So I changed my name to Kimberly on my facebook, but I've only told like three friends, other than my sisters, that I'm trans. My gender says female too. A bunch of friends wished me a happy birthday yesterday but none of them said anything about my name! At first I was like omg awesome but now I'm wondering why. Do you think that everyone is assuming I'm trans or maybe they think it's just a gay thing? Everyone I know knows me as a gay male but most don't know I'm trans. Idk if this has a point, but I've been thinking about it all day yesterday and today. Thought I'd ask. haha

your friends probably know you better than you think they do

That makes me feel really good haha. I mean my bestie and sisters weren't surprised. They all said it made a lot of sense and one of my sisters said she never really thought of me as a boy anyways. Haha.

I made a Facebook slip-up a little while ago - I changed my gender to 'female' and unticked the box saying 'show my gender in my profile'. I only realised weeks later that this is entirely arbitrary, as my news feed had changed from ".. has changed their profile picture" to ".. has changed her profile picture". Nobody said a thing, and I flicked it back to a gender-free profile, however I now gather that slip-up only served as confirmation of some already quite set-in suspicions amongst some of my friends.

I'm not yet at the stage where I have a new name for myself, but I'm starting to believe what FairyGirl said too. Many people probably think less of it.

Aww you should've left it haha! We're all ready at different times And I guess I'm more intrusive than most people. If one of my friends changed their name and gender I would be so curious. Maybe most of them either assume or are just too polite to ask. Which feels good! This sounds like it'll be easier than I thought! Yay

You would be amazed at how many of your friends may end up saying "I knew it was something like that" when you finally do tell them. I know for me personally, I was actually surprised at how many people in my life took the news like it was nothing at all, kind of like, "ok, tell me something I didn't already know."

They could also just think it's some sort of cross-dressing or drag thing too. Others might also not say anything because they just don't honestly know what to say, and don't want to offend you.

Since you are seeing a therapist, maybe you should just come out?

I did that myself on FB. I had a "male" page before my "girl" page and wrote a long note on my boy page about being trans and requested that everyone read it then add my "new" page to stay in touch. Once everyone was on board, I deleted the boy page and that was it. I've been April ever since. Of course when it came to family not on facebook I just told them, but amazingly, nearly all of them have been completely ok with it.

Hey, would you want to friend me on FB? That would be awesome =]

~April

http://www.facebook.com/#!/profile.php?id=1280043694 go ahead and add me April! I'd love to have you.

And I'm thinking of writing a note and having it out there, when I'm closer to HRT and stuff. As of now, I don't look female at all, so it's all in baby steps for me.

Sometimes friends just don't pay attention though, too.  Or they knew you lot better than you think they do.  I changed my name on there to Gabriel de *insert great-grandma's last name* and my sister hasn't said a thing about it, though she more-or-less knows and doesn't have a problem.  My friends don't care from I can see, and I've been told it's a very "poetic" name by some.  I think the only ones I'm waiting for to go "wait a minute..." are the ones I haven't told I'm trans.

I'm glad to see that your friends and family haven't gotten in a huff over this.

Aww. Thanks I'm glad it hasn't caused any problems either. I was sure when I changed my name I would get messages and texts saying wtf! One girl did ask, because I had changed it to something else first, but she just asked why I kept changing it. I texted her and told her and she was like that's awesome congrats good luck etc. So that was nice.

  I bet, we need more people like that running around.

That is similar to the response I got from several people too, "so glad you are happy, good luck" that sort of thing. Even people that I thought might have a problem with it have been pretty accepting, or at least tolerant and respectful enough not to give me grief. =]

I had already came out to everyone on my FB before I changed my name over so it was a complete non event.

I've just set up a new facebook page under my new (legal!!!! wooot!...sorry still excited by that fact) name, and have been using it as an opportunity to tell friends that I don't really see that often...no one's batted an eyelid.

Being a bit of a diva, I had to make sure my public "coming out" was some sort of an event lol even if only in my own mind! Hahahaha

One interesting aspect of this, if you have followed the recent news, is that facebook seems to use your gender when you originally registered for the account, to control any legal aspects relating to taste and decency and other social issues which may arise.

For this reason I think that maybe setting up a new account may be the better option.

Thankfully as I was all done and dusted before the net even became a glimmer in anyone's eyes I've never had to face the issue.

I changed my gender on FB some time before I wound up creating a second account. Now that some time has passed, I've deleted the first account.

Not long after the original change, a Freemason who knows me well and what I'm doing brought to my attention that email notifications had apparently been outing me for some time.

When I joined Facebook I was already into RLE.  So it was easy.  And evena couple of my children are no my friends list.

Quote from: andthenwekisss on July 17, 2010, 05:16:06 PM
http://www.facebook.com/#!/profile.php?id=1280043694 go ahead and add me April! I'd love to have you.

And I'm thinking of writing a note and having it out there, when I'm closer to HRT and stuff. As of now, I don't look female at all, so it's all in baby steps for me.

It was that very slip up that outed them to about 6 or so people and resulted in me finding out about them

Quote from: AprilDawn on July 17, 2010, 06:01:56 PM
Being a bit of a diva, I had to make sure my public "coming out" was some sort of an event lol even if only in my own mind! Hahahaha

haha I'm considering making some sort of statement. I just have to plan it out carefully. Thanks for the responses everyone!

Personally, I don't get much embarrassed to tell a friend (usually female) that I have transgender tendencies. "Well, that's not surprising!" -- that's the typical answer I always get. And as people love to gossip, I don't actually need to tell every single friend about my gender identity!

I suppose it is very necessary and important tell people that "I identify myself as female" -- that will win me trust and acceptance from my female friends. As long as I do well in anything else by working hard and studying hard, most people really won't say much on me for being transgender!