Too many new people are coming to leave.  I don't plan on it, but you never know.  But someone has to be here for all those who follow.

Maybe taking a break for a few weeks (months? years?) & returning afterward is all we need.

Quote from: Valentina on May 22, 2010, 06:36:33 PM
Maybe taking a break for a few weeks (months? years?) & returning afterward is all we need.

I think that is probably right. In my case the postop break was 25 years! During which time I got hitched, moved home twice, fostered a child, changed my job three or four times and pretty well did anything and everything that a woman does in her life.

But I'm back here now for better or worse, and enjoying being one of the elder stateswomen.

I'm kinda feelin like those that have moved on. I kinda don't want anything to do with ''Trans'' people or forums or organizations that are LGBT. I kinda just wanna be a regular woman  not  A Post op or anything like that. i also find some of the girls here not very friendly and clicky and there's one person who is kinda bitchy here and annoying, those people make me not wanna come back here. But like most others come here to help others who are starting out or just about to have surgery and share my story so others can learn something from my experience.

Quote from: TheDutchess on August 01, 2010, 03:18:25 PM
I'm kinda feelin like those that have moved on. I kinda don't want anything to do with ''Trans'' people or forums or organizations that are LGBT. I kinda just wanna be a regular woman  not  A Post op or anything like that.

That's the way I've felt all along since the beginning of my transition which is why I don't post my pics, hang out or get involved with Pride, etc.  I don't mean to sound elitist or to slight other trans people, it's just that I do not nor have I ever wanted to be known as the "chick who used to be a dude".  To me there is a stigma attached to it that can be used against you--I know because I've experienced this.  Having said that, as I approach my date, my respect and admiration for those just starting and those struggling to meet their goals has grown immensely and I would kind of like to hang around and offer assistance to those people if I can. 

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...there's one person who is kinda bitchy here and annoying, those people make me not wanna come back here.

You're not talking about me, are you? 

Quote from: Kristyn on August 01, 2010, 03:40:51 PM
That's the way I've felt all along since the beginning of my transition which is why I don't post my pics, hang out or get involved with Pride, etc.  I don't mean to sound elitist or to slight other trans people, it's just that I do not nor have I ever wanted to be known as the "chick who used to be a dude".  To me there is a stigma attached to it that can be used against you--I know because I've experienced this.  Having said that, as I approach my date, my respect and admiration for those just starting and those struggling to meet their goals has grown immensely and I would kind of like to hang around and offer assistance to those people if I can. 



You're not talking about me, are you? 

I've never gone to a single pride . I don't eve post my pics on anything LGBT Related web-site anymore. I agree with you being known as ''the chick who had a dick'' people would never let that down. you could be blackmailed at work.


No, your actually someone  who talks to me and gives me great advice .

Here there is a predominance of ladies who are post-op, but I've noticed it on other sites with guys as well.  They pop in immediately post-op, tell how the ordeal went, then disappear.  There is really no info about the post-op period and healing that I can find.  Most accounts stop after the guys go home from wherever they had surgery.

I'll probably disappear as well, not because I don't find y'all nice people, but because, like many, I don't identify as trans.  I identify as male.  And I just want to live my life as a regular guy. 

And I thank everyone here for sharing their experiences with me and helping me throught my transition.


Jay

Quote from: TheDutchess on August 01, 2010, 03:45:27 PM




No, your actually someone  who talks to me and gives me great advice .

Awwwww.  Thank you!  I'm touched! 

I come back from time to time.  Not sure why really, maybe it's because I like to bug the crap out of Tekla, who knows.

For TS, transition is only the journey to their destination, and Susan's is one of the vehicles many use to get there.  Once there, the vehicle is often no longer needed.  I firmly believe that for a TS to be truly successful they need to leave places like Susan's behind.  Some may think that's cruel and selfish, maybe it is, but I/we have lives to live.

For me it was and still is my job, setting up our new home with my guy, getting to know his family and planning our wedding and so on...  We don't transition to be TS we transition to the person we were born to be.

It's always nice to swing by the old neighbourhood from time to time, but as with everything else, neighbourhoods change and with each visit there are fewer and fewer familiar faces to wave to.

-={LR}=-

Well Kristyn & Giselle what ever you decide to do it's your choice but if you were to leave just want you to know you've helped me tremendously! 

Quote from: Jessica.C on August 01, 2010, 06:06:37 PM
Well Kristyn & Giselle what ever you decide to do it's your choice but if you were to leave just want you to know you've helped me tremendously! 

Thanks Jess.  Like I said, I probably will stick around and offer advice to those who request it.  Throughout all this, there was much I had learned on my own through trial and error and I can understand just how frustrating this whole process can be from time to time.  I would like to give something back to this community.   

Wow Dee,
I guess I will stay away from those Houston groups! I just noticed, your surgery date is my bday! I will be thinking of you on that day.

Quote from: Ladyrider on August 01, 2010, 04:59:03 PMFor TS, transition is only the journey to their destination, and Susan's is one of the vehicles many use to get there.  Once there, the vehicle is often no longer needed.  I firmly believe that for a TS to be truly successful they need to leave places like Susan's behind.  Some may think that's cruel and selfish, maybe it is, but I/we have lives to live.

For me it was and still is my job, setting up our new home with my guy, getting to know his family and planning our wedding and so on...  We don't transition to be TS we transition to the person we were born to be.

It's always nice to swing by the old neighbourhood from time to time, but as with everything else, neighbourhoods change and with each visit there are fewer and fewer familiar faces to wave to.

This pretty much nails it for me too. My transition is over and I'm certainly no longer transsexual or trans anything, I am simply the woman I was born to be. More and more I feel out of place here, but as LR so eloquently put it, that's as it should be.

I'm still hanging agound,  i don't post that often, but I still check out the boards a few times a week. 

Beni

Quote from: Jessica.C on August 01, 2010, 06:06:37 PM
Well Kristyn & Giselle what ever you decide to do it's your choice but if you were to leave just want you to know you've helped me tremendously! 

Thank's Jess . I plan on staying around, helping others out.

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Quote from: Dee_pntx on August 01, 2010, 09:25:54 PM
That's pretty much my POV and attitude too.  I've transitioned fully, I'm just watching the clock tick down to completion, to be finally made whole.  That's all I lack.  After my surgery I fully intend to discard any and all trans labels as they simply will not apply to me.

If someone takes issue with that, so be it.  It's my life.

NAILED IT!! This is pretty much my attitude right now.

Quote from: Valeriedances on August 02, 2010, 12:39:52 PM
I'm still around but I haven't been posting lately. I've been logging in to check on those whose surgeries are nearing or have just past, to cheer them and celebrate, even if quietly to myself.

Now that I am well into my healing I've started exploring dating/going out to clubs, so not alot to post about other than some first experiences.

Give us the goods, girl!  We're all anxious to hear about your experiences.    We rarely hear too much about those first post-op experiences around here. 

wow Valerie, it's hard to believe it's been 3 1/2 months for you already! Glad to hear you're doing well 

I did want to add to my previous post I've made some very good friends here, and even if I don't post as much I'll stay in touch. I've very thankful for this place

This appears to be the case across most forums. Once the job is complete then the support of others seems less important. It is just us moving on, I guess.

Caroline

I came to Susan's as a result of several things that happened around me, about the same time.  One a documentary on 'Jazz' that I saw, obtaining my birth certificate and getting my health back on track.  Yes, I think of withdrawing and going back to being 'a house wife in suburbia' or go back into the 'woodwork' why?

Because life in the woodwork was quite, which involved, working, studying, moving, changing jobs, falling in love and having ones heart broken, being miserable and losing ones way and spending time with friends, and family.  However at the moment while out of the woodwork, so to speak, my life seems to be turned upside down I'm not at peace, I'm reading stories of joy and sadness at Susan's which causes me to cheer and cry and at the same time I'm trying to get my birth certificate which, is causing me grief and sadness no end and making me face things that I have not seen or dealt with in 21 years.

So what will I do? I will continue for the time being offering some advice or opinions and hopefully someone in the community will say 'that's the answer' to my problem or question and will then be able to move on and sometime in the future they will pass on what they learned from me and they will pass that knowledge onto others and as such, life will go on.

I will eventually fade away quietly, occasionally coming back for a visit, why? Because Susan's is now a part of my life.

Kind regards
Sarah B

Lotta great responses, many that were spot on in expressing my sentiments.