I must say, I can really relate to you pamshaw.
While I didn't like most aspects of my previous life as a male, I feel as though the aspects that I didn't mind, and even liked have followed me now that I am female, and the aspects I did not like are behind me.
Self Reflection, counselling and hormones, as well as a willingness to put myself out there and conquer my own personal fears has only made me that much stronger!
I am now moving out from my parents into my own apartment, and have a brand new job which starts this monday coming (the 26th) it is an amazing feeling to of walked into a group interview, passed totally as female, and actually get the job too.
I have so much more confidence, and it actually feels right when I walk down the street, I don't feel embarrassed.
Well, as of this Sunday (25th) I will be in Super Stealth Mode, basically no one around me at all will know that I was born male (I have moved to the other side of the state I live in)
I'm so excited and nervous and worried and anxious about it all... I suppose it helps I am on anti anxiety medication along with my wonder pills (HRT)