years on T, with hysto and top surgery.  I scratch my head at that one, because arent' you pretty much done?

Transition is a phase I wanted over with ASAP.  For the most part I have transitioned.  As in done. Finit.  Because I look male, am perceived as male, have all of my legal documentation, top surgery, and hysto.  I'm getting lower surgery in 11 days.  Eek!  But I considered myself fully transitioned as soon as I grew a beard.

YMMV.

Jay

Quote from: Greg on June 24, 2010, 05:46:52 PM4. "Sex-change" is a pretty insulting and outdated term.

Agreed, I find the term offensive. I like sex reassignment surgery (SRS) much better. It's not so much about changing your sex but reassigning your body to the correct sex. If someone has a facial deformity and gets surgery done to correct it they don't call it a "face-change" but corrective surgery.

I don't really mind the term "sex-change" and I use it often because "sex reassignment surgery" is a moutful and no one would know what an "SRS" is.  Plus, it doesn't mean anything bad to me since I would be changing my sex to match my gender.

Quote from: Shang on June 24, 2010, 11:20:30 PM
I don't really mind the term "sex-change" and I use it often because "sex reassignment surgery" is a moutful and no one would know what an "SRS" is.  Plus, it doesn't mean anything bad to me since I would be changing my sex to match my gender.

Ditto

That doesn't work so well, though, when you make a distinction between sex and gender and you recognize that there are transgender people who are not transsexual.

I recognize that SRS will change my body's sex to match my brain's sex (which, fortuitously, aligns with my gender identity). But my body isn't me, and changing its sex isn't changing my sex.

(I recognize that others may see it differently, but it's very important to me to separate my body from my self. I realized this when I was trying to figure out what bothered me so much about the recurring question "what if you could go back and be born a normal girl without GID?" I realized that contemplating that felt quite literally like contemplating suicide, or possibly more like contemplating the possibility of my mother aborting me. If the person inhabiting my body were female, she wouldn't be me - I wouldn't exist. On the other hand, I have no problem thinking about going back and being born as myself into a male body.)

Yeah, transition ends when you want to and when you feel completed. I haven't even started T but I know I'll feel like my transition is done after hysto or top surgery, probably even before when I start lookin more masucline. I don't knw why but lately I've been looking more like a female and it's depressing.