Sorry in advance for the ranting.
You might remember me as the guy who:
- wanted opinions on the issue of not disclosing to people immediately
- thought that being openly trans in high school was a good idea
- was having serious problems with the housing staff at school
- OR, you might not remember me at all
To clear one thing up, after thinking about it a lot I decided that I didn't want to come out as trans immediately. I wanted to have some time to get to know people before they could make judgements about me just because I'm trans. In theory, this plan is a lot easier than my school is making it.
Currently, the housing lady has put me on a women's floor in a room by myself (I'm under the impression that the only reason that I have a room by myself is because we made it pretty clear that if she went with her original plan and asked around for a girl who would be comfortable rooming with me we were going to sue the school for outing me to someone without permission), is going to make me use the women's restrooms, and sent my birth name out in a school directory to 300 other students without giving me the option of not being in the directory.
The woman in charge of housing refuses to talk to anyone from TYFA, and instead has decided to have a meeting with someone from my youth group who even suggested that she let the TYFA people talk, as he felt that they were far more qualified to do training. Despite the fact that there is no school policy stopping her from putting the name I use on the class rosters, she refuses to do so until my name is legally changed (he actually had to talk her into using the right name when talking to other people about me, and someone else from my youth group had to tell her to stop using female pronouns for me). So, even though she assured me that I could disclose to people at my own pace she has decided that it's a good idea to put me in a position where it is very obvious that I am trans, and where I'll have to out myself to all of my teachers if I want to be addressed correctly.
The best part is, one of the reasons she gave for putting me on a women's floor is that parents might be concerned that I'm engaging in some sort of sexual activities with their son's (because there's obviously no way that I might be attracted to women
). The guy from my youth group asked what they do when two gay students are roomed together. As it turns out, they have policies for that, but
obviously these policies won't work because I'm
trans (which
apparently makes her uncomfortable she's worried will make parents uncomfortable.)
Has anyone else had to deal with anything this stupid in high school? Any advice?
Also, if my paperwork goes through correctly, my name and sex on my birth certificate will be changed by the end of August. At the point can she legally make me use women's restrooms and housing?
