The other day I was hanging out with my bestie and she said that when I made certain faces that I look like a ->-bleeped-<-.She said that I had womanish features.We sometimes try to insult each other while telling the truth in a joking manner if that makes sense.She thought I was going to get insulted but even though I don't like the term "->-bleeped-<-" it made me feel good because If I look like a ->-bleeped-<- now I'll hopefully look even better once hrt comes into play.She also made a joke about me being gender confused, the funny thing is she hit the nail right on the head and didn't even know it.

Hi Tori319

You consider the possibility that she does know something.  Maybe somehow or sometime later ask her pertinent questions about people who change?

It might give you food for thought.  Take care and best wishes.

Kind regards
Sarah B

So you haven't told her anything yet?

If she is your bestie as friends, why not tell her? If she is in a boy girl relationship friendship, with you,  it will be more difficult.

But if you hang out together as besties, she may have caught on to some cues. A friend worth having methinks.

Cindy

tell her if your  ready  cant put the jeenie back in the bottle once you open it   

Only you can decide if you feel comfortable telling her your plans, but if you do you might be surprised at the reaction.

I've always thought I presented as a fairly manly man (overcompensating much? LOL) so admitting my plans (HRT, eventual SRS) to anyone other than my wife was SCARY. I don't look even slightly feminine (full beard+extra weight at the moment!) which I believe made it extra difficult to talk about for me.

I've since spoken to two female friends about it, and both were more than accepting - I would actually say excited. One even told me that she was sure I would be a diva, based on previous shopping experiences with me!

I have to say, having people to talk to about it IRL (in real life) is most comforting - albeit embarrassing at first (I embarrass easily though!)

Best of Luck,
-Gwen

Do you live part time at all?  Even when no one is around?  When I was a young college student, I found that I was not always as successful at concealing my part time life as I thought.

For example, in two different living situations, it turned out that house mates were able to see into my private room.  One was a hole in the wall I never was able to find, and the other was a vantage point on a nearby hill that allowed them to look over my curtains.  So they actually saw how I lived at home.

Another time, I woke up late for class after a night of drinking and threw on some clothes and rushed to school.  I arrived just in time, and when the professor commented in disgust that I looked like I was about to go before the draft board, I realized I still had my makeup on.

Another time a friend commented on some light traces of makeup that I missed when removing it.  I mean, I was putting makeup on and taking it off three times a day back then.  It was hard not to make a mistake at some point.  It's kind of ironic that I don't even wear makeup anymore.

My teens were back in the 1960's before anybody knew about such stuff but apparently my gender was in doubt from childhood onward. By the time I was in college more people figured I was a girl than those who "bought the boy act".

Needless to say it made transition easy because after transition no one suspected a thing.

Fret not....

It's working well enough for her...

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I don't live part time but I want to be on hrt before I tell her anything.

Quote from: tori319 on August 06, 2010, 12:54:02 AM
The other day I was hanging out with my bestie and she said that when I made certain faces that I look like a ->-bleeped-<-.She said that I had womanish features.We sometimes try to insult each other while telling the truth in a joking manner if that makes sense.She thought I was going to get insulted but even though I don't like the term "->-bleeped-<-" it made me feel good because If I look like a ->-bleeped-<- now I'll hopefully look even better once hrt comes into play.She also made a joke about me being gender confused, the funny thing is she hit the nail right on the head and didn't even know it.

that's pretty interesting, because i wonder how you could look like a "->-bleeped-<-" if you haven't started transition yet, but i would take that as a compliment, even if it is deragatory. you could have feminine features, but "->-bleeped-<-" is an interesting choice in words.

Quote from: Maylene on August 06, 2010, 07:42:53 PM
that's pretty interesting, because i wonder how you could look like a "->-bleeped-<-" if you haven't started transition yet, but i would take that as a compliment, even if it is deragatory. you could have feminine features, but "->-bleeped-<-" is an interesting choice in words.

Like said I didn't like the word but the implication of the word made it hard for me to be offended,but yeah the word was very unnecessary.

Quote from: tori319 on August 06, 2010, 01:38:11 PM
I don't live part time but I want to be on hrt before I tell her anything.

it might be pretty easy for her to find out for herself once you get to that point. i don't think it matters how you tell her, or if she finds out for herself though. you should stick to what works best for you.

Well girl, a lot of us would have loved to start where you are now. If your looks are so feminine to start with the thought of HRT doing its magic on you is wonderful and probably very realistic. As far as opening up to your best, you can only know what that feels like, and from what I am hearing you are not ready. It will all work out just fine and believe me, it is far better to weigh your thoughts and give it some time then rush to conclusions to later scramble to unscramble