Hello everyone. (Just joined)

Not sure if this is the right forum. If a mod wouldn't mind moving the post to somewhere else.

Well, heres my problem. Me and my girlfriend started with a little experimenting with me (male) dressing up and us kinda switching roles with her use of toys. Well, we didn't end up doing it. We were just thinking of ideas and were about to order clothing online when I started thinking. I don't want it just sexually. I want it more. Wearing the clothing to bed. Having myself cuddled with my back into her wearing like a babydoll and having her arms around me.

It's just.. Thats too much for her. For me even. I'm not sure why I am feeling this way. It bothers me. First because it's not who I want to be. Second, she doesn't want that either. I'm not sure if it's just me lying to myself or if I should do some more exploring. It just hurts her and this whole idea opened up while I have been with her the past 2 years. I have had these feelings hidden for the past 5 years. Only sexually though. But it always interested me. Now it seems like it's advanced and I am not sure how to grasp it..

My biggest concern is her. All of this is coming around because of her. I've thought of the idea of being with a guy as a female but.. it doesn't excite me at all. Actually, it bothers me. It's not what I want. What I want is to be with her. I'm just.. So confused. Need a lot of advice. Heh. Thanks for reading and hope to see some good feedback. :\

Well first do some more exploring and see how you truly feel you may just have an overactive mind and nothing maybe wrong with you or you may want to be a woman but you still like women which is becoming increasingly common now. It all depends on how you truly feel when it comes to what you want to wear and how your gf minds liking you this way. If she doesn't mind then your one lucky man/womanly man/woman but if she doesn't like where the relationship is headed and you still want to dress womanly then that relationship is history.

Thanks for the quick response. Wouldn't mind some more input from others. I hope it's just me having an overactive mind. I've ran into many occasions of doing that.

You're welcome and I always check for new forums where people need help with something. I'm what you would call a semi-admin when the admins aren't here or currently active it seems I as though I'm quick to take there place until they arrive.

Quote from: SynthiaSMS on July 09, 2010, 11:15:51 PM
You're welcome and I always check for new forums where people need help with something. I'm what you would call a semi-admin.

Hehe. Good thing. Just looking for any other ideas on my situation. But if everyone else is like you I am assuming they are gonna tell me to explore more. I'm more of the person who would suffer to be what some people would consider "normal" rather than being happy.

They would but hey it's your life and you have control over it in the end we can only list options you have the final say so.  Now I'm going to let someone else talk cause I'm taking the fun out of this. So I'll talk to later if you still have some sort issue you need help with.

Explore is right and possibly seek a counselor or knowledgeable person to guide you. You could very well just like the dressing up and role playing. There is nothing wrong with that and you would not be the only one by a long shot. It may seem like more but just be exciting because it is new at the moment. Then again it may be more. In the end the only person who can answer that is you. Introspection has it's uses. Good luck in figuring yourself out.


PS, Welcome to the forums.

You do have a good point. Goes along with the whole overthinking idea. I'll give it a shot. Continue trying it and maybe it's just me getting excited. I guess exploring is the only way to find out. Then when I do find out if it is more or if I was just excited I can figure out what I really want. Continue to fight it my entire life or be happy. Thanks for the help. Any other suggestions or comments are approved!

Hi Veight,

If I follow your post you and your GF where just having some sex games and you are both a bit unsure? Please correct me if I'm wrong . Many couples have the same issues. Many cis guys wear sexy female clothing with there equally cis-girlfriends/wives. It's perfectly normal. It's fantasy stuff. You may have had a fantasy of being penetrated by your GF, it's no big deal, it doesn't mean you are gay or TG. If you look up Pegging on Wiki you will find that anal sex for guys with there girls isn't unusual. But if either of you don't want to go there don't.

You can both explore some of these issues further if you want a bit of FemDom but not going "to  far" with stuff like painting/polishing her toe nails. Plaiting her hair. It's fun and sexy for both of you.  One that is fun is shampooing and styling each others pubes. Just make sure the hair dryer isn't too hot. And be very careful were each of you shave

If you find you are getting more and more feminine desires then maybe that is time to talk to someone. Otherwise enjoy each other and be open about it.

It's Saturday night in Australia and I bet I could not count how many perfectly heterosexual men are wearing garter belts and stockings. Nothing wrong with that either.

Cindy

It's Only Kinky the First Time.
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